Tara Beall-Gomes is a certified CT and FL therapist who founded Grit and Grace Recovery, which focuses on betrayal trauma, sex, and porn addiction. Together with Dr. Rob she highlights key differences between simple lies and manipulative gaslighting tactics, the impact that gaslighting has on a partnership, and the importance of empowering a gaslit partner after years of not knowing whether they can trust themselves. 

TAKEAWAYS:

[4:11] What is gaslighting from a therapist's perspective? 

[6:13] Gaslighting affects more than your partnership.

[7:44] Patterns in gaslighting, and why they appear. 

[12:35] Simple lies or real gaslighting tactics? 

[15:01] Common couples gaslighting patterns in Tara’s office. 

[20:31] Empowering a gaslit partner. 

[23:04] Defining the ‘victim’ and the ‘problem’. 

[26:33] Learning to trust your gut. 

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

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Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Tara Beall-Gomes

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. 

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