Married After Kids

Being a mom and a military spouse can be SO hard—and you’re not alone if you feel this way! My guest this week is a mom of three, submariner wife, and host of the podcast Keep Calm Mother On!, Christy Thomas. Christy’s on a mission to remind moms everywhere that they are not alone in their experiences. In this episode, she shares about the unique world of being married to a submariner, how motherhood factors into Married to Military life, and why she wants all military spouses (and moms!) to remember that YOU are amazing—give yourselves the credit you deserve!

We’re exploring:

• Married to Military 101: CoC (Change of Command)
• The #1 communication challenge Christy and her husband face during deployment (and her creative tips to overcome it)
• Christy’s TOP 2 tricks to easily manage your emotions when your spouse is gone
• How to give your kids space to express themselves (and what to try if they don’t like talking about their emotions)
• Her 3 FAVORITE parts of being Married to Military
• And so much more!

Connect with Christy Thomas!

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everyday_runner_christy/

Check out her podcast Keep Calm Mother On!: https://everydaymotherhood.libsyn.com

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/227092-free-married-to-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

We can’t talk about relationships without first addressing the most important one—the relationship you have with yourself! Practicing self-love can improve SO MANY aspects of your Married to Military life. Want to know more? In this episode, I’m digging into ALL of the benefits of loving yourself, how to keep the TOP 3 barriers from holding you back, and my BEST tips to turn your self-love journey into an exciting adventure filled with things that feel good to YOU!

I’m exploring:

• Married to Military 101 - TRICARE Prime vs. TRICARE Select
• What the research shows about people who hold high levels of self-love
• Why it’s so risky to put the responsibility of love on your partner
• How to reach your potential by replacing self-criticism with self-love
• Practical examples of what self-love REALLY looks like 
• How to take action towards loving yourself (and why it’s different for everyone!)
• The sacrifices I’ve made being Married to Military (and why I don’t let them determine my self-worth)
• My #1 tip to prioritize loving acts for yourself—plus, inexpensive ways to start loving yourself right NOW!
• And so much more!

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/227092-free-married-to-military-marriage-assessment-call

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you feel like you’ve lost some of your self-identity as a military spouse? Are you looking to rediscover your independence and still be a supportive partner? Being Married to Military can REALLY challenge your identity, and it’s a common theme that weaves its way into many military relationships (my own included!) In this episode, I’m diving into some of the self-identity frustrations military spouses experience, as well as my TOP 5 tips to reclaim your uniqueness—so you can be proud of yourself AND your spouse status!

I’m exploring:

• Married to Military 101: PCS Terms - HHG and POV
• Why you are MORE than just a dependent
• The limitations of being a military spouse with a career (and how to make it work!)
• How to let the good parts of being Married to MIlitary really shine through
• The strategy I LOVE to help visualize your career & life goals 
• Why grief is such a common (and normal) feeling for military spouses
• And so much more!

Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/227092-free-married-to-military-marriage-assessment-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Have you found it difficult to balance your career with being a military spouse? You’re not alone! Many military spouses struggle to find a career they love that can also keep up with the demands of military life. My guest this week, realtor and Coast Guard wife Laurel Arenivar, is taking on the challenge and following her dreams to build her realty business—even when her family has to PCS! In this episode, Laurel shares why she never thought she’d be Married to Military, how she’s getting creative to expand her client network, and her TOP TIPS to pursue your career goals anywhere the military takes you!

We’re exploring:

• How Laurel’s using her PCS experiences to fill a realty niche (and connect with other military families)
• Why being honest & vulnerable can be so hard in military spouse communities
• How her Facebook group is helping real estate professionals level up their inclusion & anti-racism practices
• The KEY to having a successful career AND a healthy relationship
• And so much more!

Connect with Laurel Arenivar:

Your Home is Here Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your.home.is.here/

Get her FREE downloadable guide for home buyers, geared specifically towards military families: https://mailchi.mp/196435df02e0/free-resource

Join her Facebook group Real Estate Professionals Against Racism: https://www.facebook.com/realestateagents4change/

Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Moving for a permanent change of station (PCS) is an expected part of being Married to Military, but it can make it really hard to define what “home” means to you. If you struggle to settle in and turn your house into a home when you PCS, that’s ok! It is SO common (and normal)! Are you ready to change your mindset? In this episode, I’m jumping into what the research says about making your house into a home, some of the common barriers you may face, and my TOP 7 tips to overcome them—so you can create comfort no matter where you live!

I’m exploring:

• Married to Military 101: PCS Terms - TLA and TLE
• The MANY benefits of turning your house into a home (and how it impacts your well-being)
• What you might not know about the connection between your home and your emotional identity
• EASY ways to make connecting to your new home a priority
• And so much more!

Join us for Military Marriage Day: https://www.militarymarriageday.com

Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

There is a huge difference between GETTING married and BEING married—and the challenges of military life can add a lot of stress on a relationship over time. Can you relate? My guest this week, Marine Corps veteran and relationship coach Theresa Alexis—also known as The Military Bride Strategist™—is using her experiences from active duty to milspo to help transform the relationships of the military couples she works with. In this episode, she shares the realization that inspired her to become a military relationship coach, how to overcome the #1 struggle of military marriages, and her TOP TIPS to help you strengthen your marriage through ALL of the stages of military life. 

Listen now to hear more about:

• This week’s Married to Military 101: MWR (Morale, Welfare and Recreation)
• How Theresa’s experiences as dual military, a military spouse, and then veteran have shaped her life and business
• What it means to be intentional about separating home life from work (and tips to get started!)
• Our BEST advice to prioritize what’s REALLY important in your relationship (and how to work through the small things that bother you)
• How to give what you want to get back in your marriage 
• Why honest and open communication is SO IMPORTANT during transitions in military life
• And so much more!

Connect with Theresa Alexis:

Check out Theresa’s podcast Black, Married, and in the Military wherever you listen to your podcasts!

Join her FREE private Facebook group Military Marriages Matter: bit.ly/3_MMM

Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresaalexisspeaks/

Book her through her website: https://www.theresaalexis.com

Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

It’s that time of year again when many military families are in some phase of moving for a permanent change of station (PCS). Although moving is a normal and expected part of being Married to Military, it can bring overwhelming feelings of stress and anxiety. Been there? Me too! In this episode, I’m sharing my BEST tips and tricks to take the stress out of PCSing, how to give yourself the space to feel ALL of your feelings during a move, and the TOP 4 ways to make PCS easier on your marriage—because even though you can’t control where you move, you CAN make it manageable! 

I’m exploring:

• This week’s Married to Military 101: MALT (Monetary Allowance in Lieu of Transportation)
• Why moving is one of the MOST stressful life events (and why it’s even harder when you’re Married to MIlitary)
• How to set REALISTIC expectations for your move
• Why you shouldn’t underestimate the effects of grief and loss during a move
• My #1 TIP for practicing self-care during a PCS
• And so much more!

PCS checklist:

www.myultimatepcs.com

This month I’m offering 10% off my relationship coaching packages! Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call to find out more: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book

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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you find yourself making excuses as to why your military relationship is struggling? Is fear of the unknown keeping you from making your marriage stronger? If so, you’re not alone! Change can be scary—but don’t let your relationship fall into the trap of believing you can’t make things better. In this episode, I’m debunking the 7 myths that might be holding your relationship back, how to overcome them, and why you need to remember that your spouse chose YOU as their life partner—together you can take the steps to make your relationship work!

I’m exploring:

• The 3 common reasons you might be hesitant to make your relationship better (and what to do about them)
• Creating a safe space to encourage vulnerable conversations 
• What it means to “talk about talking” (and how you can benefit from it!)
• How to make TIME for productive relationship conversations 
• The ONE thing you should never say to your partner
• My TOP resources to help your relationship flourish
• And so much more!

This month I’m offering 10% off my relationship coaching packages! Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call to find out more: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

This week I am talking ALL things relationships with my very first podcast guest, relationship coach and sexuality educator Courtney Boyer. Her work focuses on helping high achievers be as successful in their personal relationships as they are in their career. Courtney is also Married to Military, and knows just how important it is to find (and offer!) valuable support for the unique challenges of military life. In this episode, she’s sharing her journey as a military spouse, her TOP TIPS to overcome relationship obstacles, and the #1 thing YOU can do to empower your independence and have the healthy relationship of your dreams!

We’re exploring:

• This week’s Married to Military 101: Sponsors
• The TOP 3 ways the military has impacted Courtney’s marriage
• What she believes are the BIGGEST barriers to maintaining a healthy relationship
• Why you should reevaluate your independent role in your relationship
• The MOST common theme that comes up when you're Married to Military (and how to address it!)
• And so much more!

Connect with Courtney Boyer - The Stepping Stones Coach:

Download her FREE Self-Coaching Guide to Overcoming Frustration here: https://www.steppingstonescoaching.net/freeguide

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/

Website: www.thesteppingstonescoach.com

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book

If you’re married to military, you know that there are SO MANY unique challenges our relationships face everyday. From deployments to moving all the time, the military can make all aspects of a marriage A LOT harder. In this episode, I’m diving deeper into the 4 BIGGEST relationship challenges military relationships face, as well as the TOP tools and tips you’ll need to know to work through them—so even when times feel hard, you can still have the strong & resilient relationship you WANT!

I’m exploring:

• This week’s Married to Military 101: DEERS (Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System)
• Why military training doesn’t always translate to being a good partner (and how to work through it together!)
• The TOP 3 strategies to navigate periods of separation
• How to get support for the aspects of military service that are out of your control
• Why recognizing and experiencing your emotions is CRUCIAL for a healthy relationship
• My TOP TIPS to manage ALL of the challenges of being married to military
• How to think positively about the ways the military has shaped your relationship
• And so much more!

Apply for the scholarship program for my signature 3 month 1:1 relationship coaching package here: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/231489-coaching-scholarship

Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869