If you have ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” I have been there.

For years I did everything that looked right on paper: medical school, psychiatry training, fellowships, more certifications.

And... I still did not have the tools to feel safe in my own body or steady in my closest relationships.

In this week’s episode, I share the honest version of my story.

What did not work for me.

What finally did.

And the most important one ... Why my healing is imperfect and still ongoing.

Don't misunderstand me, I still get triggered...What’s different now is that I know how to return to safety, calm, and connection, without abandoning myself or the people I love.

In this episode you will hear:

03:41 One essential ingredient every healing journey needs

13:05 How early beliefs can become trauma later in life

19:58 The moment things started to change for me

22:34 Why I kept repressing emotions and the cost of it

27:56 Even as a psychiatrist, I did not know how to be in relationships

34:15 I still get suspicious and scared, and the practice that brings me back

35:14 The quickest and most permanent path I have found for real healing

If any part of my story mirrors yours, please remember this: you are not behind and you are not broken.

Your path is unique and it is workable.

I hope it gives you language, hope, and a few practical next steps for your own path.

P.S. Content note: I briefly reference family violence and suicide from my past. If that is tender for you, choose a time and setting that feel supportive. If you need help, reach out to your local crisis resources.

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