Tara Beall-Gomes and Dr. Rob continue their conversation about next-level gaslighting, including red flag behaviors in therapy, role-playing dialogues that highlight gaslighting language, and the role that a therapist can play in finding closure after years of betrayal. Tara also offers encouragement to a partner that is working to regain their spouses trust, and resources for anyone who is unable to pay for extensive therapy. 

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:25] Now he’s gaslighting our therapist? 

[3:48] Is gaslighting abusive? 

[5:27] Role-play examples of gaslighting, projecting, and controlling. 

[10:58] Shame and empathy with rigorous honesty. 

[15:43] “I knew all along.” Now what? 

[21:37] I can’t believe anything my spouse says. 

[25:25] Identifying the core values that drive our reactions. 

[32:55] The role of your therapist in finding closure. 

[34:50] Red flags in therapy behavior. 

[38:52] Next steps when an addict has support and you don’t.

[43:31] How can a partner ever trust again? 

[46:15] Encouragement and free resources. 

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101 

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Tara Beall-Gomes

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. 

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