Caller: Hi! Betrayed partner here (porn addiction). I'm a new listener & I just listened to E58-is it ok to be attracted to more than 1 person. I have to say that coming from the betrayed partner's perspective, what was said & talking about the "3 second rule" is terrifying! For a lot of us, our partners could only have sex with us BECAUSE they had an image of someone else in their mind OR it was someone that he saw that made him want to have sex with his partner ONLY because she's the only physical option at the time &\or didn't have the opportunity to go masturbate at the time. So after seeing an attractive woman, even if it's hours later, we're wondering if it's REALLY me he wants to be with or is he just fantasizing about her. & if we don't have sex, we're thinking it's because, after seeing her, he just isn't aroused with "settling" for me! It's a huge double edged sword for some of us. How in the world are we supposed to get past that?

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