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What we think and what we say has a great influence on the world around you. In this podcast we will discuss 3 different studies that talk about the effect that our beliefs and even our statements have on outcomes. 

The first study we talk about is the Blue Eyed vs. Brown Eyed Study. In this experiment a teacher tells her students that the blue eyed students were found to be more intelligent and she gave them exams. The next day she exclaimed that she had made a mistake and it actually was the brown eyed students who were more intelligent and again administered an exam. What the tests showed is that when the students were told they were more intelligent, their performance increased and if they believed they were less intelligent their performance decreased. 

The next study we talk about is the Intelligent Vs Hard Working Study. In this experiment groups of kids were told they were intelligent or hard working. The researchers gave the students progressively more difficult tests to take and the students could opt out of the tests whenever they wanted. The students who were told they were more intelligent bowed out of the testing earlier than the students who were told they were hard working. The result are, the students who were told they were smart became fearful of losing their title of "intelligent" and stopped taking the test when they feared they would be found out. The students who were told they were hard workers were much more willing to endure the more difficult tests because they only way they could lose their title was to stop trying.

The final study was in regard to cancer and beliefs about survival. This study follows 3 groups of cancer patients. One group believed they were going to die, the next believed they would live, and the last group believed they would die but told others and themselves that they would survive. The group that believed they would die were statistically more likely to die than the other 2 groups. The other 2 groups, however, had the same survival rate. The people who believed they would die but said they would survive had the same survival rate as the group that believed they would survive.

Your mind is a powerful thing, don't underestimate the importance of mindset.

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We are not trying to hurt your feelings I promise! But we are willing to hurt them to tell you the truth. Your kids should not be the most important relationship in your life. Your spouse should be. The most important thing you can do for your children is to have a solid marriage. By every metric kids perform better when there is a healthy couple in the house that is raising them. Please listen and reshape your priorities for your kids and your marriage!

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Ok ok ok, so you have been listening and you realize that you need therapy and are ready to jump in...What now!?!?!

"How do I wade through the mire and muck to find a therapist that can help me with what I am looking for?"

Do not despair! In this episode we discuss a few types of therapy models, some questions to ask your prospective therapist, and we give you a few tips that will help you find the right therapist for you! 

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If you are struggling to communicate with your spouse and you feel like the difficult conversations frequently go sideways, this is the podcast for you! Listen in as we teach you a practical tool that can help you have conversations that help resolve conflicts rather than just sending you into another conflict cycle. 

L = Listen

U = Understand

V = Validate

In this episode we continue with Part 2 of Stephanie Reed's powerful story.  After struggling with infertility, Stephanie unexpectedly lost her husband Steve in a tragic accident just months before giving birth to their daughter whom they had together waited and prayed for. Stephanie openly shares her experience with grief and loss and the healing that she has experienced.

Other Episodes You May Like:

Ep. 12 - Grief - Stephanie’s Powerful Story of Loss & Healing(Part 1)

Ep. 11 - The Stages of Grief

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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

In today's episode join us as we hear Part 1 of Stephanie Reed's powerful story.  After struggling with infertility, Stephanie unexpectedly lost her husband Steve in a tragic accident just months before giving birth to their daughter whom they had together waited and prayed for. Stephanie openly shares her experience with grief and loss and the healing that she has experienced.

Related Episodes You May Like:

Ep. 11 - The Stages of Grief

Ep. 13 - Grief - Stephanie’s Powerful Story of Loss and Healing (Part 2)

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You can also email us at [email protected]

{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

Grief is often a painful and intimidating subject for people to address. The feelings that they bring up can be overwhelming and cause you to want to run and hide, or maybe even pretend that it's not there. In this episode we help you to better understand what the stages of grief are and to normalize your feelings and experiences. First, let's address that grief is not synonymous solely with death, but rather with loss. What kind of loss have you experienced lately? Loss of trust? Loss of respect? Loss of safety or security? Loss of freedom? Loss of a pet? Loss of a friendship? Loss of financial security? Loss of self-confidence?  We could go on and on. 

Let's talk stages....or rather waves. Grief comes in waves, and sometimes it can feel like you're drowning.

Grief Stages/Waves:

Denial / Shock

Anger / Frustration

Bargaining (what if... if only...)

Depression / Sadness

Acceptance

Other Episodes You May Like:

Other Episodes You May Like:

Ep. 12 - Grief - Stephanie’s Powerful Story of Loss & Healing(Part 1)

Ep. 13 - Grief - Stephanie’s Powerful Story of Loss and Healing (Part 2)

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You can also email us at [email protected]

{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

Boundaries! Many people struggle with knowing what are appropriate boundaries and when to implement them. If you struggle with boundaries, the idea of saying "no" to someone will probably make you cringe, however, if you would like to feel less stressed and less burn out, learning to say "no" more often is the exact prescription that you need.  In today's episode we introduce the basics of boundaries and how those who have good boundaries are often happier and more loving.

We give 10 examples of types of boundaries: 

External Boundaries: 

1) Skin

2) Words

3) Geographical distance

4) Emotional distance

5) Time

6) Consequences

Internal Boundaries: 

7) Feelings

8) Attitudes and Beliefs

9) Choices

10) Internal Limits

Book resource mentioned:  "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of your Life." by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

Today is the final part of our EMDR series where we will share how EMDR helped Tim become Tim 2.0 and now even Tim 6.0.

EMDR is one of the few things that sounds too good to be true, but isn't.  Listening to his story might help you understand how EMDR can help you improve and see significant growth in your daily life even based off of correcting "little t" traumas or disturbances.

YouTube video: Timothy Olson EMDR-  https://youtu.be/icn-FnZpWeM

Book: "Getting Past Your Past" by Francine Shapiro 

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Related Episodes You May Like: 

Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma

Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 8 - (Pt. 2) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 61 - Is Trauma Causing Conflict in Your Relationship?

{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

This is Part 2 of our 3 part EMDR series.

In the last episode we introduced the basics of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Today we'll use a quick example of how EMDR helped our 7 year old daughter increase her confidence and improve her ability to handle difficult situations.

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You can also email us at [email protected]

Related Episodes You May Like: 

Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma

Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 9 - (Pt. 3) - What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?

Ep. 61 - Is Trauma Causing Conflict in Your Relationship?

{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}