Man Alive

By Shana JamesSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Philosophy Sexuality

Man Alive episodes

January 24, 2019 Heal From an Abusive Past – Lucas Mack

Joy and hope can be a challenge to maintain when you’ve had a traumatic past, especially during stress or life transitions. Lucas Mack reminds us that healing is always possible!

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/heal-from-abuse-lucas-mack.mp3

Show notes

It’s hard enough to navigate life’s challenges when you received a strong foundation of love and care growing up.

When you didn’t receive that, everything from ordinary situations to stressful situations can be more challenging and painful.

Most of the men I meet and work with have experienced some degree of being misunderstood, scolded, teased or bullied as a child.

It may not be considered “abuse” but being told to suck it up, or to “be a man” is traumatic to our young selves, and lives on in your nervous system, into adulthood.

Being teased or having a family where you have to “be good to be loved” is also a kind of trauma.

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Lucas Mack, grew up in an abusive home and has overcome an incredible amount of pain. Lucas is an inspirational speaker and author who is helping men heal. He and I had a conversation about how he healed and how healing is possible for everyone.

In this conversation we discussed:

* How to start healing from past abuse and trauma* The importance of having people in your life who won’t judge you* What facing your deepest fears can free you from and make possible * The truth about what LOVE is* Lucas’ story of healing and his hope for you and everyone

Lucas is a stellar human being and a powerful example of a man who found hope and love as a result of ensuring serious pain. We know you can too.

Links:

Lucas Mack

Shana‘s Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women

Bio:

Lucas Mack works with people who are looking for healing, forgiveness, rest, balance, purpose and peace in their lives by reconnecting them to an understanding of the true definition of love and the power it brings, by giving them personal empowerment, a clear vision, purposeful direction and an ability to give back.

Growing up in an abusive home where fear and confusion ruled his life, he’s been able to break the cycle and find true healing. He learned that love gives truth permission to come forth resulting in personal freedom, and the reason we aren’t free is because we don’t know what true love is.

He leads people to experience change in themselves in order for them to impact the world, through spiritual reconnection, personal healing, and legacy building.

45 min
January 24, 2019 #83: Heal From an Abusive Past
Joy and hope can be a challenge to maintain when you've had a traumatic past, especially during stress or life transitions. Lucas Mack reminds us that healing is always possible!
45 min
January 17, 2019 Why Men in Positions of Power are Prone to Erectile Dysfunction – Shari James

Erectile dysfunction is something many men experience but few men talk about. In this episode you’ll learn about a natural support for getting help with ED.

http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/erectile-dysfunction-shari.mp3

Show notes

If you’ve ever experienced Erectile dysfunction I imagine you’ve had moments of feeling embarrassed, defeated or even hopeless.

And with the conditioning boys and men get to “suck it up” and “deal with it” on your own, it can be something you try to handle alone, rather than reaching out for support.

You may have tried using pills to solve your problem, but found they don’t work or the side-effects are nearly as bad your original struggle, or there’s still some left-over emotional or relational baggage to sort through.

Working with men of all ages I’ve seen many men in mid-life go through physical and emotional changes that are confusing.

What turned you on when you were young is NOT the same as what turns you on in mid or later life.

Men tend to actually need MORE connection and emotional safety during sex in mid and later life than when they’re young.

I am thrilled to bring you a Man Alive podcast conversation today with an amazing woman Shari James (yes we have almost the same name!). Shari is a registered nurse and tantra practitioner who has create a system to support men with ED in a natural way.

In this conversation we discussed:

* Why ED is especially common for men in positions of power or great responsibility* The 5 branches of Shari’s sexual system to create “an erection resurrection“* How men can release experiences from their youth that catch up with them (similar to credit card debt) * What happens to men between the ages of 38 and 42 that can create challenges with sex and intimacy* The common mistake men make with their circulatory systems that keep it from supporting your sex life

I love joining forces with another woman who loves men and wants to support you!

Links:

Shari James

Shana‘s Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women

Bio:

Shari James, RN has taken the mystery out of Erectile Dysfunction (ED) and developed a new holistic approach to men’s sexual health and performance. The BE FIRM: ED Blueprint (TM) is a drug-free solution to end the struggle with Erectile Dysfunction. Her coaching program allows her to freely intuit and collaborate with clients to customize, create and build a blueprint for their peak pleasure and performance.

Borrowing from Shari’s expertise as a registered nurse, practitioner of the five elements of Chinese Medicine, and Mastery of Tantra, The BE FIRM: ED Blueprint is a blend of traditional Western medicine and Eastern healing practices which provides a grounded,
39 min
January 17, 2019 #82: Why Men in positions of power are prone to Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction is something many men experience but few men talk about. In this episode you'll learn about a natural support for getting help with ED.
39 min
January 11, 2019 Million Dollar Influence – Aaron Keith Hawkins

The ability to influence others is at the root of your success and satisfaction in work and relationships. You don’t have to be born an “influential person.” Influence is a skill that can be learned!
http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/influence-Hawkins.mp3
Show notes
What does it take to be an influencer — to be a man people listen to, trust and respect?
How do you lose influence? And are you already without even realizing it?
If you find yourself disappointed or unsatisfied in the realms of love or leadership, learning the skill of influence will allow you create more connection, collaboration, passion, excitement…
From the moment you walk into a room you are either positively or negatively influencing people. Aaron Keith Hawkins (of the Unbreakable Success Podcast) and I did a joint podcast episode where we discuss how to learn and develop the skill of INFLUENCE.
We both know you don’t have to be born as an influential person because we have each taught many people to communicate and interact in ways that are more powerful and influential!
In this Man Alive Podcast conversation we covered:

* Aaron’s four biggest reasons people fail at influence
* Why influence is both subtle and obvious at the same time
* The invisible realm of influence –– where trust and respect are built
* How understanding people’s basic needs allows you to have more influence
* What to do when you’re not influencing people in the ways you want

Let us know what you think and after listening check out Aaron’s book, Million Dollar Influence!
Links:
Aaron Keith Hawkins
Aaron’s Million Dollar Influence book
Shana‘s Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women
Bio:
Aaron Keith Hawkins is an author, coach and professional speaker on Relationships and Influence.
He’s an internationally recognized podcast host, and has been featured as a subject matter expert on dozens of podcasts, radio shows, and other media outlets.
Aaron has over two decades of leadership experience as a law enforcement executive, and has been teaching, coaching and speaking since the 1990’s. He holds a Master’s Degree in Administrative Leadership with a focus on Professional Coaching, is a certified NLP Practitioner, and a proud alumnus of the invitation-only FBI National Academy where he engaged in advanced leadership studies alongside delegates from dozens of countries.
His greatest education has come from life, fatherhood, and his journey of marriage to his best friend and wife, Cathy, with whom he’s been sharing life since 1996.
His book, Million Dollar Influence, gives you actionable and research-backed insights to create life-changing connection, trust, and impact in your business and life. Grab your copy today, and share with a friend.

54 min
January 11, 2019 #81: Million Dollar Influence
The ability to influence others is at the root of your success and satisfaction in work and relationships. You don't have to be born an "influential person." Influence is a skill that can be learned!
54 min
December 26, 2018 Emotional Cross-Fit for More Power, Freedom and Love – Dan Doty

These days the pressures of life, paired with cultural expectations, create stress and suffering for men. Dan Doty leads men to become freer, more powerful and have more love in their lives with this one simple practice.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/power-freedom-love-doty.mp3
Show notes
As the world speeds up, responsibilities and commitments pile higher. Every day life is full of challenges — physical, family, relationship and sex, work, money…each on its own can be enough to cause you to feel stressed.
On top of this, the holidays can be more overwhelming from being in close quarters with family members, navigating extra events and finances with a romantic partner, or missing a partner you’ve lost or not yet found.
If you don’t have a healthy way to express your emotions about all of this they can wreak havoc on your life and those you love. They either come out as an attack on others, or turn inward as an attack on yourself.
Today’s Man Alive Podcast guest Dan Doty is the founder of Evry Man, a company that brings men together to exercise their emotions so they can lead more successful, fulfilling lives. He has spent thousands of hours with men and knows how painful it can be to feel isolated or unsafe to share about your challenges, desires and pain.
Too many men were raised to be the rock, the hero and the one who has it together ALL the time. Dan is now bringing men together to learn a simple practice that allows men to feel more alive, connected and free!
In our podcast conversation we discussed:

* The three steps to more easily access vulnerability
* How men can support each other to dissolve the shame they hold about being emotional
* What integrating emotions, rather than avoiding them is like — and the benefits this brings you
* The rocket fuel emotions can be when you allow them to source your missions and actions
* The potential for love and connection that is deeper, more supportive and more inspiring than you may even be able to imagine

Dan is a powerful example of a strong man who allows himself to be vulnerable and deeply touched by people and situations. It has created a fulfilling and inspiring life for him and can for you too!
Links:
Evryman
Men’s Health article
Shana‘s Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women
Bio:
Dan is the CEO and co-founder of Evryman, a company that brings men together to exercise their emotions so they can lead more successful, fulfilling lives. His previous work includes producing and directing outdoor-based tv and film, teaching in a public high school in the Bronx, and spending 600 days in the wild as a wilderness therapy guide for disadvantaged and at-risk young men. Dan has appeared on the Today Show, has been a guest on the acclaimed Joe Rogan podcast and has been featured twice in Men’s Health magazine.

39 min
December 26, 2018 #80: Emotional Cross-Fit for More Power, Freedom and Love
These days the pressures of life, paired with cultural expectations, create stress and suffering for men. Dan Doty leads men to become freer, more powerful and have more love in their lives with this one simple practice.
39 min
December 20, 2018 Believe in Love After Loss
When a relationship falls apart, or a loved one passes away, it is hard to open your heart again. This couple is a hopeful example of finding love after loss and they teach others how to open to love again.
50 min
December 12, 2018 Find Your Leadership Blindspots Before They Compromise Your Effectiveness – Russ Elliot

You can lead from any position — as a CEO, manager or employee. Learn surprising ways to be a more effective leader, rather than unknowingly lose power and respect at work.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/Leadership-Russ.mp3
Show notes
In any position at work (or really in any area of your life) you can influence others and be a leader.
As a leader, one of the most important aspects of your success is understanding the impact you have on people.
The impact you have, that you’re unaware of having, is what we call leadership blind spots.
It’s normal to have blind spots. We all do. It’s your willingness to be conscious of them that will keep your leadership evolving, rather than devolving.
Today’s Man Alive Podcast is with an Organizational Culture expert who has been in the field for more than 30 years. Russ Elliot has powerful wisdom about how you can be a more effective leader and how to implement a culture at work that benefits not only an organization’s bottom line, but the people who work there!
In this conversation we discussed…

* Common blind spots leaders discover when they get honest feedback
* Why it’s so important for leaders to understand their unintentional impact
* How to start bringing Conscious Culture to your organization and the benefits you’ll see
* The power of finding your “leadership purpose” and “individual leadership style,” in any role at work
* Google’s research on what makes teams most effective

As I continue to explore the overlap between leadership and love I find this episode particularly important. Similar blind spots often show up in both our personal and professional relationships. In this episode you’ll gain a window into what you may not be seeing, in both realms.
Links:
Conscious Culture Group
Shana‘s Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women
Bio:
Russ Elliot, an expert on organizational culture, is the founder of the Conscious Culture Group, a consulting and executive coaching company committed to building sustainable and effective intentional cultures. Working closely with leaders, Russ partners with forward-thinking organizations to identify and eliminate gaps between the leadership’s vision of culture and the employee experience, thereby creating high engagement through conscious culture.
Russ has 30+ years of experience in HR and business, guiding leaders internally and externally through their leadership challenges. While serving as a SVP HR Director, his organization was recognized as a Best Place to Work in Silicon Valley and one of the top 40 banks to work for in the nation.
Russ is on the faculty of UC Berkeley extension, Center for Creative Leadership, Global Institute of Leadership Development and Women in Leadership. Russ’ articles have been published in national HR magazines and he has been interviewed as an HR/culture expert for national HR articles. Russ holds a BS in Business and an MA in HR and serves as a consultant, executive coach, educator, trainer and speaker.
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