Overpowering Emotions: Tools for Child & Teen Anxiety and Resilience

By Dr. Caroline BuzankoParenting Kids & Family

Overpowering Emotions: Tools for Child & Teen Anxiety and Resilience episodes

August 02, 2022 43. How do we build emotion regulation? With Dr. Hank Weisinger
As part of the Emotion Regulation Skill Building series, I am extremely excited to welcome Dr. Hendrie Weisinger to the show to talk about how parents can help promote their children's emotion regulation skills.

Dr. Weisinger is a leading authority on the application of emotional intelligence and anger management and the originator of the highly regarded techniques of criticism training as well as a pioneer in the emerging field of "pressure management" - including parenting.

Check out more of Dr. Weisinger at:

@PressureTweets
www.hankweisingerphd.com

And you can find his book The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure: A Positive Approach to Pushing your Child to Be Their Best Self on Amazon at https://www.amazon.ca/Unlikely-Art-Parental-Pressure-Positive/dp/0306874776
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50 min
July 26, 2022 42. How can we build children’s emotion regulation skills? Part 5: Responding in helpful ways to create safety
I have talked lots about responding effectively to anxiety and other big feelings. It is critical I address it again in this skills-building series because, even if we don't ever get to the kids' skill-building, how adults respond to big emotions when they show up makes all the difference in the world. And hearing it again is important because parents need lots of reminders and practice so get unstuck from our habitual (and unhelpful) ways of responding.

Adults need to learn how to become effective emotion coaches. And I talk about how to do this (with one key, easy communication hack parents can master today) in this episode, so be sure to listen in!

You can also check out these resources to help parents become effective communicators with their kiddos.
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19 min
July 19, 2022 41. How can we build children’s emotion regulation skills? Part 4: What co-regulation looks like
I spent the last two weeks talking parental stress and co-regulation. Because they need help. If their emotions overwhelm them, they cannot regulate their emotions on their own. Today I talk about the difference between misbehaviour and stress behaviour as well as what effective co-regulation looks like for kiddos depending on their ages from preschool years all the way up to adulthood.
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40 min
July 12, 2022 40. How can we build children’s emotion regulation skills? Part 3: Modeling vulnerability and coping
In today's episode, we are in Part 3 of the emotion regulation skill-building series.

Last week I talked about the need for parents to manage their stress so they can co-regulate with their upset child (and avoid emotional meltdowns and temper outbursts, which only add to parents' stress).

Above managing stress, there are additional things parents can do to promote their children's emotional literacy and overall emotion regulation skills. Modelling is paramount. Specifically, modelling vulnerability (to help normalize feelings), as well as how we cope with our emotions (in helpful ways). Tune in to learn more!
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33 min
July 05, 2022 39. How can we build children's emotion regulation skills? Part 2: Managing Parental Stress
When we help children develop emotion regulation skills, we first need to start with their environment. Last week I talked about the need for the important people in children's lives to manage their own stress first to be effective co-regulators.

Today I jump right into how to manage stress. Parents are feeling stressed, which has only worsened exponentially since COVID. When we look at the research on the effect of COVID, parents were hit the hardest and are far more stressed than those who did not have children.

Therefore, helping parents manage stress is a major issue we need to address if we have any hope of helping children regulate.

Don't miss out - I am going to talk about the common types of stress and how to manage each.
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25 min
June 28, 2022 38. How can we build children’s emotion regulation skills? Part 1: Systems
Last week I talked about how we cannot focus too much on kids and teens when it comes to emotion regulation. Today I dig into emotion regulation (and how it is NOT self-control) and how there are multiple systems around the child that must be addressed to improve their overall emotional wellbeing because there are so many factors that influence a child's success with managing emotions. I have actually created a resilience pyramid to illustrate the fact that there are multiple considerations to make before we can focus on skill development for our kiddos.

At the end of the day, we need to build not only the child’s, but the family’s - and even community’s and society’s - capacity to cope because each of those influence our kids’ capacity to cope.

Today, I focus on family. I discuss how parental stress is contagious and the importance of building their capacity as effective co-regulators for their children.

Access the resilience pyramid here: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/pyramidofresilience/
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19 min
June 21, 2022 37. Why is a child in therapy on their own a problem?
Today is the first day of my summer series in which I am focusing on emotion regulation and anxiety management skill-building. Over the next two months, the goal here is to help families develop the understanding and skills they need to help children and teens start their new school year off on the right foot.

I have touched on this before, but a major mistake I see is when a therapist is working alone with the child or teen, trying to work on their skill development. However, emotion regulation and anxiety management is a family process. (After all, the greatest predictor of anxiety disorders in kids is having parents who model anxious behaviours.)

When we look at things like resilience and emotion regulation, child skills are the last to develop. (Check out my resilience pyramid: https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/pyramidofresilience/).

Resilience is more about what we receive from the world around us than the skills we have. Therefore, we first need to ensure the environment is set up for emotion regulation success. A key part of that is ensuring that the adults in that child’s life are responding to anxiety and other bog emotions in helpful ways when they show up. And trying to make a child feel better is not helpful.

Parents and caregivers must take the role of active leadership and set boundaries for anxiety and other big emotions. Find out more in today’s episode! And be sure to join me for the rest of the summer where we will be focusing on building parents' and caregivers' co-regulation skills, stress management, and of course, the kiddos' skills in emotion regulation as well.

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19 min
June 14, 2022 36. Why does resilience need opportunity?
I had the wonderful opportunity to chat with Cindy Thompson on her podcast, A Resilience Project, to chat about how to raise happy, confident and resilient kids.

Join us to find out why it is important for our kids to experience challenges and failure, some of the signs of stress to watch for and when to reach out for help.
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46 min
June 07, 2022 35. How do we promote kids' bravery? With Dr. Todd Kashdan
Today I had the incredible opportunity to talk to Dr. Todd Kashdan about bravery. He talks about the fact that, every time we leave the house, there is an opportunity to be brave. We talk about how parents can be good role models for our children, such as moving away from expectations and moving towards intentions and how we want to show up.

Find out more about Dr. Kashdan (https://toddkashdan.com/)

And, check out his awesome new book, The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively. I loved reading every word of it. This book is truly the essential guide for anyone seeking to be heard, make change, and rebel against an unhealthy status quo. And, importantly, he talks about cultivating curiosity, courage, and independent critical thinking in youth.

Find the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Insubordination-Dissent-Defy-Effectively/dp/0593420888

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47 min
May 31, 2022 34. What should we tell children about tragic events (including recent school shootings)?
It seems there have been more and more tragic events happening in our world. With the stress of COVID the past two years, followed by the war in Ukraine, and mass shootings - the most recent last week at an elementary school, it has been emotionally overwhelming to say the least. It can be very difficult to know whether to talk about these events with our children and what to share.

In today's episode, I will review important guidelines to consider before talking to children and teens about tragic events. While the recent events prompted this episode, these guidelines can be used for any emotionally complex and potentially traumatic situation our children may experience.

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41 min

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Child anxiety. Meltdowns. School refusal. Big emotions that take over before kids can think. Overpowering Emotions makes sense of what's really happening beneath the behaviour — for parents,…