There is a common theme that I see not only in the health and wellness space but all over the world, where women are striving for the moving goalposts of perfection. So many of us are trapped in the all or nothing mindset of perfection that we are missing the beauty of the gradients in our lives.

When we are trapped in a perfectionist - or an all-or-nothing - mindset, it is a key indicator that we are facing some sort of dysregulation in our nervous systems. This is causing a constant survival state and forcing us to choose between black and white without seeing the nuance of everything that lies in the middle.

What is truly at the root of our perfectionistic tendencies, and why do we have these beliefs about perfectionism? Where did they come from? 

You must make peace with the shadow parts of yourself to master your internal universe, your thoughts, and your mind. When we address these parts of ourselves, we are uncovering a need that we have suppressed in the name of perfectionism, and we are opening the doors for change.

These needs and these changes are not battles or wars. Confrontation is a very masculine trait, and if you are trying to exert your will or even exercise a certain level of discipline, you will face an energy leakage at the rigidity of the energy you are forcing on yourself. It is not natural for the feminine. 

Tune in today and be sure to come back next week for Part 2, where we dive deeper into how we can change our behaviors and our habits to break out of the polarity of mind and move away from the all-or-nothing mindset!

In this episode:

[00:00:46] Welcome back to The Fully Nourished Podcast!
[00:02:05] How understanding the polarity of the mind can help us redefine perfectionism. 
[00:05:20] The all-or-nothing mindset and where it shows up in our lives.
[00:10:36] Black-and-white thinking is a sign of being in a low-energy state. 
[00:17:08] What is at the root of our perfectionistic tendencies? 
[00:28:29] People pleasing is holding someone else’s view of success as your own, and it will not fulfill you. 
[00:33:50] How the all-or-nothing mindset puts you in a constant state of fight or flight.
[00:37:25] Becoming aware of the problem of perfectionism is the first step to making peace with the shadow parts of ourselves.
[00:45:07] Change is not a battle or a war.
[00:52:05] Tapping into our imagination to define what the vision is for ourselves.
[01:00:25] Thanks for joining me in the Fully Nourished Podcast today!

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