Mindfulness Mode

By Bruce LangfordAlternative Health Health & Fitness Religion & Spirituality Education Self-Improvement Spirituality

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April 02, 2018309 Unlock The Secrets of Sacred Orgasmic Love; Emunah Malinovitz
Emunah Malinovitz specializes in Sacred Love. She is skilled at helping you find the right person and she can give you the tools you need to build solid, long-lasting sacred love. Emunah's specialties are Sacred Ceremonies, weddings, and even divorces. She teaches tools to create powerful connections and how to connect on only 20 minutes. She also teaches couples a profound sensual way to meditate together; this method is called Sacred Orgasmic Meditation. Emunah believes in sacred love as a way of life.
Contact Info
Website: www.SacredLoveThatLasts.com
Free Gift: www.SacredLoveThatLasts.com/Free-Gift (A 3-Part Video Series Called the 3 Keys To A Sacred Love That Lasts)
Most Influential Person
Oprah
Effect on Emotions
How has mindfulness affected your emotions? Mindfulness has gotten me more in touch with them and then I can love them like I talked about and heal them.
Thoughts on Breathing
Tell us how breathing is part of your mindfulness; you already touched on it, but let's sum it up.
It's essential and it's conscious breathing, so not just breathing because God is breathing me right now, thank God, but I need to get present and be conscious to that breath and feel it.
Suggested Resources
Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
Book: The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz
App: The Timer on your phone
Bullying Story
Yeah, and you know, this even happened in my adult life and I was working for an amazing company doing personal growth work and I was really good at sales and I was really good at starting to do presentations from the stage. There was another woman that was working there and that was her job, you know, before I came along she was the star.
You can imagine if you're the person making the sales for the company, you felt good and you're important and here I came along and I had this natural ability to connect with people and to feel again using a lot of the tools we've talked about helped me be good at sales and be able to feel and be with people.
So she was in a position above me in her power structure in that company. So I definitely felt like there were a lot of ways where she would not give me certain opportunities or use whatever means were in her control to hold me back or not allow something to happen.
And it was difficult, you know, because I am a sensitive person and I can feel all of that. So it was very challenging, and the ways that I dealt with it, I first needed to know that what I was feeling wasn't wrong, that, you know, sometimes I think we make ourselves crazy, you know, and other people will make us crazy because they'll say, no, that's not going on.
That's all in your own head. And it's like, no, this is what's happening and I feel that and I'm not going to make that wrong. And then, you know, there were times where I would talk to my other friends about it just to get some reflection and support and make sure I'm not crazy, you know?
And then there were times where we've had to sit down as a group and just kind of have a circle and with other people there to support us and being honest and truthful. So I was in a community then, where we really honored the truth and we really honored being able to feel sensations.
I know that's not most places where we go, but that's the culture I would like to create because the truth is we are going to have people that rub us the wrong way in life. But really it's like, what is it in me that they are triggering? What is it that has me feel insecure, that is an opportunity for me to love in my own body.
And again, I know this stuff. It sounds so simple, but it's a lot harder to practice when you're in the situation. You know? And I don't want to make light of people who are being bullied. Like it's just the saddest thing. You know that people abuse their power and this is what we're talking about when you talk about the 'me too' movement and these men in power that are getting taken down, they had power and they bullied with it, they took with it, they used that power to take something rather than connect with another human being.
And I think that that's partly because we don't know how to connect. So what we've been taught is to be like, I'll be the more powerful one and I'll get my power by putting you down and this is part of what I say we're awakening the Feminine Energy in all of us.
We're feeling our compassion, our heart. It's like there has to come a place where our heart opens and we're like, what? I don't want to treat anybody like that. Like why would I do that? That's not right.
34 min
March 29, 2018308 Let Loose With YoGoGirls Yoga Founder Debby Siegel
Debby Siegel is a Yoga Teacher and founder of the business, YoGoGirls. She calls herself a passionate steward of Earth, mostly a Barefoot Steward. She’s also a marketer, copywriter and editor with a distinctive edge which she finds in the wild. She’s an avid cyclist, enthusiastic athlete and Mom of the Millenium. Debby is currently writing a Mindful Marionettes Puppet Show designed to teach kids about mindfulness.
Contact Info
Website: www.YoGoGirls.com
Email: [email protected]
Social Media: @YoGoGirls
Most Influential Person
Gretchen Rubin
Effect on Emotions
How has mindfulness affected my emotions? Oh Wow. That is a good one. Thank you for asking that. Yes, they for me, like I said, it's about quieting my mind, right? And being able to be in this moment right here.
For me it has leveled off the extreme emotions which are derived from worry about the future or fretting over the past.
So by being right here, it's made me pretty even keel, and that is not always been something you could say about Debby Siegel.
Thoughts on Breathing
Well, there's actually science behind it, right; breathing deeply into your abdomen. And I am really drawn to a yogic breathing called Deerga breathing, it's Deerga breath. It's a three-part breath and it's where you start by feeling your belly cavity, so you're breathing deep. You expand that out and then next you move into your lungs and your rib areas, blowing those out in 360, and then finally just even extending the air all the way up into your throat.
You start filling bottom to top and you exhale and you empty top to bottom. And this type of breathing has a lot of indications that all of the benefits of meditation and breathing will scientifically happen as you kind of hit your Vegus nerve.
And then it takes your body into that rest or digest phase an out of the fight or flight that pretty much all operate in more often than not. I'm very drawn to that type of breathing. One might even point out that prior to our interview I was breathing, I was integrating that into my own instruction and guidance. So yeah, it calms you, right? I am a rock climber, so one of my hobbies, I climb cliffs. I can get on the same rock wall, that's the same difficulty from the ground. And then you take that same rock wall and maybe put it up a few hundred feet, which I've done as well, like all over the United States; I've climbed in 11 states.
You start from that place and start to climb and you realize the mind-body connection right away. It changes, you know, your mind is so powerful. It changes your ability to focus on climbing.
So I will say breath has been incredibly powerful there. It can get you past that, that anxious fear that we in the sport doesn't involve. So yes, breathing, I incorporate it into almost everything I do now and I feel I need to come back to that clear-minded place that breathing is, it's my medicine.
Suggested Resources
Book: The Power of Now: A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
App: Insight Timer
Bullying Story
I've been both the bully and the bullied in childhood.
I feel like recalling and retelling childhood bully stories would kind of give them some power in my now. So I would instead like to focus on the second part of your question, where mindfulness would've made a difference.
Mindfulness would make a difference for bullying everywhere, right? I mean, I happen to believe that bullying is just a person's need to be seen. We all need to be seen by others. We all need acknowledgment. It's a human condition and bullying is just a more intense method of achieving this.
So by holding more space for others in our day-to-day lives, perhaps we'll be offering the fulfillment of being seen to someone who might otherwise turn that lack into a bullying opportunity.
40 min
March 29, 2018 308 Let Loose With YoGo Girls Yoga Founder Debby Siegel
40 min
March 26, 2018307 Reclaim Your Spark With PoleFit Nation's Jane Wilson
Jane Wilson is the founder of PoleFit Nation - a pole dancing for fitness company. When Jane started teaching fitness through Pole Dancing in 2008, she understood that what her clients were learning wasn’t so much about pole dancing, it was about self-esteem and embracing who you are and who you
want to be. Over the past decade, she has helped thousands of women feel strong, empowered and confident. She is the Canadian Masters Pole Fitness Champion of 2015 and she has been featured in national publications including Chatelaine magazine. Jane believes that through Pole Dancing, you can reinvent your life.
Contact Info
Website: www.PoleFitNation.com
Website: www.JaneWilson.com
Podcast: Reclaim Your Spark
Email: [email protected]
Most Influential Person
My father
Effect on Emotions
I have an anxiety disorder and being mindful has helped me calm my anxiety disorder down. I'm very different now with it.
Every single day I'm aware so if I feel the anxiety is sort of coming through. If I'm feeling anxious, I understand the physiological response, my body response, so I'm able to work through the steps to calm myself down and do the cognitive therapy to calm myself down.
Thoughts on Breathing
I have two different ways of breathing. So we have the regular way of breathing, but then we also have our diaphragm breathing and I'm working on my public speaking.
I've learned how to speak in an effective way and breathe so that I'm not holding my breath and then talking a lot and then running out of air. So it's interesting you ask that because I've been working for the past few months on improving my breathing when I speak.
Suggested Resources
Book: The Little Book of Mindfulness: Ten Minutes a Day to Less Stress and More Peace by Dr Patrizia Collard
App: Calm
Bullying Story
This incident happened in 2014 and it actually involved the studio and myself in which I was protested for a week. So this lady had driven by the studio and she looked through the windows. We weren't open at the time and she saw a room full of brass balls.
When we have classes, we close the blinds, but during the daytime the blinds are open so you can see inside. And there was a poster of me on the window where I'm holding the pole. It's one of our marketing posters. I'm looking happy and smiley. She was deeply offended and it triggered her.
It actually triggered a negative memory she had when she was younger. So in her youth, she unfortunately had a terrible childhood in which she was living on the street, became a prostitute and she was a stripper. And seeing the studio and me on the pole triggered it. So she felt she needed to have the studio shut down, that it wasn't OK and that what I was doing was wrong and she was very upset with it.
So first she went on Facebook and in Oakville there is a Facebook group about Oakville which has about 8,000 members on it and that's where she started. So she posted that she needed people to band together to shut down the pole dancing studio and that what I was doing was wrong and I was teaching women to become prostitutes.
So she projected by what was happening with her. I was, I was mindful enough to realize what was happening, but we had a situation where I had somebody who was not healthy and happy and if I were to attack her back he would make things worse. So I just, I stood up and I spoke about what the studio was about with more of an education point of view.
And then I didn't respond back after that. Well, because there's 8,000 members involved, people jumped on and it went on for like three days of online shaming towards her because she's attacking so people want to fight back. So I had to tell all my students do not participate, do not get involved, leave it be, because we don't want to feed the beast, the social media beast. So my students were very wonderful about it and it faded away.
So we didn't participate. we stood back from it. So then after it all calmed down, she decided to stand in front of my business with a sign saying, prostitution is wrong. She would arrive around 9:00 AM and would leave around 4:00 PM. The police arrived the first day and they talked to me about it. And in Canada we have the charter of rights.
So she was fully allowed to do that, to stand on public space in front of my business, to promote her agenda about prostitution is wrong and I totally agree, prostitution is wrong. But that's not what we're doing. Whenever people would walk by, she would tell them stuff about me, she would slander, she would say negative things.
So the police on the very first day pulled me aside and said, do you have a choice on how you want to handle this? You can either attack back, which will make things worse or you can ignore and we highly recommend you ignore. And so I also spoke to one of our local MPs, a member of parliament, because we all know politicians get protested quite a bit and he advised the same thing. He goes, don't engage, don't participate, don't even look at her when she arrives, go home. And that's what I did every single day.
She chose to protest against me during the first week of July, which was the hottest week of the summer. So I went home every single day when she arrived, I would say see you later, get in the car and go home and hang out with my kids and she would stand out in front. So I didn't really, I didn't want to hear what she said about me. I didn't want to know.
I just knew, eventually she would move on and in fact, by the end of the week, she called me up on the phone and left a voice message saying that her work was done. My apologies for causing any hardship, any pain. She said I need to move on now. So I'm actually very proud of how I handled that. I was being bullied, but I chose a different path of how to handle it instead of fighting back, I chose peace and not to engage.
39 min
March 26, 2018307 Reclaim Your Spark With PoleFit Nation’s Jane Wilson
Jane Wilson is the founder of PoleFit Nation - a pole dancing for fitness company. When Jane started teaching fitness through Pole Dancing in 2008, she understood that what her clients were learning wasn’t so much about pole dancing, it was about self-esteem and embracing who you are and who you

want to be. Over the past decade, she has helped thousands of women feel strong, empowered and confident. She is the Canadian Masters Pole Fitness Champion of 2015 and she has been featured in national publications including Chatelaine magazine. Jane believes that through Pole Dancing, you can reinvent your life.

Contact Info
Website: www.PoleFitNation.com
Website: www.JaneWilson.com

Podcast: Reclaim Your Spark

Email: [email protected]

Most Influential Person
My father
Effect on Emotions
I have an anxiety disorder and being mindful has helped me calm my anxiety disorder down. I'm very different now with it.
Every single day I'm aware so if I feel the anxiety is sort of coming through. If I'm feeling anxious, I understand the physiological response, my body response, so I'm able to work through the steps to calm myself down and do the cognitive therapy to calm myself down.

Thoughts on Breathing
I have two different ways of breathing. So we have the regular way of breathing, but then we also have our diaphragm breathing and I'm working on my public speaking.
I've learned how to speak in an effective way and breathe so that I'm not holding my breath and then talking a lot and then running out of air. So it's interesting you ask that because I've been working for the past few months on improving my breathing when I speak.

Suggested Resources
Book: The Little Book of Mindfulness: Ten Minutes a Day to Less Stress and More Peace by Dr Patrizia Collard
App: Calm

Bullying Story
This incident happened in 2014 and it actually involved the studio and myself in which I was protested for a week. So this lady had driven by the studio and she looked through the windows. We weren't open at the time and she saw a room full of brass balls.
When we have classes, we close the blinds, but during the daytime the blinds are open so you can see inside. And there was a poster of me on the window where I'm holding the pole. It's one of our marketing posters. I'm looking happy and smiley. She was deeply offended and it triggered her.

It actually triggered a negative memory she had when she was younger. So in her youth, she unfortunately had a terrible childhood in which she was living on the street, became a prostitute and she was a stripper. And seeing the studio and me on the pole triggered it. So she felt she needed to have the studio shut down, that it wasn't OK and that what I was doing was wrong and she was very upset with it.
39 min
March 22, 2018306 Slow Down and Feel It To Achieve Wellness; Lea Bayles
Lea Bayles transitioned to a career in holistic wellness after recovering from an immune system collapse. She gained experience in areas including positions as mind-body therapist, yoga therapy program director, employee wellness coordinator and facilitator of medical patient groups. Currently, Lea empowers high achievers to become the exceptional leaders they were born to be with less stress, struggle and loneliness and more joy, vitality, connection and impact. She blends a masters in psychology with extensive experience in education, dance, theater, and healing arts. She wrote Take Back Your Life, Moving from Chronic Pain to Life-long Healing and numerous articles, healing meditations and spoken word poems.
Contact Info
Website: www.LeaBayles.com
Free Gifts for Mindful Tribe: www.LeaBayles.com/gifts
Most Influential Person
Joan Borysenko (Mindfulness author of A Woman's Book of Life)
Effect on Emotions
I think it makes it much easier to have emotions and not get sidetracked by them or hijacked by them.
It's like, oh yeah, they're emotions and they come and they go and that I don't need to be a victim of my emotions. Not pushing them down, but not needing to be a victim of them.
Especially I think that self-criticalness was a part at one point that I would sometimes become a victim of.
Thoughts on Breathing
Breathing may be the number one part of my mindfulness. It's so great because it's always with us and just one breath or even one part of a breath or noticing a breath can bring us right back to it.
My intention is to start noticing it when I first wake up and to be aware of it all through the day. I love the practice of noticing and feeling the breath rather than trying to impose a perfect breath.
Suggested Resources
Book: Being Peace by Thich Nhat Hanh
App: Calm and Headspace for Kids
Bullying Story
Really fascinating since I've been listening to your podcast and hearing you talk to people about that, it's made me think about bullying a lot more and that's been good. Thinking in my own life and as a child, I can't remember ever being bullied, but there are a number of situations as an adult that I would consider bullying to have happened. And right now in the news there's a lot about abuse of power, which I think is a form of bullying.
One particular situation which really stands out for me is about a man I was working with who was in a business situation and was in a position of, you know, in the hierarchy above me.
Ironically he had asked me to help him teach a mindfulness class based on Jon Kabat Zinn's work. And so we're teaching this, but there were some very uncomfortable encounters with things that felt to me like abuse of power with students and with me.
Then I went to a conference, a mind-body conference for therapists and doctors and educators and he knew I was going. He didn't say anything about going, but I was there and he showed up and was bizarre to me. Like following me and ranting and screaming at this professional conference it was very, very upsetting. I didn't feel scared really. But it was very upsetting. And that happened one evening.
And then the next morning we had a workshop that happened to be Wayne Mueller. He does body mind, spirit work. One of his books is called Sabbath: Finding Rest, Renewal, and Delight in Our Busy Lives by Wayne Mueller And he was doing a workshop at this conference and I went into that workshop just feeling tense in my body and rattled and looking around to see if this other person was going to be there.
I kind of felt like just going home. But I didn't want to, I wanted to stay at the conference, but I was definitely feeling disjointed and rattled and he gave us the best exercise.
He gave us the exercise to go out on a walk at a Sylmar, this beautiful place by the ocean in California. To go out for a walk and be led by our senses. And he called this a sensory walk and we talked about that feeling of like, just notice what your eyes love and follow that or what fragrance are you interested in?
And so it was just very simple. We each were out doing it for a and then came back. And just that following. I remember there was one particularly beautiful fragrant Bush that I just felt really drawn to and just was present with just noticing.
The feeling I had was having come back to my senses. I was like restored to myself.
So, you know, it's definitely a mindfulness exercise was like, what's here and how does it inform us and what does it call us to. And it totally brought me back to myself and I really felt healed from that.
There's another way too that I think mindfulness could have helped me if I looked back sooner. If I myself had been more aware of some of the early warning signals.
After that situation, I let our supervisor know I would not work again with this person, but before that there were weird things happening and I think if I had been more trusting of myself and what I was really noticing, I probably could have done something to stop it before it got to that point.
So I think that mindfulness of noticing early warning signals is something that would've been helpful for me.
33 min
March 19, 2018305 Daily Self-Care So You Can Thrive; Naturopath Todd Nelson
Todd Nelson is a Naturopathic Doctor in clinical practice for 35 years. He is the co-author of 3 books on health and has contributed to 8 books on health. Todd is an expert in helping people recover their well-being by practicing exceptional self-care. Todd is a well-known speaker, both publicly and to health professionals, and does hundreds of media appearances. He is a former radio show host, and corporate wellness trainer.
Contact Info
Website: www.TOLWellness.com
Book: Cannabis For Chronic Pain: A Proven Prescription For Using Marijuanna To Relieve Your Pain And Heal Your Life by Dr. Rav Ivker
NOTE: Todd Nelson is the major contributor to the above book.
Most Influential Person
Robert K. Cooper (Head of Cooper Strategies (The first to teach me what he called an instant calming sequence) www.RobertCooperPHD.com
Effect on Emotions
Mindfulness makes me calmer, more sane human being. You know, we all can get into this ... I call it the blender drink of our thoughts. You know, like when you, you do a smoothie in a blender drink, right?
And it's all smashed up and we can get whirling with so many different things in it. For me, it can connect me into this feeling of urgency and nervousness and being a little neurotic.
And so mindfulness has really helped me dissipate that soften, that, find more peace and be able to more consciously choose it at will during the day.
Thoughts on Breathing
I don't know of anything that changes your state faster than changing your breathing. Truly. I mean, if you just take a moment and go, where's my breath?
Holding my breath, my diaphragm's up in my rib cage here. How do I just take a breath? Take a sigh. Mindfully breathe through my nose, out through my mouth, even just a few breaths and just let my diaphragm drop, my whole abdomen drop.
Within anywhere from 30 seconds to a minute, I can access calmness. Wow, what a neat technique. I can do that anywhere. Anytime. Any circumstance.
Suggested Resources
Book: Any book by Pema Chodron such as - The Compassion Book: Teachings For Awakening The Heart
App: N/A
Bullying Story
Yeah, you know, Bruce, when I was a kid I was a pretty sort of highly sensitive wimpy kid, not an athletic kid and definitely the one to get picked on. I was very sensitive to suffering of other kids and the underdog and suffering of animals and all sorts of things. And I remember in grade school I used to walk home from school.
There were all these wonderfully positioned bushes where these two guys would hide out and wait for me. They would jump out and want to hassle me push me around and take my lunch money, that kind of stuff.
Well, one day my father decided to hide in those bushes and wait for those to give them a dose of their own medicine. So he jumped out, scared the holy crap out of them and gave me a good talking to. And strangely enough, we all ended up being friends. Those guys were so shaken up and scared.
My dad sort of facilitated this; he was a great guy but when you ask me how mindfulness helped me later in my life, about the age of 17, I started learning Kung Fu. It was partly for self-defense but I would say out of the seven years of training I went through in Kung Fu, the core lesson that I got was being mindful, staying awake, staying present in the midst of somebody hitting me. I can't tell you how valuable that is.
It wasn't like I would have just signed up for that knowing what I was getting into necessarily. I got to a place where we would do these round robins of sparring with one another. And I was just getting overwhelmed emotionally by doing this with all these people and getting hit and hitting them.
And it was all a very controlled thing. But at one point I fell down in a fetal position and I could barely handle it.
So my instructor brought me up, facilitated me getting through the feelings of that and I went back in. I went back in and something shifted in me and I was able to stay present throughout the rest of the exercise and honestly, that stayed with me for life. I was able to go, wow, I'm just observing all this.
I'm having to spar with these people and stand my ground and defend myself and show up and stay awake and not get overwhelmed by my feelings.
When I'm in conflict or hard circumstances these days, I referenced that. I go back to that feeling state in my physiology; what we called it was the eye of the hurricane. I'm staying present in that calm core place of observation and being able to then come up with solutions to what's happening. So I practiced that for 40 years or more.
38 min
March 15, 2018304 Learn How To Ignite Your Fire Within With Lisa Winston
Lisa Winston’s love of singing led her to a professional musical career that has spanned 40 years. She’s also a speaker, teacher, best-selling co-author, artist, Authenticity coach and mom. Five years after a breast cancer diagnosis and losing her home to wildfire, Lisa knew it was time to change the course of her life in order to pursue her soul path. Today, her commitment to teaching people how to Fuel the Fire Within and how to show up extremely authentic is powerfully transforming lives. Lisa’s life is a testament to what she teaches. And it’s exactly what’s needed for people to live an unstoppable, unshakeable and unapologetic life. It is Lisa’s absolute honor and joy to support others in learning to stand in the power and magic of their true, brilliant authentic selves. Five years ago at the age of 53, Lisa Winston left a 40 year music career to pursue her soul path. Today, her commitment to teaching YES Equals Success – saying yes to what’s hard, building inner strength and courage as well as providing simple steps to business success, is transforming lives.
Contact Info
Website: www.YesEqualsSuccess.com
Social Media: LisaWinston Authenticity Coach
Most Influential Person
Dr. Wayne Dyer
Effect on Emotions
I used to fly by the seat of my pants with my emotions and it's not that I don't get emotional now.
I'm able to actually really breathe and disconnect and go to a space of alignment so that I'm not out of control. And then you can make a better decision from that space.
Thoughts on Breathing
Breathing is one of the most important things you can do if you don't have a mantra or something like that.
Breathing really gets you out of your head, focused on your heart and centered in the present moment awareness.
Breathing brings life to your body and health to your body. So it's one of the most important things that I do.
Suggested Resources
Book: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
App: Oprah and Deepak Meditation App
Bullying Story
I was bullied by a teacher in sixth grade who threw me up against the lockers. I think my sister came and supported me. There was no support back then in the sixties or seventies, whatever it was. I mean he never got reprimanded and nothing ever happened, you know. He just didn't like girls and I was very playful and I ticked a lot of people off because I liked to play games.
But also my daughter, I remember in middle school she had so many girls. Um, I can't remember the name of the book was about a girl, but I think there's another one, Odd Girl Out (by Rachel Simmons). But the girls are so mean. A lot of times boys just punch each other out when they get ticked off. Right. But girls just like torture you emotionally.
I wasn't in a good space at the time; I was in a really abusive relationship at that point myself. So I was not in any kind of conscious space to really help my daughter. So I was just angry and reading books and reaching out to the schools, but I didn't see a lot of support at the schools. That was what was crazy about it. My daughter's 23 and I don't really know what's being done about the bullying thing. They have campaigns about going to college, but I don't see much in the realm of bullying.
I don't think very many people deal with it consciously. It's scary. It makes people angry. You fear for your kids lives and kids take their lives because of it sometimes.
I do leadership trainings and stuff and I really feel like if we could bring more leadership trainings to schools, to the kids about how wonderful they are and get them to learn to communicate with each other as opposed to the opposite. Even now as adults, you're walking down the street, people won't look at you. I look at people directly now because, if you really connect with people, we have a lot of the same things going on. You can really love somebody if you get to know who they are and even if you don't know them.
So it's a world where we're afraid of each other. But it starts as kids and then we grow into these wounded adults. So I think we need a lot more leadership programs, trainings, and children's routines. I don't know that it's going to go into the schools, the schools have some work to do around just the school system.
35 min
March 12, 2018303 Be A Truth-Digger To Share Your Story; Dawn Gluskin
Dawn Gluskin is a storyteller, copywriter, and a truth-digger. She helps entrepreneurs tell their stories that need to be heard in the world. She's been in sales & marketing for over 20 years & grew her first business to 7-figures at age 30. She stands for full self-expression & vulnerability as the means to a well-lived life & thriving business.
Contact Info
Website: www.BlissedCommunications.com
Social Media: @DawnGluskin
Most Influential Person
Felix Lopez, a healer I met in Colorado.
Effect on Emotions
Mindfulness is just about being aware. In the past I just tried to stuff it down if I didn't want to feel it. Like, I don't want to feel this so I'll just pretend it's not here or I'll just be happy.
It's really about feeling it. I'm feeling into what are you trying to tell me, sadness or anger or whatever it is.
Thoughts on Breathing
Focusing on breath is a really great way to bring you present, you know, just slow inhales and exhales. Instantly, you're right back in the moment.
Suggested Resources
Book: Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch
App: Insight Timer
Bullying Story
I never really was bullied. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. I was quiet and shy as a kid and so I think I stayed off people's radar.
When you said that, there was something that came to mind with my daughter who is is ten. She's a very sensitive soul. She's like, an old soul; very sensitive.
I first realized this when she was four, we went to the Vet because my dog had eaten something he wasn't supposed to eat. And we're in sitting at the Vet's and she's like, Mommy, I don't feel good in my stomach. And I was like, oh, did you eat something? And she's like, no, animals are hurt here, animals have died here.
I thought, where did that come from. But I just realized she's really in tune with people and she's mindful of people's energy. And so how that shows up for her sometimes is in her relationship with her friends.
There was a particular girl who's a very sweet girl, but if she didn't get her way, she would always say to my daughter, I'm not going to be your friend anymore. She would leave and she would leave my daughter in tears just from being so sensitive.
A lot of well-meaning family members would say to her, you need to toughen up. It's a tough world out there, you need to be tougher.
I took a different approach. I said to her, no, you're perfect and complete just as you are. Your sensitivity is actually a gift and sometimes it might not feel like that, but it is a gift to the world.
And I think how you eliminate the bully is by building up the individual so you can be mindful of who you are and just embrace even the parts that are difficult; the parts that you might feel weird about sometimes.
I taught her no, that's who you are and you don't need to change. The world needs to change. I really empowered her around it. And then we even worked through it with her friend and you know, everything is all beautiful. It was a beautiful lesson for both of them, even for the friend was like, well, she's just expressing how she feels. She doesn't know how to express that in another way and it's not about you. She's not trying to hurt you. That's about her. So it was a good lesson for both of them.
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March 08, 2018302 Realize Your Clients’ Lingo with Photographer, Jeffrey Shaw
Jeffrey Shaw is one of the most well-known portrait photographers in the United States - His portraits have appeared on Oprah and People magazine as well as hundreds of other publications. Jeffrey is also host of the successful business podcast called Creative Warriors. Mindfulness plays a key role in Jeffrey’s world. He realizes making powerful connections with people is about embracing and understanding their LINGO, their specific secret language.Using this insight, Jeffrey teaches entrepreneurs how to attract their ideal customers by learning to speak the proper LINGO.
Contact Info
Website: JeffreyShaw.com
FREE Lingo Media Kit: JeffreyShaw.com/MindfulnessMode
Podcast: Creative Warriors
Book: Lingo: Discover Your Ideal Customer’s Secret Language and Make Your Business Irresistible by Jeffrey Shaw
Most Influential Person
K.S. Iyengar of Iyengar Yoga
Effect on Emotions
Mindfulness has affected my emotions by giving me greater stability.
We're very emotional beings and as a creative person, that's probably even more exaggerated.
So mindfulness has created curiosity, which creates a stability of mind.
Thoughts on Breathing
Breathing is very much a part of my mindfulness practice. In Yoga we refer to it as Pranayama.
I have three kids and are adults now, but when one of my daughters was young, she had a really bad toothache and I taught her to breathe through the toothache.
I had double hernias. I chose to have surgery done separately without anesthesia because I convinced the doctor. I didn't want to go through the general anesthesia. So we did them separately and I breathed through those surgeries. He didn't think it could be done and I was like, I can do it. So breathing has been a big part of my life.
Suggested Resources
Book: Going To Pieces Without Falling Apart by Mark Epstein
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Bullying Story
I was bullied most of my childhood, to be honest with you. Through middle school were really, really tough years for me.
When I was growing up we had seventh and eighth grade in middle school and I spent most of those two years the guidance counselor office because I wouldn't go to the cafeteria.
I went from class to the guidance counselor office to avoid the bullies. I was bullied on the bus. I was a shy, withdrawn kid; very sensitive. I was not as tough as the other boys.
Yeah, most certainly I was bullied.I think the sensitivity that I carried with me was the mindfulness. There was no way I ever could have taken the advice I see given in tv shows about bullying.
On sitcoms somebody's always advising the person being bullied to stand up to the bully. There is no way that was ever going to happen for me. So the mindfulness for me, was I was very aware that I was being bullied, but I was very mindful that that person had a problem.
And I actually think it's the mindfulness that helped me survive it. And I've gone to counselors and therapy and all the time I spent in the guidance counselor's office was to be with a therapist and that was often pointed out to me.
I honestly never really took on the victim role. I was being victimized, but I looked at it from the perspective that the person doing the bullying has an issue. I'm OK. I always carried with me a certain amount of self awareness and self confidence despite the fact that I was shy, I was actually inwardly quite confident and I was confident that the issue is not mine. I was very mindful that the issue was with the bully. Yeah, I mean it just was never. I never could have taken the advice.
I had two older brothers and a father there was the typical sibling interaction. My older brothers were constantly picking on me and bullying me and the advice to me was to toughen up. My parents would just say, toughen up, which to this day never made sense to me. I thought, why should I toughen up? Why are you telling the person being bullied to toughen up, to meet that person as opposed to telling the bully to knock it off.
But again, being mindful of the situation, I think it was just the easier route. A lot of times parents knowingly or not, just choose the easier route.
It was easier to tell me to toughen up than it was ever to tell older brothers to take it easy on your little brother because they were tougher. There was more resistance. I was the path of least resistance.
So oddly enough, I was very mindful of this dynamic. Even as a very young kid, I was very mindful that this was the dynamic which allowed me to hold on to a significant amount of self-worth and confidence that it was like, I'm OK, I don't know what's wrong with these people, but I'm OK and I'll just wait until I can find my right place in the world.
And when I do, I'll be able to shine.
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