Let’s dig into a deeper conversation about some signs and qualities that I’ve started to notice about people with narcissistic tendencies. A big question we must ask is, where it comes from (possibly) and what are some signs of things you yourself may be suffering from being around or living with a person who is narcissistic.

Upon my reading and studying, I’ve come across a few signs that show your mother might be narcissistic. 

• Explosive or extreme anger
• Compulsive or inhibited sexuality
• Extreme shame, guilt, or self-blame (which is a tactic to make you feel sorry for them)
• Sense of difference from others; i.e.; specialness, or feeling like no one else can understand them)

We learn to survive at the expense of sacrificing our own needs. We become people who attempt to help control the environment, this is something I know well. And it is a job that is not yours to hold.

The list goes on and on, but the one thing you have to remember is you may become disassociated with who you naturally are. You are taking on so many different personas it’s hard to know your own opinions or desires in life. 

So what to do with all this information?

Having a strong faith will for me, always be the number one thing towards wholeness. It gives me purpose and meaning and most of all hope in life. I know that God has wasted nothing through my journey and to be able to move forward towards my goal of being a healthy person with God at the helm is comforting for me. He can give me strength and peace that humans can’t always give me. 

Taking the time to move through our past with therapy or someone safe to walk with you towards a more honest future. The things that have been done to you are not your fault, and it was hard, but you don’t have to stay there. Take your time to find a trustworthy person to partner with you.

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Understanding and Loving a Person with Depression: Biblical and Practical Wisdom to Build Empathy, Preserve Boundaries, and Show Compassion by Stephen Arterburn (Author), Brenda Hunter (Author): https://bit.ly/465Bgf6

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