Melancholy Minutes

What happens to us when we want to change for someone else? We play into depression’s need for chaos. We find ourselves in personal trials and tribulations. We change to make someone happy, but they never care if we are happy or not.

It could be your parents to your best friend. When you change for others, you make things difficult on yourself. Be mindful of why you are changing. If you are killing off your joys to make life easier for someone else, it means you are doing the wrong thing.

I give an example from my own personal life about this sort of issue in this episode. If you find this helps, please share it with someone who will need it. You never know what life you’ll save by doing the right thing and helping those who need it.

 You spend time and effort putting all your eggs in one basket. Your plans are perfect. You have everything in order.

Surprise, someone has already stolen that basket and broke your eggs. You were so married to the idea that you forgot that people don’t care about your problems. 

What is one person to do against the will of many?

This is a tough situation for us as depressed people to work with. We often forget that we are not in control of the world and it never kneels to us. Instead, we have to set aside the issue and feel what we must to move through our day. No matter what our expectations were, it will always change.

The thing we often push down is the need to feel something. The guilt of feeling anger, sorrow, and depression makes it hard enough. Now throw in the failure of expectations and you have a whole different game all together.

What can you do about it? 

Feel again. Feel something. Let those disappointing feelings come through and show the world what you have. The small tantrum you have today will be the smile you might have tomorrow. The idea isn’t to present a perfect presentation of yourself to people who don’t care. It is to be present and aware when the moments come around so you can enjoy them for what it is worth.

This is what I had to face when the plans I had to visit my dying friend fell through. The episode touches on this and more.

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Why you shouldn't listen to mixed messages about your mental health

When you think about the restrictions in life, you fuss and fret because it limits your ability for freedom. However, that freedom is something you cannot control and it only paralyzes you because you have too many options. In day two of restricting my on screen time, I am finding the clock ticking down motivating me enough to do a few small things. The small things add up, even if we think they don't.

Depression paints a hell of a picture for us, and most of the time it is quite bleak. See what you can do when you give yourself some restrictions and see what happens. You never know what small thing might spark a large fire.

You've made it through another day in the world and nothing you do seems right.

What is the one thing we cannot lose sight of when we operate through the day?

Being present!

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You wake up and you have more life and energy than you expected. You go through your day with a little more pep in your step. You walk back into the house after a long day and wonder why it is different. You notice one major thing that wasn’t there a week ago.

The sun is still in the sky.

While this isn’t unusual with the time change in America, it is still something to consider. Depression only grows in the darkness, and these long winter months tend to make us a little more down in the dumps. Even I kill all my projects and focus on survival in the long nights. 

There is no solution for this other than survival. The best thing to do is to open up about the problem. Discuss it with people who know you well, and check how you feel daily. Surviving isn’t bad. Many times it serves a great purpose. It is only when your entire life is about survival is when it is a problem.

When you find your depression times, you know what you do and how to overcome it. This episode touches on what I do when I know it is that time of the year.

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Why must we worship a mythical success? Why do fictional people inspire us to not act as ourselves?

We spend far too much time depressed and anxious and we don’t know why. We  compare our lives against other people’s highlight reels. We believing these people are gifts from a god that doesn’t believe in us. What can we do about it?

There are limited possibilities, but they are vast. We must focus on today. We must focus on the now. These fictional gods keep us limited. The real people behind them struggle as much as we do, yet we are the ones offending them with our existence.

We must look at these depression and anxiety tropes.. We must understand they have a kernel of truth, but nothing more. Most of it is in our minds, an easy way to excuse our stories and give us a reason why we will never be successful. 

You’ve already reached the end of your rope worrying about a future that will never arrive. So what do you have to lose?

That's right. Don't do it to get an instant return. Do it for consistency and to have a habitual ritual.

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