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In this episode, I welcome back Carol Juergensen Sheets, better known as Carol the Coach, a certified sex addiction therapist. We reminisce about her last appearance in March 2020, where we focused on empathy for husbands. Carol shares her journey since 2007, emphasizing the importance of empathy in all relationships. 

She introduces her Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), which involves working with both partners from the start to foster post-traumatic growth. Carol explains the role of empathy in healing from infidelity, highlighting the long-term process and the need for genuine understanding. She also provides resources for couples seeking support and offers a hopeful message for those on their healing journey.

To learn more about Carol and her resources, visit SexHelpWithCarolTheCoach.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Carol's background and expertise in sex addiction therapy
• The importance of empathy in relationships
• Development of the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM)
• Key elements and focus of ERCEM
• The role of empathy within ERCEM
• Challenges and time required for healing from infidelity
• Common misconceptions about empathy
• Progress and resources available for couples seeking support
• Message of hope and encouragement for couples dealing with infidelity

More Resources:

• Help Them Heal Couples Workshop
• Help Them Heal book
• Help Them Heal online course

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Husbands Learn and Practice Empathy
• 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage
• The Recovery Process for Couples

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In this episode, I chat with Crystal Renaud Day about the SHE Virtual Recovery Summit, a transformative event for women battling unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction. Crystal shares her personal journey and insights from years of ministry, emphasizing the importance of surrender, accountability, and community in recovery. 

We discuss the summit's role in providing a safe, supportive space for women and even teens to find healing and resources. Crystal's passion for helping women shines through, and we invite listeners to join the summit and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.

To learn more about the SHE Summit and register, visit SheRecovery.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• SHE Virtual Recovery Summit
• Support and resources for women struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors
• Personal experiences and insights from Crystal Renaud Day
• Importance and topics covered during the event
• Research on women's view of porn
• Training for women in recovery
• Ministry to women dealing with unwanted sexual behaviors
• Stories of transformation and victory
• She Virtual Recovery Summit as a space for learning, growth, and surrender
• The significance of surrender, confession, accountability, responsibility, and sharing in the recovery process

More Resources:

• SHE Virtual Recovery Summit (use affiliate code BEBROKEN for a 10% discount!)
• What Drives Women to Porn? Survey Results
• 90 Days to Wholeness* by Crystal Renaud Day

Related Podcasts:

• New Research on Why Women View Porn
• Total Freedom for Women Struggling with Porn
• God's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame

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In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional self-awareness, especially for men – and offer a simple test to measure self-awareness. We explore the different levels of self-awareness, from complete unawareness to deep emotional understanding. 

Stephen shares his inspiration for creating this self-awareness test, aiming to help men gauge their emotional awareness so they can continue toward greater awareness and maturity. We discuss how family history shapes emotional patterns and the importance of recognizing triggers. 

Our conversation emphasizes the significance of aligning with the Holy Spirit and striving for emotional maturity. 

For more insight from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Emotional self-awareness and self-awareness test for men
• Different levels of emotional self-awareness
• Connection between triggers and emotional responses
• Impact of family of origin on emotional patterns and behaviors
• Development of a self-awareness test for men
• Challenges men face in understanding and expressing emotions
• Importance of recognizing and acknowledging one's feelings
• Impact of family of origin on emotional development
• Physical and emotional connections, retraining the mind and emotions
• Alignment with the Holy Spirit and emotional program, journey of growth and maturity

More Resources:

• The Men's Emotional Self-Awareness Test
• Growth Map* by Stephen Cervantes
• Grace-Based Transformation* by Jonathan Daugherty

Related Podcasts:

• How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?
• 100 Recovery Rules (with Mark Denison)
• A 3-Year Roadmap for Recovery and Emotional Growth

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In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional maturity and self-awareness. We explore how childhood experiences shape adult behavior and emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional immaturity. Our conversation highlights the role of grief in self-discovery and the impact of critical parenting on self-criticism. 

Stephen and I stress the need for honesty, vulnerability, and self-reflection in achieving emotional growth and maturity. We encourage listeners to embrace uncertainty and seek support, underscoring that emotional maturity is a continuous process of growth and understanding.

For more insights from Dr. Cervantes, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Emotional maturity and self-awareness
• Impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior
• Recognizing and addressing emotional immaturity
• Role of grief in the process of emotional healing
• Impact of critical parenting on self-criticism and judgmental behavior
• Shaping oneness in relationships
• Grief and fear in recognizing emotional patterns and transformation
• Importance of admitting uncertainty and vulnerability
• Embracing the journey of growth and change
• Seeking support and guidance for personal and relational growth

More Resources:

• 49 Days of Growth* by Stephen Cervantes
• Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy* by Stephen Cervantes
• Untangling Emotions* by Groves and Smith

Related Podcasts:

• Moving from Being Fear-Driven to Love-Driven
• Why Men Need to Practice Sadness
• How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ

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In this episode, I welcome back Dan Drake and introduce Janice Caudill, both experts in therapeutic disclosure for marriages affected by sexual betrayal. We dive into the importance of truth in healing relationships, discussing how disclosure helps rebuild trust. 

In our conversation, Dan and Jaunice walk us through the disclosure process, emphasizing the impact of betrayal, readiness for disclosure, tailored approaches, the “choreography” of disclosure, and the post-disclosure phase that highlights potential obstacles when rebuilding trust. 

To get access to Dan and Janice’s resources, visit KintsugiRecoveryPartners.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Development of resources for disclosure in marriages affected by sexual betrayal
• Availability of resources on Kintsugi Recovery Partners website
• Impact of sexual betrayal on relationships
• Definition of disclosure and its importance in healing
• Importance of readiness for disclosure
• Tailored approaches to disclosure based on each couple's unique situation
• Process and key elements of disclosure
• Choreography of the disclosure process
• Significance of disclosure in healing and rebuilding trust

More Resources:

• Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Betrayal*
• Full Disclosure: Seeking the Truth After Betrayal*
• Disclosure Guide Training

Related Podcasts:

• Understanding Therapeutic Disclosure in Marriage Affected by Sexual Betrayal
• Confession and Disclosure for Couples
• How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

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In today's episode, I have a heart-to-heart with Stephen Cervantes about the journey of recovery. We dive into how it's more than just getting back on your feet; it's about pausing, finding stability, and reaching out for a helping hand. But that's not the end of the road! 

Recovery is this beautiful bridge to an exciting phase of self-discovery and growth. Together, we unpack the deeper mission that lies ahead—embracing the love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and getting to know ourselves better. 

So, if you're curious about turning a new leaf and finding purpose post-recovery, this chat is for you. Join us as we explore these transformative steps to a fuller, love-filled life!

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Concept of recovery and transition to a new growth mission
• Importance of stopping and stabilizing in recovery
• Seeking outside help and community support
• Recovery as a bridge to discovery and growth
• Purpose of new growth mission: learning about love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, understanding oneself
• Different interpretations of recovery
• Role of relationships and community in the recovery process
• Recovery as a journey toward growth and learning
• Shift in focus from negative behaviors to love and personal understanding
• Emphasis on community, outside help, and shift in focus towards love and personal understanding

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive
• Grace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups
• Grace-Based Transformation* book

Related Podcasts:

• For Men Who Want to Finish Strong
• What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?
• Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your Story

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In today’s episode, we have Vern Tompke back with us. Vern is our Canadian pastor and coach who helps other pastors and men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. 

We talked about the three key stages of recovery, which are: 

1. Breaking the habit
2. Addressing the deep-seated issues of the heart and mind
3. Recalibrating sexuality to enjoy the abundant life Christ offers

Whether you are just starting your recovery journey or years into it, Vern’s wisdom is a beacon of hope. And we mention lots of really good resources that will help you along the way, which we will include in the show notes. 

To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care.

Topics Covered in This Episode:

• Three stages of recovery from porn addiction
• Breaking the habit
• Dealing with underlying issues
• Redeeming or recalibrating one's sexuality
• Importance of practical tools, boundaries, and grace-filled accountability
• Addressing underlying lies, pain, wounds, attachment issues, and unmet needs
• The ongoing nature of the recovery journey
• Emphasizing the need to move beyond objectification and consumption of beauty
• Encouraging men to engage in real relationships and build healthy social and coping skills
• Advocating for living in the light, engaging in community, and seeking a fuller understanding of recovery

More Resources:

• Willpower Doesn't Work* by Benjamin Hardy
• The Thing Beneath the Thing* by Steve Carter
• The Psychology of Porn* by Andrew Bauman

Related Podcasts:

• The Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle
• Understanding Freedom, Identity, and Creativity in Addiction Recovery
• A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth

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The Selfishness Addiction – Yes, you read that right. We're diving deep into how an addiction to selfishness can shape our behaviors and strain our relationships. We’re peeling back the layers of why we sometimes confuse self-preservation with self-centeredness.

Understanding Freedom – We start by exploring the true meaning of freedom. It's not just about breaking free from unwanted behaviors like porn addiction; it's about finding peace, rest, and joy. We're talking about aligning with the soul's fundamental needs, as taught by Jesus himself.

From Selfish to Selfless – We've all been there, right? Putting ourselves first, fast, and completely. But here's the kicker: the more we focus on ourselves, the less satisfied we feel. It's a paradox that we unpack with humor, honesty, and a touch of humility.

A New Perspective – Imagine realizing that your whole life has been a race to put yourself first, only to end up feeling empty. That's the story of a Christian brother who woke up to his selfishness addiction. It's a powerful moment of vulnerability that might just change the way you see your own life.

Growth and Healing – This episode isn't just about identifying the problem; it's about finding the path to healing. We discuss the importance of taking small steps towards giving, towards others, and towards a life filled with genuine connection.

So, if you've ever felt caught in the cycle of coping and surviving rather than truly living, this episode is for you. It's time to break free from the chains of selfishness and step into a life of selfless joy.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Selfishness addiction and its impact on behavior and relationships
• Understanding the difference between healthy self-care and selfishness
• Selfishness driven by fear and focus on one's own desires and needs
• The concept of freedom and its relation to the deeper needs of individuals
• The importance of aligning with the fundamental needs of the soul
• The distinction between healthy self-awareness and selfishness
• The detrimental impact of selfishness on individuals and their relationships
• The immature and wounded nature of selfishness addiction
• The natural order of relationships and the importance of learning to be selfless while still caring for oneself
• The insight and honesty of admitting and addressing selfishness addiction

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• DoctorMarriage.org
• Find a Counselor

Related Podcasts:

• Self-Care vs. Selfishness
• About Your Emotional Connecting Skills
• It's All About Me!

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Shawna Meek, founder of Living Stones Coaching, joins us to share her incredible journey through marriage, divorce, and unexpected reconciliation. Shawna opens up about the challenges she faced in her relationship, from communication breakdowns to confronting her husband's infidelity – and learning how his previously undiagnosed neurodiversity impacted his sexual brokenness and their marriage. 

Shawna then shares about setting boundaries, the importance of individual growth, and how she and her husband both worked on themselves to rebuild trust. 

Her story is a testament to the complexities of love and the resilience and faith needed to navigate them. As a result of this journey, Shawna turned her personal trials into a passion for coaching and helping others through their own relationship struggles. 

To learn more about Shawna and her resources, visit LivingStoneCoaching.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Shauna Meek's personal story and experiences
• Navigating neurodiversity challenges in relationships and marriage
• Seeking help and setting boundaries
• Healing and recovery process
• Individual coping strategies and personal growth
• Building trust and safety in a marriage
• Lessons learned about oneself and each other
• Transformation and growth in relationships
• Overcoming communication differences
• Reconciliation and remarriage

More Resources:

• Determined for More* by Shawna Meek
• Neurodiverse Coaching and Mentoring
• Hope Restored

Related Podcasts:

• The Journey to Stay
• Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from Betrayal
• Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal

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I'm thrilled to have the amazing Danisa Suarez back on the program. Today, we're tackling a subject that's really important to a lot of people: women's understanding of their own bodies and sexuality. 

Danisa has put together an incredible e-course called "The Story of Her," (https://ccicourses.org/thestoryofher) and she's here to share why it's so essential for women to recognize and celebrate their unique design and to confidently step into their womanhood. We're not shying away from the difficult topics either—we discuss how to heal from past wounds and pursue a godly approach to sexual fulfillment. Plus, Danisa’s got some solid, actionable tips for anyone looking for support on this path. 

This episode is all about empowering women and deepening their relationship with God. Make sure you don't miss out on Danisa’s valuable insights—follow her on Instagram for more inspiring talks! @danisasuarezoficial

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of understanding women's bodies and sexuality
• Influences affecting women's self-image
• Fighting against comparison
• Challenges faced by women who have experienced brokenness, abuse, or sexual violations
• Lack of mentorship and education for women regarding their bodies
• Impact of social media, mass media, and culture on women's self-image
• Women's sexuality and its connection to confidence, knowledge, and attitudes
• Challenges and roadblocks in the journey towards sexual health and wholeness
• Importance of seeking support and guidance in the journey towards sexual health and wholeness
• Empowerment, encouragement, and finding fulfillment in the relationship with God

More Resources:

• SheRecovery.com
• CCI Counseling
• The Body Revelation*

Related Podcasts:

• Understanding Female Sexuality and Struggles
• What Men Need to Know About Female Sexuality
• Women and Sex

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