Regulated & Relational

In this episode of Regulated and Relational, Julie and Ginger invite long-time ATN friend, Dr. Melissa Sadin into the studio. Simply put, Dr. Sadin is a developmental trauma expert. Along with being a published author, Dr. Sadin also works as an educational consultant providing professional development to school districts and parents. She is a highly sought-after keynote speaker and conference presenter. Melissa was a core member of the creation of ATN’s Trauma Informed-Education program, the largest gathering of Trauma-Informed Educators dedicated to building Trauma-Reformed schools. Melissa’s latest book is titled Trauma Informed Teaching and IEPs: Strategies for Building Student Resilience.

In her book, Dr. Sadin outlines her CARES framework. She discusses each area of this framework, and she provides us with direct examples of the implementation. Melissa says, “A trauma informed IEP is simply an IEP written by trauma informed people.”

To learn more about Melissa’s work, visit her website at www.Traumasensitive.com. To order her book, go to ATN’s bookshop: https://bookshop.org/shop/AttachmentTraumaNetwork. Here you will find a great collection of trauma-informed resources.

And for you parents – this book has great resources for use in the home as well!

In this episode, Julie and Ginger invite Mr. Chazz Lewis into the studio. Mr. Chazz, a former Montessori school teacher, is an educational specialist, a keynote speaker, a parent consultant, and an influencer on social media. He is basically a dynamo, and his charisma is infectious!

Mr. Chazz discusses his concept of “See, Guide, Trust”. He acknowledges that there is no guidebook, so we need to make ourselves vulnerable and open to truly “see” the child. We then need skills to effectively “guide” them. Lastly, we need to “trust” that children are doing the best that they can.  This shift is really about trying to understand the child and we must step in with curiosity.

When the pandemic came along, everything changed for schools and parents, and that was when Mr. Chazz decided to go on social media. To learn more about Mr. Chazz, go to his website: https://mrchazz.com/. From there, you can navigate to all his great social media posts.

Mr. Chazz says, “I’m really thankful for the kids that challenged me because it forced me to learn and grow.”

Mr. Chazz will be joining us at our 6th annual Creating Trauma-Sensitive Schools Conference in February 2023. To learn more, go to https://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/conference/.

In this episode, Julie and Ginger invite Emily Daniels into the studio to talk about how to create a regulated classroom. Emily is a trainer, consultant, facilitator, leader, and author. Her book, The Regulated Classroom, Bottom Up Trauma-Informed Teaching, is a framework to help educators (classroom teachers, counselors, psychologists, OTs, para professionals, etc.)  understand how to help themselves and their students regulate. She lays out four core practices that educators need to implement.

Emily says, “The adults are the beginning of all change. Emotions are contagious and the adult must be the co-regulator.” We find that hope inducing!

To learn more about Emily and her endeavors, go to her website at https://regulatedclassroom.com/. From there you can find out more about her trainings and order her book.

Emily will be joining ATN in Houston, TX in February of 2023 at our Creating Trauma-Sensitive Schools Conference as a Silver Sponsor! We are so excited about this opportunity to learn more about her work! See you there Emily!

If you are interested in learning more about our upcoming TSS Conference, go to https://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/conference/. We hope to see you there as well!

In this episode, Julie and Ginger invite Dr. Mona Delahooke into the studio. Dr. Delahooke discusses how to raise joyful and resilient children – and isn’t that the goal of us all! She is the author of three books, Social and Emotional Development, Beyond Behaviors, and Brain-Body Parenting, which was recently released. Mona says that we must remember, “We are never just a brain - our bodies instruct our brain.” So, what does that mean? How do our bodies instruct our brain? It is all about body budgeting! Everything that happens to us is either a withdrawal or a deposit into or out of our nervous system. We need to be conscious of the body budgeting of ourselves and our children. But remember - Its very individualized. There is no one way. Just know - no one can pour from an empty cup!

To purchase Dr. Delahooke’s books, go to ATN bookshop: https://bookshop.org/shop/AttachmentTraumaNetwork. Here you will find the largest collection of trauma related resources. You can also visit her website at https://monadelahooke.com/.

In this episode, Julie and Ginger talk about the concept of Serve and Return. This notion was introduced through the Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University. Harvard defines serve and return as “responsive interactions between children and the people who care for them and how those interactions help the children grow and reach their full potential.” So, what does that actually look like? Ginger outlines the five steps of serve and return and explains how we can implement them into our daily lives. Listen in to learn how to recognize what our children are serving to us and how we can return to them. At its core, it is all about attachment. Every child needs someone who is crazy about them, so go and be crazy about your kid!!!

Check out the website for the Center on the Developing Child for more incredible resources. https://developingchild.harvard.edu/

In this episode, Julie and Ginger continue their discussion of therapeutic parenting. If you are caring for a child with a trauma history, you know that therapeutic parenting is needed for the long haul, and we must make these strategies work. Co-regulation is vital, but how can we achieve it with our children? Ginger says, “We need to understand what a child can do and what they can’t do.” When they are in a position of fight, flight, or freeze, they can’t do what we are asking of them. Co-regulation is the answer to helping them get out of those states. Julie and Ginger also discuss the concept of do-overs and we all need do-overs in our lives!

Please reach out to us with your therapeutic parenting questions. We would love to help you. The Attachment & Trauma Network has a great many resources at our fingertips. Send an email to [email protected]. That’s what we are here for!

In the next two episodes, Julie and Ginger deep dive into the concept of therapeutic parenting.  The healing of childhood trauma comes directly from relationships and a child’s biggest relationship is with their parents.   We must be the buffer for the child. This is how resilience is created. Ginger says, “This is all about rewiring the child’s brain.”

The number one tenet of therapeutic parenting is safety.  Safety always comes first. Listen in to learn what it means to have felt safety by all family members.

Hear what becoming a major league parent is all about! But... know that this hard work and we must give ourselves a lot of grace!

To order ATN’s Parenting Cards, go to our on-line store at: https://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/atn-store-parents/.  You can find many great resources there!

In the next two episodes, Julie and Ginger deep dive into the concept of therapeutic parenting. The healing of childhood trauma comes directly from relationships and a child’s biggest relationship is with their parents. We must be the buffer for the child. This is how resilience is created. Ginger says, “This is all about rewiring the child’s brain.”

The number one tenet of therapeutic parent is safety. Safety always comes first. Listen in to learn what it means to have felt safety by all family members.

Hear what becoming a major league parent is all about! But... know that this hard work and we must give ourselves a lot of grace!

To order ATN’s Parenting Cards, go to our on-line store at: https://www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org/atn-store-parents/. You can find many great resources there!

In this episode Julie and Ginger welcome Scott Kuenneke and Mary DeMichele into the studio.

Scott is an integral part of the CALO Programs Residential Treatment Facility clinical team and he oversees all Neurofeedback and QEEG brain maps for assessment and treatment. Mary developed “One Rule Improv”, a trauma-informed method of improv that creates a neurobiological change in the brain. Her method is used in classrooms, outpatient programs, foster care groups, group homes, RTCs and corporations.

The combined knowledge of these two individuals is amazing.  They have aligned the techniques and strategies of improv with what actually happens in the brain and how that can become a healing tool.

Mary says that improv is great in the classroom because, “No matter what mood the students are in when they enter the classroom, improv puts everyone in a better state.”

To get more information about Mary’s method, go to www.OneRuleImprov.com.  You can also email her directly at [email protected].

Join us on October 14 for our Compliance to Compassion event, a full day virtual event focusing on hope, reframing our lenses, and compassionate solutions in schools. Hope to “see” you there!

Julie and Ginger invite Sandra Lake and James Moffett into the studio. They are both awesome trauma informed educators, and in this episode, they are discussing what it is like in schools this year versus last year. They both agree that safety and security are paramount, but how can that be accomplished in a non-traumatizing way? – Relationships. Its all about relationships. Sandra says, “Whatever amount of time you spend building relationships with your kids, double it. Double that time because the payout is huge.” James says that his school is making a move from focusing on “every” student to focusing on “each” student.

Listen in to find out what is a walk and talk, what is a tap in tap out, what is a hang out, what is a flip flop. These are the techniques they are using in their schools to help regulate not only the students, but also the staff.

What incredible words of wisdom they share!