Pillow Talks

Today we’re getting ULTRA personal, and answering all your questions about our recent experience in couples therapy.

Do we think therapy sometimes digs up stuff that wasn’t a problem? Do we ever hope our therapist takes our side? And of course, the big question that everyone wanted to know… WHY are we in couples therapy in the first place? (We got really vulnerable and emotional with this one…)

We hope these topics (and our sometimes controversial answers) start some conversations that you never knew you needed to have!

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Are these four communication mistakes ruining your relationship?

In today’s episode we’re revealing the Four Horsemen. Researcher John Gottman discovered that these specific communication pitfalls could predict divorce with over 90% accuracy!

We’re breaking down what they are, how to know if you’re doing them, and what to do to have better communication going forward.

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Xander’s back in the hot seat answering all your burning questions about male behavior!

Why do guys mansplain? Why do they struggle to find things that are right in front of their faces? Why are men always initiating when we’re right in the middle of something like doing the dishes? Why can’t they ever be vulnerable? And what’s with the obsession over the volume of their cum??

Get ready for lots of laughter and some eye-opening insights.

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Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” Xander Explains Male Behavior

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When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido.

But is libido actually the problem?

In this episode, we reveal the truth about sex drive and ask a big question, “does libido even matter?”

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Ultimate Foreplay Guides

Next Level Intercourse

Art of Initiation

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Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us!

You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure you listen all the way through to get the scoop on which one of us comes out on top.

Afterwards, you can play your own version of Know Ya Boo with your partner. DM us with how it went, and if you beat our scores!

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What do you do when it’s been a while…

When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on the horse. We’ll even answer the big question… do we NEED to have sex?

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We’re back again with another edition of Am I The Asshole. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations.

We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more.

If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the asshole when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes are here to help you decide.

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A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no!

Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship.

We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it in your relationship.

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Guide: Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)

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Imagine this… you’re crawling into bed at the end of the night, thinking, “Hmmm sex sounds nice.”

We hate to break it to you, but you’re too late! You needed to have been planning for this much earlier in the day. You needed to be using our unique approach to foreplay.

Most of us think of foreplay as the stuff we do for 30 seconds before we move on to intercourse, but it’s so much more than that. Today we’re telling you about the magic of all-day, non-sexual foreplay.

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Course: Art Of Initiation

Challenge: The Connection Challenge

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You’ve had a fight over text message with your partner, right? Most of us have! Maybe you sent a text to your partner that was a little too snarky, or maybe you read too much into a message. Odds are your text fight did not end well…

Today we’re breaking down a real text fight one of our followers sent in. It started off as a fight over facial hair, but like most fights do, evolved into something much deeper. We covered topics like body confidence, broken trust, and validation. We point out the things they did right, and the ways things went oh so wrong. You’ll get a fascinating sneak peek into another couple’s conflict, plus tons of communication tips along the way.

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Our Instagram: @vanessandxander (https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/)

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