By McKay Christensen
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There are two primary sources of unhappiness: living focused on the wrong things, and living in a way not in harmony with what matters most to you. Today, McKay opens our eyes to see why we need to discover what matters most to us and how to live in harmony with our values to live a happy and purposeful life.
In this episode, McKay tells the story of the integrity possessed by Tony Finau, a man who valued honesty and decided to live with his values. He goes on to discuss the reasons why many are unhappy, the importance of deciding what matters most to you, and ways to identify your governing values. As McKay makes clear here today, when you become a light, and not a judge, and write down your governing values, you become set on your way to a happier and better life.
The Finer Details of This Episode:
- Tony Finau’s integrity
- The sources of unhappiness in life
- Why you have to decide what matters most
- How to live in harmony with what matters most
- Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony- the pursuit of what matters
- How do you determine what matters most to you?
- Ways to identify your governing values
- Be a light, not a judge
- Living in harmony with your chosen values
- The power of planning your day
Quotes:
“To be happy and to pursue a purposeful life we have to decide what matters most and then seek to live in harmony with what matters.”
“A deal is a deal. A handshake is a handshake. Integrity is integrity.”
“It seems like selfishness, operating without common respect, and other such things, are the trades growing in our society.”
“Be yourself, but be that perfectly.”
“Our daily actions are in line with what matters most to us.”
“Our purpose in life is to become the best we can be, to become a person of noble actions and virtues.”
“We only have one life on this earth. I mean, I haven't heard of anyone going around for a second try, and if we aren't doing what matters most, then what in fact are we doing?”
“You must take responsibility for your belief window and remove the erroneous beliefs on that window.”
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Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen
In this latest episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay delves into how lessons from football, business, and life can shape leadership and influence. Building upon a foundation featuring the legendary strategies of NFL coach Bill Walsh, our host unpacks the ways in which teamwork, preparation, and foresight are essential to becoming a leader of influence in any field.
McKay highlights Walsh's remarkable transformation of the San Francisco 49ers, emphasizing key leadership principles such as talent recruitment, organizational excellence, and seizing opportunities. Through this and other compelling stories, listeners learn how successful leaders anticipate challenges, foster a culture of accountability, and inspire teams through humility and authenticity. The episode underscores that great leadership isn’t just about strategy—it's about genuinely investing in people and creating a clear vision for success. Ultimately, McKay reminds us all that true influence stems from preparation, belief in others, and bold, decisive action.
Episode Highlights:"Everything Walsh did was to gain influence over the hearts and minds of his team."
"Leaders of influence know it's not about the shoes, but what you do in them."
"In your organization, be a first-class noticer. Learn from mistakes and seize opportunities."
"Recruiting and finding talent is key. You are only as good as your people."
"Leaders with influence force everyone in the organization to think at a higher level."
"Anticipating the what-ifs makes you a better leader and a leader of influence."
"Success doesn’t care what road you take to its doorstep."
"Walsh's leadership wasn’t just about strategy—it was about instilling confidence and clarity in his team."
"Humility is perhaps the greatest quality of a leader of influence."
"Great leaders believe in their people, and that belief permeates every action."
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Today, McKay brings to us an important topic - starting your impossible. Recognizing that we all have to face what appears to be the absolutely unachievable from time to time, McKay shares with listeners, using real world examples, how to start and keep doing the impossible.
He begins the episode describing the accomplishments of the Wright brothers, who, through the challenges associated with air travel, were able to do the impossible. McKay also speaks about finding inspiration as the path to success just like the Wright brothers did, the impact of walking with giants, and why social learning is effective for doing the impossible. He rounds off the episode with a story about some wives who showed immense courage and encourages us to forge our own courage by building our optimism so we can start our own impossible.
The Finer Details of This Episode:
- The impossible challenges that came with air flight in the past
- How the Wright brothers dared the impossible
- Otto Lilienthal’s impact on the Wright brothers’ success
- Why you need an inspiration to start the impossible
- Why do Alcoholics Anonymous have high success rates?
- John Woolman’s mission
- Walking with giants
- The reason why social learning works
- The power of faith in doing the impossible
- The castle of the loyal wives
- Gathering courage for the impossible
- Keeping your optimism for courage
Quotes:
“We all have the impossible from time to time - a change needs to happen, but it seems impossible.”
“You need a connection with other people where you can find inspiration.”
“The people with which you surround yourself have a huge impact on how you see yourself, your challenges, and your ability to face those challenges.”
“When you learn from others, and you learn from ongoing interaction with others, you store those memories with emotion, and, as a result, they're more powerfully recalled and used.”
“I believe that the moment you let faith into your life, you will see more power and peace enter into your life. You worry less, you trust more.”
“There is power in faith. Faith is an enabling power. ”
“Open your eyes to the fact that you can do what you set out to do.”
“Courage is the mental or moral strength to resist opposition, danger or hardship. It implies firmness of mind and will in the face of extreme difficulty.”
“The truth is that whenever you're facing the impossible at its deepest, most fundamental level, it requires courage.”
“We must fix our minds on the fact that we can do the impossible, and we have to decide in advance that it is worth it.”
“Find your courage.”
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In this latest installment of Open Your Eyes, McKay examines the powerful impact of the narratives we create and how they shape our lives. By sharing compelling stories of individuals who overcame immense challenges, the episode emphasizes the importance of consciously crafting life stories that inspire growth and change.
McKay begins with Japan’s historical rise as a world power, leading to the story of Hiroo Onoda, a soldier who remained committed to his mission for decades after World War II, believing the war had not ended. He then shifts to the inspiring life of Jessica Cox, born without arms, who defied the odds to become the world’s first armless pilot. The narrative continues with William Kamkwamba, whose determination to harness wind energy transformed his village in Malawi. McKay also reflects on Alice Sommer, a Holocaust survivor who found solace in music, and Mother Teresa, who, despite deep spiritual struggles, remained dedicated to her mission. These stories, along with McKay’s personal anecdotes about his daughter illustrate how the narratives we embrace can either limit us or empower us to achieve greatness.
Main Themes:
Key Quotes:
"The stories we tell ourselves, the deep-seated beliefs we all hold, shape our reality in ways that go beyond what seems rational."
"Hiroo Onoda continued his mission for 30 years, driven by a narrative he believed was true."
"Jessica Cox didn’t let her physical limitations define her, choosing instead to rewrite her life story."
"William Kamkwamba’s narrative of education and belief transformed not just his life, but his entire community."
"Our job as parents is to give our children the experiences to write their own narratives."
"Music saved Alice Sommer’s life, providing a narrative of beauty and positivity amidst the horrors of a concentration camp."
"Even in the face of spiritual darkness, Mother Teresa crafted a narrative of unwavering commitment to her mission."
"Reflecting on your life story can help you open your eyes to your true potential."
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Do you ever wonder why some people know exactly where they’re headed and are willing to take calculated risks? Why, no matter what they face, they are determined and have clear-headed goals? They have the power of positive reframing.
In this episode, McKay gives insights to what positive reframing is about, beginning with the story of the scientist, Galileo, and how he was able to reframe his mindset despite criticism. McKay also shares his personal story of reframing, goes on to discuss the benefits of reframing your mindset, and finishes by sharing some reframing tools that you can use to help get you started.
The Finer Details of This Episode:
Quotes:
“People who are not moved seem to have a fixed view and the ability to only see their end goal.”
“This prevailing view interprets all that goes on in your life.”
“Too many of us fail to take calculated risks in life.”
“What lens are you looking through? What is your frame of reference? What telescope, so to speak, is forming or framing your belief?”
“You've got it inside you. Step up and be yourself.”
“The stuff of life is made from a new purpose.”
“Everything in your life has improved by passion and challenge.”
“Doubt is a mental habit, and it can, and does, spread to other areas of your life.”
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again.”
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The transformative power of perspective-taking is the focus of this week’s episode as McKay examines its role in personal growth, stronger relationships, and deepened compassion. Drawing upon his vast store of inspiring stories and examples, McKay highlights how viewing life through the lens of others can lead to profound changes in our understanding and interactions.
Among these narratives, our host recounts Nikola Jokić's remarkable act of empathy during the recent Olympics, illustrating the impact of seeing beyond our own experiences. He also discusses the developmental journey of perspective-taking in children and shares stories of how this ability can foster compassion in the face of adversity, such as the inspiring forgiveness shown by a grieving father. By reflecting on these diverse examples, McKay encourages listeners to embrace new perspectives, ultimately leading to personal growth and more meaningful connections with others.
Episode Highlights:Key Takeaways:
"There’s great power when you put on the perspective of another person."
"Perspective-taking is arguably the single greatest aspect of our uniqueness in the animal kingdom."
"Our perspective is our version of reality, shaped by our experiences."
"When we open ourselves to seeing life through the lens of another, it’s like looking through a telescope rather than a microscope."
"We see the world as we are, not as it is."
"The more you see things from another person’s view, the more your paradigms will change."
"Seeing another’s view is so much more rewarding and fulfilling than the things we often get upset about in our everyday lives."
"By putting on someone else’s glasses, you may find your view of the world, and yourself, becomes more complete."
"Perspective-taking is the foundation for one of the most powerful tools through which we can relate to and build relationships with others."
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In this episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay explores the theme of admiration, examining why certain individuals capture our respect and reverence. By delving into the annual Gallup poll on the most admired men and women, McKay sheds light on the lives of a number of famous figures, offering profound insights into living admirably.
Sharing such inspiring stories as Billy Graham's devout faith and service, Queen Elizabeth's unexpected rise to the throne, and their enduring legacies, our host goes on to highlight the admirable qualities found in everyday people, such as perseverance, courage, and genuine kindness. By showcasing how ordinary actions can lead to extraordinary admiration, he also emphasizes the role of resilience, low-key generosity, and the power of genuine compliments. Join McKay here today as he celebrates the impact of these admirable traits and encourages us all to adopt these qualities to foster personal growth and greater fulfillment in life.
Episode Highlights:
Quotes:
"Our view is critical to our happiness and success."
"Queen Elizabeth II never expected to become queen, but history demonstrated her talent."
"Graham was known as America's pastor, admired for his goodness and self-declared imperfections."
"It's interesting how even in the midst of activity, we can have a sudden sense of loneliness."
"People admire your pursuit of your goals when you're willing to try despite challenges."
"Jan Koum took a bold step to create WhatsApp, facing numerous setbacks but believing in its potential."
"Muhammad Ali started his career speaking of his own greatness but finished it speaking of the greatness of others."
"The rewards that await us in the hereafter may likely be those that we did not seek for ourselves here on earth."
"Living our life in a way that is worthy of admiration is an excellent way to live."
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What do you do when something does not go as planned? What’s the way forward? McKay provides the simple answer to this - pivot to what’s next. So many people get frustrated when things go wrong and forget that, as McKay demonstrates today, asking and doing what’s next is the path of happiness.
He starts the episode with the story of Karen McWatters who lost her leg and a close friend in the Boston Marathon bombings. Despite the adversities Karen encountered, she asked herself ‘What next?’, and went on to find opportunities even in the face of despair. McKay then talks about the power of asking ‘What’s next?’, how it can propel us to move forward, and the importance of developing the habit of ‘What’s next?’, as well as ways to develop this habit. The episode rounds off with McKay drawing lessons from the life of Rachel Ray who went on to start a new path by focusing on what’s next. There is great power to be found in posing and answering this simple question - listen in today to hear how it can change your life.
The Finer Details of This Episode:
- The devastating event that made Karen McWatters go on her quest of ‘What’s next?’
- Finding what’s next in horrible circumstances
- The power of ‘Yes, and?’ - lessons from improv
- Why you need to master the habit of ‘What’s next?’
- What is prospective psychology?
- How to think prospectively and why you should
- Harvard University’s study results on happiness in life
- Why the habit of ‘What’s next?’ is important for a happy life - the story of Bill Graham
- Ways to develop the habit of ‘What’s next?’
- Removing the ticks in your life
- Starting another path - lessons from Rachel Ray’s life
Quotes:
“Her attitude of ‘What's next?’ changed everything.”
“’Yes’ is awareness and acceptance and appreciation. It means ‘I'm listening’…and is saying ‘What's next?’. It is fueling you with agency and autonomy and action, and is taking a clear step forward to add to whatever you've received.”
“There's tremendous power in developing the habit of ‘What’s next?’”
“Prospective psychology is the practice of creating an image in your mind of your possible future.”
“The habit of ‘What's next?’ helps us to be happy.”
“Over time, researchers observed it's not the bad things that happen to us that determine our happiness, but what we choose to do with those things that matter.”
“Don't let yourself get dragged down into other people's complaints.”
“Even though you might not like the situation you're in, you can choose to accept it, and once you learn to accept what it is and then focus on what you can control in the future, you win. Remember, the only thing that matters is your response.”
“You can't change others, you can't change the past, you can only change your response.”
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Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen
Episode Highlights:
Key Takeaways:
"Phineas Gage's case provided one of the first pieces of evidence that specific areas of the brain are related to particular functions such as personality and social behavior."
"Genie's case also highlighted the importance of social interaction for cognitive and emotional development."
"Researchers concluded that as our annual income rises, so does our emotional well-being, but after a certain point, more money really doesn’t make you more emotionally well."
"Religious individuals are, on average, happier and more satisfied with life than non-religious individuals."
"Sleeping too much is linked to depression, headaches, and heart disease, and the lack of sleep also impacts our well-being."
"Carl Jung explored the concept of our ‘shadow self’, which includes the things we may not be aware of or fully consider."
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
"A person's creative output increased by an average of 60% when walking."
"Love is also a key reason why we do what we do, and being motivated by love is evident in people who are happier and more self-aware."
"Happiness is the only thing in the world that doubles each time you share it."
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Unveiling the power of the unexpected, McKay ushers listeners into yet another captivating episode of the Open Your Eyes podcast here today. As he conducts his exploration into life's unpredictable nature, our host showcases how seemingly random events can spark profound change.
Through the inspiring journeys of Olympic gymnasts Bart Conner and Nadia Comaneci, the episode highlights the impact of chance encounters that led to not only athletic brilliance but also an enduring partnership. From tales of paleontologist Sue Hendrickson's hunch leading to the most complete T-Rex skeleton, to Tom Selleck's fortuitous television appearance launching his acting career, the podcast emphasizes the importance of embracing life's detours. By remaining open to the whispers of intuition and unexpected encounters, McKay empowers listeners to find joy, forge connections, and discover their own extraordinary path in the ever-unfolding story of life.
Episode Highlights:
Key Takeaways:
"You are filled with immense potential, and sometimes seeing things in a new way can unlock that potential."
"From a chance meeting at a gymnastics competition to building a life together, their journey is a reminder that the future is often unpredictable."
"Bandura believes that chance encounters with people and circumstances are the prominent forces that shape our life."
"Sue Hendrickson found one of the most complete T-Rex skeletons ever discovered because she followed a hunch."
“The journey of life is a tapestry woven with threads of uncertainty, possibility, and resilience.”
“Embracing the idea that ‘you never know’ empowers us to navigate life's challenges with courage and curiosity.”
“So today, take a chance, introduce yourself, try something new, follow a hunch, listen to the voice inside that gives you a little inspiration.”
Links:
https://www.mckaychristensen.org/
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