Pillow Talks

If you’re a Pillow Talks listener, you’re probably on board with the idea of talking about sex openly. But what do you do if your partner is a lot more hesitant?

In this episode, we’re going over why your partner might be feeling resistant, and how you can encourage them to open up. You’ll learn our secret to intimacy-building conversation, plus tons of creative (and even sneaky) ways to get your partner to talk about sex.

Links & Resources:

Book:  Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life (https://sextalksbook.com/)

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We really went there…

It’s time for another round of Smash or Pass! The series where we find the internet’s weirdest sex tips, try them out, and report back to you with all the details.

We dug deep to find the craziest ideas for us to try, and what we found was well… interesting. We’re even taking you into our bedroom during one of the tips so you can hear our live reaction!

The Countdown Method… using a glove… the Nose Dive method. Are any of these new tips Pillow Talks Approved? You’ll just have to tune in and find out!

Links & Resources:

Course:  Art Of Initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/)

Guide:  Ultimate Foreplay Guides (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/)

Guide:  Next Level Intercourse (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/next-level-intercourse/)

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“This, uh, isn’t working…”

Most of us have experienced a partner having some performance issues in the bedroom, and feeling wildly confused about what to do. How do you react? What do you say?

And let’s be honest, most of us women take these moments personally. We get into our heads thinking things like, “Am I not attractive enough? Am I bad at sex??”

Today we’re breaking down for you why penis performance issues happen, and how men need you to respond in those extra-sensitive moments. Xander is also helping us non-penis owners understand what’s really going on inside men’s heads, and the pressures men feel around sex.

Links & Resources:

Guide: Sexual Mastery Package (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/sexual-mastery-package/)

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“I just don’t understand where you’re coming from.”

Have you ever been in the heat of an argument with your partner, and felt totally unable see their perspective on the issue?

We put up a question box on Instagram and asked people to tell us about a conflict where they’re experiencing that kind of genuine confusion. Now, we’re breaking down the trickiest situations to help you see your partner’s point of view in a brand new light. You’ll get a fascinating sneak peek into what other couples fight about, and tons of useful relationship advice you haven’t heard before!

Links & Resources:

Guide:  Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)

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Have you ever wondered what everyone secretly fantasizes about? We anonymously polled our audience, and we’re spilling all the secrets today!

We’re also doing a deep dive on all your fantasy questions. Where do they come from? What do they mean? Is there something wrong with you if you don’t have any?

Links & Resources:

Guide:  Sexual Bucket List (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/sexual-bucket-list-29/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

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75% of people say that nagging is an issue in their relationship. So we thought it was time we gave our take on this controversial topic.

We’re talking about the differences between nagging, reminding, and micromanaging. When is it nagging versus your partner not carrying their share of the mental load? What do you do when you can’t trust your partner to get something done without nagging?

We also got into a pretty vulnerable conversation about the role nagging has in our day-to-day relationship.

Plus, we’re walking you through specific steps to help stop nagging because the reality is, no one likes to nag and no one likes to receive nagging…

Links & Resources:

Workbook:   Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)

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Have you ever wondered what your partner REALLY thinks about your performance in the bedroom?

Well, it turns out there are a few things they secretly wish you’d stop doing…

We turned to Instagram and asked people to anonymously share all of their bedroom pet peeves and red flags. The responses were fascinating. We’re breaking down the most common answers and giving you tips to start the conversation with your partner about what you actually want and like from each other during sex.

Links & Resources:

Course:   Art of Initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/)

Course:   Ultimate Foreplay Guides (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/)

Course:   Next Level Intercourse (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/next-level-intercourse/)

Guide:   👉 ⁠⁠⁠Dirty Talk 101 (only available inside of DEEPER)⁠⁠ 

Guide:   👉 ⁠⁠⁠Butt Stuff 🍑 (only available inside of DEEPER)⁠⁠ 

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Surprise! We’re in couples therapy.

We sat down and recorded one of our most vulnerable episodes yet all about why we’re in therapy and how it’s going. We talked about what to look for in a potential therapist (and where to look) and gave some tips on how to ask your partner to go to therapy with you.

We also got surprisingly deep about the resistance one of us had to going to therapy in the first place…

Links & Resources:

Visit our Homepage (https://vmtherapy.com/)

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Today, we’re tackling a huge issue that so many people can relate to… feeling uncomfortable in your own skin during sex. We’re diving into the specific things that make you the most self-conscious, and how these thoughts can impact your sex life.

Xander clues us in on what most men are really thinking about bodies during sex and we get into a fascinating (and very personal) conversation about our own body confidence issues.

If you’re looking for guidance on how to build body confidence so you can stop worrying about your body and start having amazing sex, this is the episode for you!

Links & Resources:

Visit our homepage (https://vmtherapy.com/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

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Today we’re asking a tough question… Are you lazy in bed? And an even harder one… Would your partner say you’re lazy during sex?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the specific things you’re doing that your partner thinks are lazy, the consequences of bedroom laziness, and the surprising reasons why you’re not putting in more effort.

Most importantly, we’ll walk you through our step-by-step process to stop being lazy and start having more fun in the bedroom!

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