Amanda Testa is a sex and relationship coach who also supported Kylene own her journey through recovery. 

In this episode Amanda shares her gentle, trauma informed approach to support individuals through their uncomfortable relationships with sex and sexuality. 

Connect with Amanda at www.amandatesta.com

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

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Is the idea of sex after betrayal scary? Or does sex feel ok, but looking into each others eyes feels to scary or intimate?

Sex is a topic that is bound to come up when a couple is working through reconciliation and recovery from sex/porn addiction and betrayal trauma.

In today's episode Kylene and Patrick vulnerably share their own story fore-establishing intimacy, how traumatic being physically vulnerable was for Kylene, and how they set up intentional intimacy trauma exercises to rebuild that connection in a slow, safe way.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What does sex after betrayal and sex/porn addiction look like? 

There are so many things to consider as a couple navigating recovery and reconciliation and when you are addressing sex and porn addiction the topic of sex and intimacy is bound to come up! 

In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick break down some thoughts, recommendations and things to consider the first year of recovery around sex and intimacy together.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

How will I ever be able to trust again after my partner lied and manipulated to the point where I had no idea?

Kylene and Patrick discuss what intakes to re-establish trust after betrayal and cover topics like honesty, consistency, disclosure, and both individuals committing to and investing in their own healing work.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Does sex addiction mean they are a sex offender? Will he cheat again? Is he a horrible person?

Many friends and family members struggle understand what sex addiction is, and how they can support a family member who is choosing recovery.

This episode is designed to be sent to friends and family who want to learn more about the reality of addiction and recovery look like. 

We offer several practical ways to support the recovering addict, and a few things to avoid saying that may be unhelpful.

We hope this episode is helpful and we THANK YOU for listening - as a supportive friend or family ember, you make a HUGE difference the life of the individual who sent this your way.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

We often don't understand something until we have hands on experience. With betrayal trauma, kind, loving family members and friends may not fully understand the depth of. the paint betrayed partner is feeling. Or, they may have an idea of the level of pain experienced, but not really know how to support them effectively.

This episode is designed to be sent to friends and family who want to learn more about the realities of what a betrayed partner feels and experiences after discovering that their spouse is a porn or sex addict. 

We offer several practical ways to support the hurting spouse, and a few things to avoid saying that may be hurtful.

We hope this episode is helpful and we THANK YOU for listening - as a supportive friend or family ember, you make a HUGE difference the life of the individual who sent this your way.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Navigating holidays, romantic dates, and really any significant date or experience the first year of recovery can be so tough. How can we navigate romantic holidays and especially valentines day and anniversaries is a common question you might be facing.

In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick offer 3 suggestions for ways you might choose to celebrate days like Valentines day after you've discovered betrayal due to sex/porn addiction in your relationship.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

How do I know when to stay or when to go? Is divorce the end of the world? Should I reconcile with my partner? How do I know what the "right" decision is?

In today's episode Kylene shares her personal story as two examples of when  divorce was absolutely healthy and why, and when reconciliation was healthy and why. She hopes that by sharing her personal story and by breaking it down for each relationship (one that ended in divorce and one that stayed together) that this may help you more clearly articulate these answers for yourself!

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Can I trust someone who has cheated on me? 

Honesty is one of the biggest sticking points for a betrayed partner - its absolutely necessary in order to rebuild trust and safety in a relationship.

Honesty requires personal conviction order to "stick". Someone has to personally believe and accept that it's really important in order to change their behavior if they have a history of deceitful behavior.

Is this possible? Absolutely! 

If you want a healthy, reconciled and repaired relationship, honestly and integrity go both ways. There shouldn't be any secrets between life long partners.

Listen to todays episode for Kylene and Patricks personal experiences and thoughts on honesty.

If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

Follow Kylene:

On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune 

On IG: @KyleneTerhune