Married After Kids

Need some ideas to help make military life a little easier? Want to know how to keep the important parts of your identity (and values!) alive? My guest this week is seasoned military spouse Ali Simon. As a Navy FTS wife, mom, and teacher-turned-contractor, she has learned a thing or two along the way, and she’s joining me to talk more about her journey. In this episode, Ali dives into the difference between active and reserve duty (and how she transitioned between the two), she gives her BEST advice to prioritize the parts of your identity that matter MOST, and her TOP 2 tips to help any milspos out there who are struggling with the challenges of being Married to Military.

We’re exploring:

• Married to Military 101: GS Jobs
• Why Ali struggled to balance her teaching career with military life—and the #1 thing that helped her through 
• What she believes is the new path for working military spouses 
• Why doing THIS can help make your marriage so much easier!
• And much more!

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What kinds of things do you look forward to? What makes you excited to wake up in the morning? These things are an important part of your identity—but many military spouses struggle to come up with them! Can you relate? In this episode, I’m diving into why it’s so important to prioritize the other parts of your identity (beyond your career!) that make YOU feel good, and my TOP TIPS to help fill your cup when it starts to get low!

I’m exploring:

• Married to Military 101: Soldiers and Sailors Relief Act (SSRA)
• How being Married to Military impacts ALL parts of your identity

• A visualization activity to help you identify what is MOST important to your identity—and get your needs met!

• How to start the conversation with your spouse to keep your cup full (especially during deployment)
• And much more!

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Having one active duty spouse is hard, but what about when both spouses are in the military? My guest today is Padgy Soltis, a mom, Marine, and author of the children's book “Volveré De Nuevo - I Will Come Back." She's been navigating the challenges of the dual military lifestyle since meeting her husband (who's also in the Marines) and adding two young kids to the mix. In this episode, Padgy shares how to keep close bonds when you or your spouse are deployed, the small ways to make a BIG impact on your kids when you're away, and why she's made the decision to exit the military after 11 years.

We're exploring:

• Why building a strong community is CRUCIAL when you’re dual military with kids
• The positive ways they've been impacted by the military
• Padgy’s TOP advice for any dual military couples out there
• Why they set boundaries for their quality time (and stick to them!)
• How her experiences inspired her to write “Volveré De Nuevo - I Will Come Back” - plus, a special reading by Padgy!
• And much more!

Connect with Padgy Soltis!

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/padgyyyy/

Get your copy of “Volveré De Nuevo - I Will Come Back” by Padgy Soltis: https://www.amazon.com/Volveré-Nuevo-Will-Come-Back/dp/1736768425

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Imagine having the life and career you desire, while also being a supportive military spouse. You CAN have it all, and my guest this week—career coach, CEO, podcast host, and military spouse, Danielle Cobo—shares her amazing advice to help you achieve it! In this episode, we dive into what it takes to stay supportive in a military relationship, why resentment should be talked about more (because it is SO common!), and Danielle’s TOP TIPS to help YOU reach your career potential as a military spouse!

We’re exploring:

• Married to MIlitary 101: Bootcamp
• The sacrifices both Danielle and her husband were willing to make for their dreams
• All about her VIRAL Christmas card 
• How you can find the BEST version of yourself during deployment
• A simple and easy way to shift your mindset 
• The POWER of connecting to the military spouse community
• And so much more!

Connect with Danielle:

Check out her podcast “Dream Job with Danielle Cobo” wherever you stream your podcasts!

Instagram: www.instagram.com/TheDanielleCobo

Facebook: www.facebook.com/TheDanielleCobo

Good Morning America article on The Cobo’s viral Christmas card: https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/family/story/mom-edits-christmas-card-photo-include-military-husband-67490447

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you want to know more about making the transition out of the military easier, this episode is for you! I’m digging deeper into this topic with my special guest and fellow military psychologist, Dr. Mardi Smith. Mardi has worked specifically with both active duty and veterans since 2009, and she has TONS of amazing advice to share with you to make retiring from the military as easy as possible! Tune in to hear the MOST common theme among people about to retire from the military, how to prepare for the challenges that arise, and her BEST tips to make your relationship a priority as you move on to the next phase of your lives together. 

We’re exploring:

• Married to Military 101: Military disability
• Why doing THIS will help your retirement be more successful
• Overcoming the struggles of transitioning to day-to-day normalcy
• What Mardi believes EVERY military spouse should do during retirement
• Her #1 tip for military couples preparing for transitions
• And so much more!

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Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Retiring from the military is a BIG milestone that can have an even BIGGER impact on you and your spouse's lives. Want to know how to prepare for this inevitable event? It's never too early to start thinking about it! In this episode, I'm digging into what to expect when your spouse retires, how to take care of yourself as you go through it, and my TOP TIPS to help make the transition to civilian life as smooth as possible. 

I'm exploring: 

• Married to Military 101: Veteran Transition Assistance Program (TAP)
• What the research says about celebrating your retirement (or any positive thing that is happening in your life!)
• How to prepare yourself (and your spouse) for the emotional toll of leaving the military
• Why having full control of your life again can be so overwhelming - and what to do about it!
• Finding a new community when you're no longer active duty
• And so much more!

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Military spouses have to be the flexible ones in the relationship, and this expectation can make it really hard to maintain and thrive in a career. It’s no surprise that I consistently hear that this is the one of the most difficult aspects of being a military spouse! In this episode, I’m sharing my BEST advice to overcome the challenges milspos face when balancing a career with the demands of military life, because it's time for you to reap the amazing benefits of a fun and fulfilling career!

I’m exploring:

• Married to Military 101: Post-9/11 GI Bill
• The differences between a career and a job
• My TOP TIPS to get the career you want
• How to tend to the emotional toll of balancing career and military life
• The #1 thing to AVOID when you are feeling resentful or frustrated (this is so important!)
• And so much more!

Take your military relationship to the next level at the virtual Military Marriage Fest™! Register here: https://www.theresaalexis.com/mmf/

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you’re a military spouse, you know first hand how hard it can be to stay motivated when things feel tough. My guest this week, Elizabeth Smith, has a message for you—you CAN thrive through the challenges of military life! As an Air Force wife and host of The American MilSpouse podcast, she’s giving military spouses an outlet to share their stories and be heard. Tune in this week as she dives into her passion for empowering milspo experiences, what she’s learned from the amazing military spouse community, and the importance of doing what makes YOU happy in order to be the best version of yourself in your relationship. 

We’re exploring:

• How her podcast has allowed her to speak less and listen more
• Why military life should only be a piece of your identity 
• What we both realized about being a stay at home parent (and what to do about parent guilt)
• The ONE thing Elizabeth wants all military spouses to remember
• Some EXCITING things to look forward to in Season 2 of The American MilSpouse podcast
• And so much more!

Connect with Elizabeth Smith:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamericanmilspouse/

Check out The American MilSpouse podcast wherever you stream your podcasts!

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Have you heard of the post-PCS funk? This is the period after you’ve moved in, your checklist is done, you're ready to get to normal life, but you still feel stuck in the transition. Been there? Me too! In this episode, I’m normalizing this hard period after moving (or deployment) with some of my BEST tips to kick post-PCS funk to the curb, so you can take control of your feelings and settle into your new home faster!

I’m exploring:

• Married to Military 101: PCS term - UAB
• Why you AND your spouse can experience a funk after a move (and why they might look different!)
• The TOP 3 things you can do to beat the post-PCS funk
• My FAVORITE way to reframe your funky feelings
• What it looks like to give yourself grace through this tough period
• And so much more!

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call

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The situation in Afghanistan is truly devastating. So many active duty service members, veterans, and their families have been affected by this 20-year war—some giving the ultimate sacrifice—and they are struggling to come to terms with how the events are unfolding. This week’s special episode is not just for military spouses, but for ANYONE who is (or was) a part of the military family. I’m sharing important advice to help you be open with loved ones who are struggling with suicidal thoughts (whether they show it or not.) I’ll also dig deeper into what it means to create safe communication spaces, how to do it, and why even small gestures can make a huge impact for someone struggling with a burden.

Never struggle alone! Check out these helpful resources for support:

TAPS military survivor helpline: 800-959-TAPS (8277) or email [email protected] to be connected w/ grief & trauma resources for Gold Star families

Military OneSource: 800-342-9647 to speak w/ a consultant on their 24/7 hotline

Veteran Crisis Hotline: 800-273-8255 & press 1 or text 838255 to receive confidential support 24/7

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255 - Lifeline provides 24/7, free & confidential support

You can also reach out to your local chaplain or base MFLAC (Military & Family Life Coaching) for free & confidential support

Other affordable resources can be found through TalkSpace or BetterHelp, who both offer virtual talk therapy over text, video, & phone at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/227092-free-married-to-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869