Partner suffers from retroactive jealousy? You are not alone.

If your partner suffers from retroactive jealousy, you might feel frustrated, stuck, even exhausted.

I know this because over the years I’ve received hundreds of emails from the partners of retroactive jealousy sufferers.

Typically, their letters go something like this:

My partner suffers from retroactive jealousy. I’m so glad that he/she found your website, and bought your book/took your course. My partner is finding it very helpful.

I want to support my partner as s/he progresses through your program. Do you have any advice for me?

If your partner suffers from retroactive jealousy I have an important note for you:

If you’re here because you think your partner suffers from retroactive jealousy and hasn’t gotten help yet, encourage them to sign up for my free mini-course.

Unfortunately, they won’t get better until they commit to getting better. But hopefully, the course will help.

Watch the video:

(Video transcript below)

I’ve often felt hesitant to offer advice to people whose partner suffers from retroactive jealousy due to the fact that

a) It is always the sufferer’s problem, not their partner’s, and

b) I never had a partner who suffers from retroactive jealousy.

It has taken me a long time to collect my thoughts on this topic and sit down to write this post. I hope you find it useful.

Without further ado, please consider the following if your partner suffers from retroactive jealousy:

1.) If your partner suffers from retroactive jealousy, you values may, in fact, be incompatible with your partner’s.

It’s definitely not absolutely certain, but it’s possible.

Some sufferers of retroactive jealousy eventually discover that their values are genuinely incompatible with those of their partner. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

Sometimes, once the initial passions have subsided and the ability to think clearly returns, sufferers of retroactive jealousy realize that their partner’s past is actually a “deal-breaker,” or whatever you’d like to call it. This may be a result of conflicting religious or moral values, or simply differing relationship priorities. If your partner comes to the conclusion that they simply cannot deal with your past, try to look past the pain and see the situation for what it truly is: you just got saved several more months (or even years) of heartache and pain. And the relationship would have absolutely dissolved sooner or later.

More often than not, however, your partner’s jealousy and struggles with your past are delusional and the product of an emotional disorder, rather than genuine moral incompatibility.

And more often than not, after discovering this website, reading my book or watching my videos, and putting my plan into action,