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What is on your mind lately that might be causing reoccurring pain and trauma in your life? Is there room for forgiveness?

Why is it important for us to forgive? When we hold onto things and stay stuck in past emotions, we are robbing ourselves of moving forward, and allowing light in. 

Our minds are powerful. We might be experiencing mental blocks that are really preventing us from experiencing our life in its full glory. If we are constantly living in the past, we won’t see what is ahead of us. Michelle provides listeners with some tangible ways to start a process of forgiveness.

ALSO! Michelle shares some huge news about her first event this year! She is hosting a live podcast recording event at the Guild Inn in Scarborough. All are welcome. Stay tuned for more information. 

On this episode we dive into: 

• Forgiveness as a necessary step in your self-love and development journey
• Reflecting on past experiences that are preventing you from moving forward 
• Being conscious of living too much in the past, and missing out on the blessings in our present
• How to process forgiveness
• How gratitude is a really important to step in the forgiveness process

The Take Home:

We all have a past that has shaped us into who we are today. But our past is not always pretty. When we hold onto past experiences and sit in suffering, we are not embracing all of the blessings that are in our current lives.

Michelle journals as a tool to help in her forgiveness processes. Sometimes she even writes letters and burns them - especially on a full moon!

Talking with a therapist about guilt, shame or regret you might be holding onto is also a really important step in your self-care journey. Check out Greenspace to be set up with a therapist that is right for you!

https://www.greenspacehealth.com/en-ca

Book Recommendation:

The Body Keeps the Score- Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D

Get in touch with Michelle Wolfe:

Instagram: @themichellewolfe

Muve Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Website: themichellewolfe.com

Interested in joining our Mastermind? Email Michelle today.

A question from listener, Alana: I’m a perfectionist, I’d love some tips on how to be less of a perfectionist. It can often be very tiring! . 

As a witness to perfectionists, Dana feels empathy for you, Alana. It takes a lot of effort and work to change deep patterns and habits in our lives. Use mindfulness as a way to help become aware of harmful patterns and habits.

What is the motivation behind perfectionism? There are many deep layers to perfectionism, it is a very personal journey to explore. Decide what you truly love about yourself and show yourself grace.

On this episode we dive into: 

• The life as a perfectionist 
• Giving yourself grace, perfectionism is embedded in us from a young age
• Breaking out of societal norms
• Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) might be an option to look into
• Creating and embracing what you believe is imperfect, and perfect

The Take Home:

Both Dana and Michelle have very easy going and their personalities are often in flow. But they can relate with the concept of being a perfectionist. The only reason we feel unworthy is because we are comparing ourselves to other people who we deem is perfect. It is a tiring cycle of judgement and comparison. 

Dana reminds us, we are all perfect, imperfections and all.

“Leave who you were, love who you are. Look forward to who you will become.” -unknown

Ps. If you have something you’d like to ask us, send us a message and we’ll add it to our list!! Xx

Get in touch with Michelle or Dana: 

Michelle Wolfe

Instagram: @themichellewolfe

Muve Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Website: www.themichellewolfe.com 

Dana Ruby Martin

Instagram: @danarubymartin

Website: www.revivalbymartinandco.com 

Stay tuned for the Gratitude Collection! Use code MUVE15 while you shop!

Celina is an entrepreneur and educator with an MBA in Organizational Psychology. From politics, to entrepreneurial-ship, this conversation is refreshing and absolutely important!

Celina grew up in a very strict household. When she talks about her Mom, she reflects on a line in her book, Can You Hear Me Now,  “I feared her, while she feared for me, therefore she treated me the way she knew the world would.” 

Celina talks about the difficult life lessons she learned as she started to explore the world, outside of a strict foundational upbringing, how she parents her three children, why she entered the political world and what lead her to writing her book, Can You Hear Me Now.

Celina talks about the micro-aggressions, sexism and racism that she experienced in politics as the only black female in her environment. She exposes the true un-belonging that is felt throughout the system of the white male’s club that is politics. Celina uses this as fuel as she so eloquently says to empower us, if she is not protected as an elected political official, how are our front line, minimum wage workers being treated? She feels an immense responsibility and love for her community to speak out and up. 

On this episode we dive into: 

• Breaking down intergenerational trauma
• The gender imbalances that arise in a family dynamic
• Learning the profound lessons from our mistakes 
• Sharing what the political boardroom looks like to create inclusivity
• Being unapologetic about expressing our values and principles
• What it looks like to fight for equity
• Using our privilege to make other’s lives easier
• Micro-aggressions and lack of accountability amongst white populations, specifically in politics 
• Reorganizing the structure of institutions to be equitable
• Celina’s book, Can You Hear Me Now, and why it is one of the most important reads of 2021

The take-home: 

How do we hold onto our values and principles in politics, or life, if they aren’t anchored and unwavering? “I am unwavering in my advocacy because I know what that hurt feels like. I advocate because I know what it feels like to be marginalized. To be sitting somewhere and thinking that nobody hears your voice, that they know what’s happening to you is wrong but they still aren’t protecting you.”

We had an opportunity in Canada to lead against racism and it has not been addressed. Celina’s story about being blatantly gaslit and unprotected is one that we all need to hear. She provides us with profound metaphors in understanding deep oppressive processes. Thank you, Celina.

Make change now:

1.) Choosing to understanding the roots of the racism in our country. We have a choice to be racist or anti-racist.

2.) We have to have an empathic courage. Include BIPOC in conversations to develop better policy. 

Book Recommendations:

Can You Hear Me Now- Celina Caesar-Chavannes

How Will You Measure Your Life?- Clayton M. Christensen

How to Be An Anti-Racist- Ibram X. Kendi

Where to find Celina Caesar-Chavannes: 

Instagram- @iamcelinacc #canyouhearmenow

Website- https://www.celinacc.ca

Get in touch with Michelle:

The Muve Collective: www.themichellewolfe.com

Instagram: @themichellewolfe 

Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Email: [email protected]

Today Dana and Michelle talk about self-image.

A question from listener, Melissa: I’ve built a good life, I’m fairly successful, I have the house, the dog and the two kids but I feel like I’m not happy with who I am. I don’t know what it is that would make me feel better but I know I have more to offer and I have many passions that I’d love to try but how to get started? I’m scared and confused with where to start. 

We’ve all been here, Melissa (even if it looks like crying on the bathroom floor). Don’t look at the entire mountain of your passions, take it one step at a time, so that it’s not overwhelming and you don’t start to make excuses toward your own self-fulfillment. 

We don’t know what the path is going to look like, to self-fulfillment. It’s about taking the first steps forward. 

On this episode we dive into: 

• Filling our own cups
• Getting side-tracked away from ourselves
• Establishing healthy habits as a way to start working toward your bigger passions
• Creating a self-image script
• Asking ourselves, how do we want to feel?
• What’s the most important thing for you to focus on right now? Pick that! 

The Take Home:

When it comes to following and embracing our passions, both Dana and Michelle urge us to take small steps and create small habits to achieve the bigger goals. Dana picks the “co-create” card and it reminds us to create and manifest our realities! 

When you’re setting your intentions, consider setting a mantra for yourself that starts with “I am”..

Journal Prompts:

How do you want to feel? What do you want your life to look like?

“Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and be who you are.”- Brene Brown

Ps. If you have something you’d like to ask us, send us a message and we’ll add it to our list!! Xx

Get in touch with Michelle or Dana: 

Michelle Wolfe

Instagram: @themichellewolfe

Muve Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Website: www.themichellewolfe.com 

Dana Ruby Martin

Instagram: @danarubymartin

Website: www.revivalbymartinandco.com 

Stay tuned for the Gratitude Collection! And use code MUVE15 while you shop!

How do you go about reshaping your life? If you’re on the verge of needing to change certain aspects of your life, start small by changing certain habits you have. 

When someone mentions your name, what would you want them to say about you?

In this episode, Michelle inspires us to be intentional when it comes to shaping our lives. We don’t want to continue living in old habits if they aren’t serving us anymore. We have the power to create a life that we love.

On this episode we dive into: 

• The power of creating our self-image
• What defines who we are?
• What type of tool belt do you need to buy yourself to change roles in your life?
• How our health and wellness habits shape who we are
• What is your love language? This part of knowing yourself is an important aspect in developing strong relationships.

The Take Home:

How do we become proactive in our lives, instead of reactive? Mindfulness and recognizing old thought patterns that aren’t serving us, hold plenty of power when it comes to creating change. 

Michelle challenges listeners to create their self image script in the next 48 hours by answering these questions: Who are you? What do you do? How do you provide for or help others? What do you wear, look and speak like? Who do you surround yourself with? How do you spend your time? How do you support your community? 

Book Recommendation:

Get in touch with Michelle Wolfe:

Instagram: @themichellewolfe

Muve Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Website: themichellewolfe.com

Interested in joining our Mastermind? Email Michelle today.

On today’s episode, I chat with Dr. Kate Hazlitt, a Naturopathic Doctor who helps women that are disconnected and burnt out to develop the grit and courage to reclaim their innate bliss.

Kate describes burnout as a period of time when we neglect our truest selves. She believes we are hardwired for bliss - but our society and conditioning have us spending more time outside of ourselves than ever. This means we seek external validation instead of practicing self-compassion, and this is often where the problems initially lay. Dr. Hazlitt also touches on how our self-neglect will show up as physical symptoms and to treat what we notice, we must focus on what we cannot see!

On this episode we dive into: 

• Disconnection and burnout.
• How a connection to yourself allows for a more fulfilling life.
• How self-neglect manifests into physical symptoms.
• How to practice self-compassion.
• Setting boundaries.
• Rhythmic commitment.

The take-home: 

Oftentimes we find ourselves going to the Doctors with symptoms like anxiety, chronic headaches, or skin conditions thinking that the problem we see is the problem, but Dr. Hazlitt describes though, how our self-neglect will show up as physical symptoms in our body. Dr. Hazitt’s noticed in herself that her burnouts were cyclical. She would work hard for a long time and then as soon as she had holidays, she would fall ill. Upon noticing this pattern, she came to realize that her symptoms were due to her lack of self-compassion which resulted in her being “a mixed bag of hot mess”.

Kate also said, “Most people know what they need to do, but they don’t”. Meaning that too many of us neglect our deepest desires or our truest selves. But if you do the work, like I know many of you are, then you can identify the areas in which you need the most compassion! 

Every person walking this planet, including you, warriors, has the potential inside of you to harness and then practice, self-compassion. And this is exactly what you need to prevent yourself from the agony of burning out!

Get in touch with Dr. Kate Hazlitt

Instagram Handle: @drkatehazlittnd
8 week Program - Burnout to Bliss: https://goodearthnaturopathic.thrivecart.com/burnout-to-bliss-8-week-program/

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What would you do if you won the lottery? Michelle asks around and reflects on her own answers to this question. 

Michelle shares the 100 reasons why we should all be millionaires by using the book, We Should All Be Millionaires, by Rachel Rodgers, to outline the “why” behind having more money. Listen to the list of quotes she reads us and feel intense inspiration and motivation.

What is your why? Why do you want money? Knowing your WHY is the first step in financial success.

On this episode we dive into: 

• Money holding us back 
• What financial freedom means for you
• Being financially independent and free to change the world
• Changing generational scarcity 
• The way women view money, and what they would do specifically 

The Take Home:

Michelle shares a valuable and profound list of quotes around money. Every single quote, from 1-100, will bring a sense of clarity, confidence and motivation for you. Consider your relationship with money, is it one of scarcity or abundance? Finding our why behind financial success is the first step in being financially abundant and secure. 

Journal Question:

What would your life look like if you had more money? Be very specific, down to the clothes you’ll buy, the number in your account, the people you’d share with, even the soft sheets you’ll buy yourself! 

Book Recommendation:

We Should All be Millionaires, Rachel Rodgers

Get in touch with Michelle Wolfe:

Instagram: @themichellewolfe

Muve Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Website: themichellewolfe.com

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From listener, Lindsey: I have daughters and I want to make sure I’m helping them feel confident with who they are. What advice would you give?

It starts with YOU. If you are sharing your own confidence and owning where you’re at, your children will absorb that. If you’re constantly putting your body down or picking yourself apart in the mirror, so will they. Wherever you are most confident, invite them in.  

Show your kids that it is ok to make mistakes! Because your children will be more inclined to try something new if they know that it’s ok to make mistakes. 

On this episode we dive into: 

• Clearing our social media feeds to feed our confidence not our insecurities 
• Raising confident daughters 
• Being conscious of how we show our own confidence around our children 
• Being honest with our kids if we aren’t confident in a certain moment, to bring a sense of humble to a situation 
• Dana pulls a card that reminds us to breathe and remain patient

The Take Home:

A reminder from Dana, we aren’t aiming for perfection, we are aiming for a good time. Michelle recalls moments in which she shares her apprehensiveness to new experiences in front of her daughter, but she sees that it helps take the pressure off of her and she can be herself in these moments. When others around us are vulnerable with us, we can be vulnerable too. 

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: 

More Than a Body by Lexie and Lindsay Kite

"If you don’t have confidence you’ll always find a way not to win.”- Carl Lewis

Ps. If you have something you’d like to ask us, send us a message and we’ll add it to our list!! Xx

Get in touch with Michelle or Dana: 

Michelle Wolfe

Instagram: @themichellewolfe

Muve Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Website: www.themichellewolfe.com 

Dana Ruby Martin

Instagram: @danarubymartin

Website: www.revivalbymartinandco.com 

Stay tuned for the Gratitude Collection! 

On today’s episode, I chat with Jenny B, public speaker, and leadership coach! In the past year and a half, many of us have lost jobs, loved ones, and honestly? Even our minds at times - as did Jenny. Having lost all of her income streams within 48 hours, she managed to pivot when she needed to the most, and continue to share her gifts with the world!

On this episode we dive into: 

• Bouncing back after losing it all.
• Navigating relationships during times of struggle.
• Leaning on your partner when you need to.
• How to believe in yourself.
• Finding blessings through hard times.
• Using your own wisdom daily.

The take-home: 

Jenny has been a public speaker for over 15 years helping people to believe in themselves and inspiring them to become leaders! But once the COVID19 pandemic hit, her entire career path had changed. Her story will inspire you to, “stop drinking your own kool-aid”, and instead, start believing that you always have something to offer to the world!

Jenny, like all of us, had been impacted due to all of the changes that happened to our world in 2020. Within 48 hours she lost her job, all streams of income, and her tenant even pulled a “midnight move” without warning. Financial stress quickly seeped into her life, as her husband lost his job too. But none of this stopped her from continuing to believe in herself.

Although times were tough and there was no end in sight of COVID19, Jenny and her husband helped pull each other out of their funk together and find a way to thrive. “I believe that I have things within me that people need.” Jenny claims, “I believe in myself and I teach others to believe in themselves too - and so who would I be if I didn’t do that?” Staying optimistic and continuing to move forward is what got her and her husband through. Well, that, and his realist views to help balance them out. One thing that Jenny says she is beyond grateful for is the ability to help her partner believe in himself and also having a partner who brings her back down to earth when she needs it, “because after all, we still need to pay our taxes…”

Jenny compares rough times in life to exercising. If you want to see your muscles grow, you have to endure some pain. They will stretch, tear, and swell but, “It’s the hard things that sharpen us.” she says.  

I know many of you, warriors, are going through hard times yourself, whether related to COVID19 or not, and Jenny is living proof that the only thing standing in your way preventing you from moving forward - is you. So what do you say, is it time you get out of your own way and start believing in yourself? I think so! And what better day to start, then today!

Get in touch with with Jenny B

Website: www.jennyb.ca
Insta: @jennyb_yyz

Are you embarking on a new path in your life? Did the pandemic completely shift your life around? Then, change is upon you.

Divorce rates are up 30% during the pandemic. Many women have been driven out of the workforce to become sole care providers for their family. Everyone has been affected by the pandemic. 

Mindfulness during times of change can be the support system you need. Surround yourself with friends who hype you up and cheer you on, listen to your favorite music or podcasts, eat food that makes you feel well and move your body. Even join the Mastermind that Michelle hosts with her friend Shelby Hayle. It is an incredible group of women who share with and empower each other.

On this episode we dive into: 

• Embracing change as inevitable events in life 
• Being open to change 
• The waves of emotions we feel during change 
• The self-doubt that surfaces during change
• Trusting the process, even the painful parts

The Take Home:

If you’re on a feel-good trajectory but are feeling totally-normal fear or hesitancy, Michelle is here to cheer you on! Embrace fresh starts for yourself. 

Think about something in the past that was really hard for you; a breakup, a loss, anything that was devastating in the moment but you got through it. Use that power to fuel you through the next big move you’re making. Difficult experiences transform us. 

Get in touch with Michelle:

Michelle Wolfe

Instagram: @themichellewolfe

Muve Collective Instagram: @muvecollective

Website: themichellewolfe.com

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