MEN’S REALLY NEED TO FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH THEIR OWN CONFUSION & SCATTERED-NESS

God knows the women of our modern world have their share of work to do when it comes to healing their relationship with the masculine and coming into alignment and agreement with men if they are to build any kind of a worthwhile partnership with men.

The women who show up to my classes tend to be women who have already done their work and are ready to receive a man’s strength and leadership and containment.  But for these women, there never seem to be enough men to go around who can meet them and match them.

I see too many men today who are so watery and un-contained themselves that it is downright depressing.  What’s worse, the men seem to have made a virtue out of their wateriness and their lack of strength and leadership.  These are the energies that so many men are walking around in today:

1.  CONFUSION.  AMBIVALENCE.  ENDLESS ‘SELF-REFLECTION’ — WHICH IS MORE AKIN TO SELF-ABSORPTION.

2.  SCATTERED ATTENTION.  UN-CONTAINED.  PRE-OCCUPIED WITH THEIR OWN EMOTIONS AND THEIR OWN EMOTIONALITY.

3.  WOUNDED.  REPRESSED.  CARRYING A BACKLOG OF UNPROCESSED EMOTIONS.  NOT ABLE TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES FLUIDLY, NOT BEING ABLE TO CREATE A PERMISSION FIELD FOR A WOMAN FOR HER EXPRESSION.

4.   NEEDY.  SEEKING UNDERSTANDING.  WANTING APPROVAL.

None of these energies will ever earn you any points with the feminine.  They don't want these burdens of yours in their lap.  They don’t want to sort out your confusion and ambivalence.  

Your scattered attention gives women no containment.  They are not interested in healing your wounds and unblocking your blocks.  And your neediness and approval-seeking is repulsive to women.

None of these stances on the women’s part are unfair!  If you feel this is unfair, you need to work doubly hard at your whininess.  

A man bringing these whining and weak energies to his woman has never been a healthy part of the man-woman contract.  Never has been.  Isn’t today.  Never will be.

Men — do you work.  Come into your clarity and leadership.

You are not much use to women until you do.

— Om Rupani

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