Polyamory Weekly

Help! Compersion squicks me! Does it mean I'm jealous if hearing about my husband's dates disgusts me?

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New Dutch bank bunq commercial specifically targets polys!

Lauren has been married to her husband for 24 years and non-monogamous (mostly swinging) for 12. Five years ago, she discovered he had cheated, and they worked through it. Now they date separately. And while he loves hearing what she does on her dates, but Lauren is grossed out even thinking about what he does on his dates.

Matthew writes in to say he tried the And then what? exercise to deal with jealousy/fear/insecurity but didn't think he learned anything from it.

A listener writes in with a happy poly moment of her triad going really well, metamours and all!

Welcome to Susan and Rachel, our newest Poly Weekly playmate subscribers!

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How do I say "no" to a reasonable request from my partner?

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Today's cohost is Kevin Patterson

Multilinking conference

Eva writes in to ask how to tell her partner no to a request. Her partner Lisa wants an additional date night each week, but Eva doesn't feel she can give that and wants to take time to settle into her nesting relationship with Denise. How does she say no to Lisa?

Vir Modestus took issue with our advice in episode 507 How do I get control of my fears?, and even wrote up a blog post about his frustration with "you're insecure" being used as a way to dismiss someone else's emotional reponse.

Kevin shares a happy family poly moment

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If I'm dating a poly married guy, am I poly? Can he be my core relationship? If I want a core relationship, do I have to go back to being monogamous?

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RelateCon was amazing! You should go next year!

• Rethinking monogamy on CNN
• TV is finally starting to get polyamory right

A listener writes in to ask how to manage her self-identity as she is dating a man in a couple—what happens when she is ready to focus on a core relationship? Does she disclose her existing relationship? Break it off to pursue monogamy? Or can her sweetie be her core relationship?

You got questions; we've got answers!

Thanks to Spirit, and Craig for their donations! And welcome Blackbird, Fernando, Toby and Brenda to the Playmates!

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My partner of seven months ghosted me. How can I avoid this in the future? Email [email protected], call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

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Foropoliamor is in Spain June 16-18

I'm 90% honest; the 10% lying is why our relationship works

A cultural moment for polyamory on NPR

Listener Suzy writes in to ask how to avoid being ghosted (suddenly ceasing all communication with someone you are dating in lieu of breaking up)?

• Michael gives some kind positive feedback!
• The Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory virtual conference is coming up the first weekend in November

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email [email protected] and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, "Good Suspicions."

Help! My metamour wants to post about her relationship on social media, but I'm in the closet, which means she must be, too. Who decides when I come out?

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Today's cohost is Lusty Guy

• New ebook, No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresisitible Online Dating Profile for just $4.99
• Do you love us? Tell a friend about us using #trypod (try this podcast)

M writes in to ask: my metamour Nina wants me to be out as poly so she can post about her relationship on social media and is convinced that M is only not coming out so she can hold on to her primary status. What to do?

• Alan wrote in to verify that yes, it's usually the woman who asks for polyamory and to say he finds that Lusty Guy's hedonism will give our opponents ammunition to use against polyamory
• Anonymous poly doctor writes in to give feedback on episode 499 Coming out to your doctor and how to talk to your doctor about poly and STI screenings

Jodi shares a first public happy poly moment

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A chat with Dedeker Winston, author of The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory and host of the Multiamory podcast.

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• Planet Money NPR podcast
• And then what exercise
• Lusty Guy's My Poly Story
• Lusty Guy will be doing a Poly in the Heartland road trip. Email him at [email protected] if you want to be interviewed!
• The Art of Three blog interview

• A New York judge has officially awarded custody to three parents in a landmark case
• The Poly in the News coverage

• Dedeker Winston
• The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory.
• Facebook and Instagram at @dedekerwinston.
• Multiamory podcast

• episode 501
• episode 502on coming out to kids

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Loving half a couple after a triad implodes. A listener asks: how do I love only the wife after our triad implodes and her husband won't talk to me? Email [email protected], call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

A poly activist profile with the organizer of Poly Dallas Millennium and LCSW, Ruby Bouie Johnson. Email [email protected], call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

How do I get control of my own fears to be able to handle poly sex situations better? Email [email protected], call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly

What if I love him more than he loves me? Should I run to avoid risking deep emotional pain? Email [email protected], call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly