Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Paradox of Choice & The Endless Swipe


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How can you have 50+ matches and still no dates? Every conversation either fizzles out or someone reschedules and disappears. And worst of all, you keep seeing the same faces on every app year after year.

A listener named S shares:

"I end up with 50-plus matches like within 48 hours, which okay, great. But then I either get too overwhelmed by so many conversations and endless swiping and all the same people, or I narrow it down and end up with just dead conversations. And there's guys having fantastic phone calls, scheduling dates, then asking for a raincheck without suggesting a date. What is going on?"

In this episode, we talk about the real problem behind dating app burnout we will cover why the algorithm is working against you in the first two weeks, and explain how to protect your energy from people who are keeping you on the hook with no real plan.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

  • Is the paradox of choice really what's holding you back from dates?

  • The dirty little secret about how dating apps

  •  What happens when you treat matches like coins in a fountain instead of fish on a line

  • Why "interest" and "intention" are not the same thing

  • How the one-to-one rule helps you identify who's actually serious

  • When to end conversations with people who are keeping you on the hook

    Ready to get better dates (not just more matches)?

    Grab the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com to learn how to write a dating profile that attracts the right people. It's $9, and the fastest way to stop wasting time on dead conversations.

    Got a question about dating apps, burnout, or mixed signals?

    DM @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave a voicemail or text at 424-246-6255

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