Passion Struck with John R. Miles

What if the guidance you’ve been searching for has been with you all along?

In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to stay connected to something greater than yourself—even during grief, uncertainty, illness, or life's most overwhelming moments.

If you've ever wondered whether you're truly alone, struggled to find peace in difficult seasons, or sensed that there is a deeper wisdom available to you, this conversation will give you practical tools to access it.

John welcomes Suzanne Giesemann back to Passion Struck. A former Navy Commander and aide to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff turned evidential medium and spiritual teacher, Suzanne shares insights from her new book, Always Connected, and explains why our connection to spirit is never lost—even when we forget it.

In this conversation, you'll learn: 

Suzanne brings together military discipline, spiritual insight, and a grounded approach to the unseen. Whether you're exploring these ideas for the first time or have been walking this path for years, this conversation is a reminder that connection is not something you create—it is something you remember. 

And perhaps the most important truth of all: even in your hardest moments, you are never alone.

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In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with executive coach, former therapist, and former U.S. National Team rower Whitney Otto to explore one of the most personal struggles people carry: their relationship with their bodies.

Drawing from her new book, Body Image Inside Out, co-authored with Deb Schachter, Whitney challenges the belief that body image is merely about appearance. Instead, she reveals how our feelings about our bodies are deeply intertwined with our experiences of belonging, family, achievement, health, and self-worth. Their conversation explores why negative body image often becomes a container for overwhelming emotions, how shame thrives in secrecy, and why curiosity may be a more powerful path to healing than self-improvement.

John and Whitney discuss the hidden costs of being at war with ourselves, the role of relational mirrors in shaping identity, and why many high performers continue to struggle with feeling comfortable in their own skin despite outward success. Through personal stories, practical exercises, and compassionate insights, they offer a new framework for understanding body image—not as an enemy to conquer, but as a relationship that can be nurtured, understood, and transformed.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why body image is shaped by relationships, culture, health experiences, and belonging—not simply physical appearance
• The hidden emotional and psychological costs of being at war with your body
• How negative body image often becomes a way of managing overwhelming feelings such as sadness, anxiety, fear, and loneliness
• Why curiosity and self-compassion are more effective than self-criticism when creating lasting change
• What "relational mirrors" reveal about the people who help us feel seen—and those who diminish our sense of self
• How jealousy can become a teacher that points us toward deeper desires rather than a source of shame or comparison
• The Body Image Rotary framework and how to interrupt cycles of self-criticism before they become habitual patterns
• Why the process of getting dressed can become a daily practice of self-awareness and sensory compassion rather than judgment
• How early experiences with caregivers influence our relationship with our bodies throughout adulthood
• The simple but profound question Whitney believes every person should ask themselves: "What are you feeling?" instead of "What do I need to fix?"

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What if the person you've been trying to become is actually pulling you farther away from who you really are?

In today's episode, you'll discover why so many of us spend our lives performing, achieving, and adapting—only to wake up feeling disconnected from ourselves.

Have you ever felt like you're living the life everyone expected you to build, but still wonder if something is missing?

Do you find yourself chasing success, approval, or perfection, yet struggle to feel like you're enough?

Or maybe you've become so busy meeting everyone else's expectations that you've forgotten what it feels like to simply be yourself.

According to John, the greatest form of disconnection isn't losing touch with other people.

It's losing touch with who you are.

Drawing on the timeless story of Hook, along with insights from psychology, attachment theory, and the remarkable conversations that shaped the Connection Crisis series, John explores why flourishing isn't about becoming someone new—it's about remembering the person you've been all along.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Here's the truth:

Sometimes the bravest thing you'll ever do is remember who you've been all along.

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Do you ever feel like your hard work goes unnoticed? Or maybe you're a leader doing everything you can to build a great team—but people still seem disengaged, disconnected, or ready to leave. Here's what most leaders miss: People don't just want recognition. They want to know they matter.

In this episode, John R. Miles sits down with bestselling author and workplace culture expert Adrian Gostick to explore why feeling valued is one of the most powerful drivers of engagement, resilience, innovation, and performance.

Drawing on decades of research with hundreds of thousands of leaders and employees, Adrian reveals why appreciation isn't a "soft skill"—it's a leadership advantage. Together, he and John unpack why employees often feel invisible even in successful organizations, how uncertainty quietly erodes trust, and what the best leaders do to create workplaces where people genuinely want to contribute.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Whether you lead a company, manage a team, or simply want to have a greater impact on the people around you, this conversation will transform the way you think about leadership.

Because the leaders people remember most aren't the ones who demanded the most.

They're the ones who made people believe they mattered.

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Have you ever felt like you're living the life everyone expected you to build—but not the one you truly want?

Maybe you've spent years chasing success, checking all the right boxes, or trying to fit into someone else's definition of who you should be. Yet deep down, something still feels missing. In today's episode, you'll discover why so many of us unknowingly build our lives around external expectations—and how to finally break free and become the person you were always meant to be.

Joining John R. Miles is Spencer West, internationally acclaimed speaker, activist, bestselling author, and one of the most inspiring voices on resilience and authentic living. After losing both of his legs as a child and later climbing Mount Kilimanjaro on his hands, Spencer learned that our greatest limitations are often the identities we inherit—not the circumstances we face.

Together, John and Spencer explore why safety can become the greatest obstacle to authenticity, why belonging without being yourself ultimately leaves you feeling empty, and how to stop performing for the world and start living from who you truly are.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Here's the truth:

The greatest risk isn't failing.

It's waking up one day and realizing you've spent your life becoming someone the world wanted—while forgetting the person you already were.

Authenticity isn't something you achieve.

It's something you remember.

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Have you ever wondered why you keep falling into the same patterns, even when you know they're hurting you?

Maybe you overthink every decision. Maybe you struggle to ask for help, chase perfection, or constantly put other people's needs ahead of your own. You know these habits aren't serving you anymore—but letting them go feels almost impossible.

In this solo episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores why the behaviors that frustrate us most often began as strategies that once protected us. Drawing on attachment psychology, neuroscience, and William James' distinction between the "I" and the "Me," he introduces The Backpack We Never Chose—a powerful framework for understanding how childhood survival strategies quietly become adult identities.

You'll discover why your brain often chooses familiar discomfort over meaningful change, how protective patterns can become barriers to authentic relationships, and why healing doesn't begin by becoming someone new—it begins by recognizing what you're still carrying that no longer belongs to you.

If you've ever felt stuck in the same emotional patterns, this episode will help you understand where they came from—and show you that your past may explain you, but it doesn't have to define you.

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Do you find yourself repeating the same relationship patterns over and over again?

Maybe you pull away when people get too close. Maybe you constantly worry about being abandoned. Or perhaps you feel more comfortable succeeding at work than allowing yourself to be truly known by the people you love. The problem isn't that you're broken. It may be that your nervous system is still responding to the world exactly as it learned to in childhood.

In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with attachment expert, former licensed marriage and family therapist, and relationship coach Adam Lane Smith to explore how our earliest relationships shape the way we connect throughout our lives. Together, they unpack the science behind attachment styles, why so many high achievers struggle with intimacy despite succeeding professionally, and how secure relationships become the foundation for resilience, leadership, and long-term flourishing.

Whether you're trying to strengthen your marriage, become a better parent, improve your leadership, or simply understand yourself more deeply, this conversation will help you recognize the patterns that have been shaping your life—and show you how to change them.

Because healing doesn't begin when you find the right relationship. It begins when you become a safer place for connection.

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Today's episode will change the way you think about the habits, behaviors, and patterns that keep showing up in your life—even when you know they're holding you back.

Do you ever wonder:

Why do I keep people-pleasing even when it leaves me exhausted?

Why do I overwork, overthink, or strive for perfection but still never feel like I'm enough?

Why do I keep finding myself in the same relationships, making the same choices, or falling into the same emotional patterns?

According to today's guest, these behaviors aren't signs that you're broken. They're often strategies your brain developed to protect you.

Joining John R. Miles is Kati Morton, licensed therapist, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading mental health educators. Drawing from her new book, Why Do I Keep Doing This?, Kati explains why the patterns that once helped us survive can quietly keep us from fully living.

Together, John and Kati explore how childhood experiences shape the beliefs we carry into adulthood, why high achievers often confuse accomplishment with self-worth, and how curiosity—not self-criticism—is the key to lasting change.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Here's the truth: the patterns you're struggling with didn't appear overnight—and they won't disappear overnight either.

But once you understand why you keep doing what you do, you can finally begin choosing a different path.

And that may be the first step toward becoming the person you've always wanted to be.

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In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores one of the defining challenges of modern life: why so many people feel disconnected despite living in the most interconnected era in human history.

Drawing on insights from Greg McKeown and Marcus Buckingham, the historical lessons of Acts 10, behavioral science, and themes from his forthcoming book The Mattering Effect, John reveals how millions of people are living in a state of what he calls The Great Disconnection—surrounded by digital networks, professional titles, and constant communication, yet increasingly cut off from belonging, significance, and genuine human connection.

From middle school cafeterias to corporate boardrooms, many of us spend years trying to earn belonging through performance, achievement, and success. We convince ourselves that if we accomplish enough, we'll finally feel secure, valued, and accepted. Instead, many high achievers find themselves trapped in what John calls the Admission Ticket Problem—using success to purchase significance, only to discover that visibility is not the same as being known.

Through powerful stories, historical insights, and practical reflection, John explores why performance can never satisfy our deepest need for belonging, how old stories about acceptance continue shaping our adult lives, and why feeling truly seen remains one of the most transformative experiences a human being can have.

In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why the modern world makes it easier than ever to be noticed but harder than ever to be genuinely known.
• How the search for belonging shapes far more of our lives than we realize.
• Why many adults are still navigating the same social dynamics they first experienced in middle school.
• The hidden cost of turning achievement into an admission ticket for acceptance.
• Why success can increase visibility without increasing significance.
• How old stories about belonging continue influencing adult relationships and decisions.
• What Acts 10 teaches us about expanding the circle of who belongs.

If you've ever felt lonely despite your accomplishments, invisible inside the rooms you fought so hard to enter, or disconnected despite being constantly connected, this episode offers a powerful framework for understanding why feeling seen changes everything—and a roadmap for finding your way back to what matters most.

Passion Struck is the award-winning podcast hosted by John R. Miles, helping millions of people live intentionally, unlock human potential, and create lives filled with meaning, purpose, and mattering.

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Why do some workplaces bring out the best in people while others slowly drain their energy?

Most leaders believe engagement comes from better strategies, stronger incentives, or higher compensation. But according to leadership researcher Marcus Buckingham, the biggest driver of performance is something far more human: the way people feel every time they come to work.

In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with Marcus Buckingham—global leadership researcher, bestselling author, and pioneer of the strengths movement—to explore why love isn't a soft leadership idea but one of the strongest predictors of trust, innovation, resilience, and long-term performance. Together, they unpack the science behind memorable experiences, why average interactions rarely inspire lasting loyalty, and how exceptional leaders intentionally create environments where people feel valued, connected, and motivated to do their best work.

Whether you lead an organization, manage a small team, or simply want to have a greater impact on the people around you, this conversation will change the way you think about leadership. Because the greatest leaders don't just build successful businesses. They create places people never want to leave.

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