The Art of Charm

Overcoming Fear of Other People’s Opinions | Dr. Michael Gervais


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In today’s episode, we cover self-mastery with Dr. Michael Gervais. Michael is one of the world's top high performance psychologists and leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance, and the author of The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying about What People Think of You.


Being social creatures is a double edged sword because we can rely on others to survive and get ahead in life, but with that comes the crippling concern of what others think about us, so how do you disregard the opinions of others so you can focus your efforts on what you need to do to reach your potential?


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  • Introduction – 0:00
  • What is FOPO and why is one of the greatest constrictors of human potential?
  • Why is FOPO the first step to mastery?

    • Overcome the doubt that crushes everyone else – 12:17
    • How do you stop worrying about what everyone thinks of you?
    • How do you make yourself significantly more attractive without changing anything about your outward appearance?  

      • What do pros do under pressure that no one else does – 23:20
      • What is Ricky Fowler’s secret to excelling under the same pressure that crushes amateur athletes?
      • What is the difference between a performance-based mindset and a purpose-based mindset?

        • The secret to living a life most people never can – 33:38
        • What steps can you take to focus on your purpose and disregard the opinions and expectations of everyone around you?

          • Lone wolves will never reach the same level these people do – 44:58
          • What prevents loners from reaching their full potential?
          • Why do you need other people in order to reach your full potential?

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