Narcissistic abuse. Female narcissist. Gaslighting. Trauma bond. Smear campaigns. Covert narcissist.

This episode of The Narc Free Man Podcast is a raw guide for men rebuilding after a toxic relationship. Before the abuse, during the chaos, and after the break—here's how to get your power back.

In this narc free man podcast episode, Phillip Dugas walks through the 3 phases of recovery (Before → During → After) and the 6-Pillar Rebuild Method so you stop doubting your reality, break the trauma bond, and become the stronger 2.0 version of yourself. Real DMs, real client stories, zero fluff—just tactics that work.

What you'll learn

Why you were targeted: loyalty, faith, steadiness—and how those strengths were twisted

How abuse actually works: mirroring → confusion → punishment → crumbs (the trauma-bond loop)

Invisible damage: cognitive fog, shame, insomnia, gut issues, isolation, parental alienation

Four attacks when you pull away: fake sweet, threats, shame, control

6-Pillar Rebuild Method:

Radical responsibility (your future is yours)

Emotional control (Gray Rock + BIFF, no midnight essays)

Documentation (facts win, patterns matter)

Strategic exit (quiet prep, legal/financial readiness)

Brotherhood (stop fighting alone)

Purpose beyond survival (mission that doesn't orbit her)

Timestamps

0:00 Intro: Before/During/After framework 1:12 Why good men get targeted 3:35 Confusion is the leash (love-bomb → devalue) 5:18 Trauma bond explained (dopamine/cortisol loop) 7:02 Hidden costs: mental, emotional, physical, relational 8:10 How calm consistency wins time with your kids 9:02 The four attacks when you detach 10:00 The 6-Pillar Rebuild Method (step by step) 12:05 FAQs: "Will she change?", "How do I help my kids?", "What if no one believes me?" 13:30 Your next 3 moves (decide, detach with a plan, brotherhood)

Tools & resources

1:1 Coaching (exit & recovery plan): https://www.phillipcdugas.com/zoom-call-advice-coaching

Book — How To Leave a Female Narcissist (9 steps):

https://www.phillipcdugas.com/how-to-leave-a-female-narcissist

Brotherhood / Men's Community: https://www.phillipcdugas.com/narc-free-brotherhood

Key takeaways

You're not broken—you were bonded.

The opposite of abuse isn't revenge; it's self-leadership.

Calm, consistent, documented fatherhood beats the smear.

Freedom isn't getting your old self back; it's building the man she can't move.

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