In this episode, I welcome Jason Lyle back to the podcast to talk about his new book, The Sacred Grit. Jason first joined me last year, and this conversation takes us even deeper into his journey—from addiction, infidelity, and shame to rebuilding his life through honesty, nervous system regulation, and authentic living.

One of the biggest themes that stood out to me is the difference between simply grinding through life and doing the deeper work of understanding what's driving your behaviors. Jason challenges the common idea of "just push harder" and instead explains why real resilience starts with truth.

We explore imposter syndrome, emotional regulation, response versus reaction, the role of breath, and why so many men spend their lives trying to become someone else instead of discovering who they already are.

Jason also shares how adventure, nature, and intentional discomfort help people reconnect with themselves in ways that classrooms and lectures often can't.

• The story behind Jason's new book, The Sacred Grit
• Why writing the book became part of his own healing journey
• The difference between beginner syndrome and imposter syndrome
• What it means to live authentically
• Why your inner world needs to match your outer life
• Learning to respond instead of react
• How nervous system regulation changes decision-making
• Why having a plan matters more than relying on willpower
• Cold exposure and staying present through discomfort
• The connection between breath, awareness, and emotional regulation
• Why nature is one of life's greatest teachers
• The role of adventure in helping men reconnect with themselves
• How language shapes our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors
• The difference between grit and Sacred Grit

• Authenticity begins when your actions align with your values.
• Lasting change comes from consistent daily decisions—not dramatic breakthroughs.
• Learning to pause creates space for better choices.
• Your breath can be one of your most powerful tools for emotional regulation.
• Nature has a unique way of revealing who we really are.
• Real resilience isn't about pushing harder—it's about becoming more honest with yourself.

Am I reacting to life… or responding with intention?

This conversation is a reminder that resilience isn't about pretending to have it all together—it's about having the courage to face the truth, do the inner work, and become the person you were meant to be.

Connect with Jason:

Book - https://a.co/d/0f5wFHHD

📸 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/thesacredgrit/

🌐 Website – https://thesacredgrit.com/

🎙️ Podcast – https://thesacredgrit.com/podcast

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“Nobody is coming to save you” sounds harsh.

But this episode isn’t about doing everything alone. It’s about understanding the difference between support and rescue.

Your doctor can give you advice. Your coach can create a plan. Your spouse can encourage you. Your friends can support you.

But eventually, the ball comes back to you.

In this episode of Resilient Humans, Kevin explores why taking ownership of your next move is one of the most important parts of resilience. You can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can almost always control what you do next.

And that’s where your power lives.

• Why ownership is different from blame
• The difference between getting support and waiting to be rescued
• Why great coaching should build competence instead of dependence
• How we unknowingly outsource our health, happiness, and future to other people
• Why resilient people focus on what they can control
• How asking “What’s my next move?” can help when life feels overwhelming
• Why asking for help is sometimes the most resilient action you can take

You are not responsible for everything that happens to you.

But you are responsible for what you do next.

You didn’t choose the injury, the stressful week, the layoff, or what someone said to you.

But you still have a move.

Maybe it’s making the phone call.

Booking the appointment.

Going for the walk.

Apologizing.

Asking for help.

Going to bed.

Making the next meal better.

You don’t need to solve everything today.

You just need to make the next move.

Choose one area of your life where you currently feel stuck and ask yourself three questions:

What is outside my control?

Acknowledge it and stop wasting energy trying to control it.

What support do I need?

A coach? A friend? A healthcare professional? Someone to simply listen?

What’s my next move?

Choose one action and take it.

Because resilience isn’t about having control over everything.

It’s about knowing that even when life doesn’t go according to plan, you still have a move.

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Thanks for listening!

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As summer gets into full swing, Resilient Humans is taking a short break.

In this episode, Kevin reflects on some of the biggest lessons from the past year—from resilience and emotional regulation to capability, aging, identity, and what it truly means to take care of your health.

It's also an opportunity to say thank you. Nearly 200 episodes into the podcast, the support, messages, and conversations from listeners continue to make this journey worthwhile.

While there won't be any new episodes over the summer, Kevin will be recharging, collecting new ideas, and lining up some incredible guests for the fall.

And with Episode 200 just around the corner, there's plenty to look forward to.

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This episode is different. It's personal.

A few weeks ago, Kevin's father fractured his hip and ultimately passed away. During his final week in the hospital, Kevin and his family witnessed moments that left them heartbroken - moments that raised difficult questions about dignity, caregiving, and the realities of an overwhelmed healthcare system.

This isn't an episode about blaming healthcare workers. In fact, it's quite the opposite. It's an acknowledgment that incredible people are working within a system that often cannot meet the growing needs of the population.

Most importantly, it's a conversation about something we still have control over: our own health.

Because after witnessing his father's final days, Kevin became even more convinced that health isn't just about living longer. It's about maintaining capability, preserving independence, and increasing the chances that we can live - and eventually die - with dignity.

Why do you exercise?

For many people, the answer changes over time.

What starts as a desire to lose weight, look better, or "get back in shape" often evolves into something much deeper. In this episode of Resilient Humans, Kevin explores the shift that happens when fitness stops being about fixing perceived flaws and starts becoming a tool for building strength, capability, and resilience.

This isn't an episode about workouts, calories, or PRs. It's about identity. It's about how training teaches us to handle stress, adapt to challenges, and show up for life with confidence.

Because eventually, the gym becomes about much more than the gym.

• Why many people begin exercising from a place of dissatisfaction
• The subtle shift from self-improvement to self-respect
• How training prepares you for challenges outside the gym
• Why exercise can provide stability in a chaotic world
• The connection between fitness, confidence, and resilience
• What it means to become "harder to break"
• Why capability may be one of the greatest gifts of consistent training

The longer you train, the less it becomes about changing your body and the more it becomes about building trust in yourself.

Trust that you can show up.

Trust that you can do hard things.

Trust that you'll be okay when life gets difficult.

That's resilience.

Ask yourself:

👉 Why do I exercise?

Is it still about fixing something?

Or has it become about strengthening something?

Take a few minutes this week to think about what your training allows you to do—not just physically, but mentally and emotionally.

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What happens when you put in the work… and the result still isn’t what you hoped for?

In this episode of Resilient Humans, Kevin reflects on the recent CrossFit Total at CrossFit Moncton—a day where many members hit huge PRs… and he didn’t.

Instead of turning the episode into a conversation about strength numbers, Kevin explores something deeper:

• how we interpret setbacks
• the danger of tying identity to performance
• and why resilience is often revealed most clearly when things don’t go according to plan

From tendonitis and lack of sleep to being on-scene at an active fire the day before, this episode is a powerful reminder that performance never happens in isolation.

• Why context matters when evaluating performance
• The emotional side of not hitting a PR
• How stress, recovery, and life load affect results
• The danger of outcome-based identity
• Why resilience is really about perspective
• How to separate performance from self-worth

Think about an outcome you’re attaching too much meaning to right now.

Ask yourself:

• Am I evaluating this honestly… or emotionally?
• What context might I be ignoring?
• What if the real win is how I responded?

As always, please like, share, and subscribe.

If you would like help building resilience physically, mentally, and emotionally—I’d love to be your coach.

Thanks for listening!

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In this episode, I sit down with Cody Gillies — a career and volunteer firefighter, husband, father of two, and someone who’s walked through trauma, addiction, depression, and a near suicide attempt… and came out the other side with a completely different perspective on resilience.

What stood out to me most about Cody wasn’t just the adversity he’s faced — it was his willingness to talk openly about it.

We get into his childhood growing up with an abusive father struggling with addiction, how endurance sports became both an escape and a coping mechanism, and how years of unresolved trauma slowly built beneath the surface while he pushed harder and harder through life.

Cody shares how firefighting, lack of sleep, overtraining, alcohol, and constant stress eventually led him to a breaking point — and how stepping away from the job for 18 months ultimately became the beginning of rebuilding his life.

This conversation is really about post-traumatic growth.

Not just surviving hard things — but learning how to reframe them, learn from them, and use them to become a better human being.

We also dive deep into self-talk, vulnerability, the importance of reflection, and why many people mistake “pushing through” for actual resilience.

This one is raw, honest, and incredibly important.

• Growing up with addiction, abuse, and unpredictability
• How childhood experiences shape coping mechanisms later in life
• Using endurance sports as both therapy and escape
• The connection between sleep deprivation, stress, and mental health
• Why overtraining can become destructive instead of healthy
• Firefighter culture, trauma exposure, and emotional suppression
• The slow build into depression and suicidal ideation
• Why many first responders don’t recognize they’re struggling
• How podcasts and vulnerable conversations helped Cody seek help
• The role of therapy, sleep, nutrition, and movement in recovery
• The power of reframing trauma and changing internal language
• PTSD as an “injury” instead of a permanent identity
• Why vulnerability is actually one of the hardest things you can do
• How reflection creates growth after hardship

• Resilience isn’t about avoiding struggle — it’s about learning from it
• You can’t heal while constantly running from yourself
• Sleep, nutrition, and movement are foundational to mental health
• The language you use shapes how you experience hardship
• Vulnerability creates connection, not weakness
• Reflection is where growth actually happens

Am I pushing through my struggles… or actually learning from them?

This conversation is a reminder that resilience isn’t about pretending you’re okay... it’s about having the courage to face what’s really going on and taking the next step forward anyway.

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Most people think their workouts drive their results—but they only make up a small part of the picture.

In this episode, I break down TDEE (Total Daily Energy Expenditure) and the 4 components that determine how many calories you burn each day:

• BMR (60–70%) – staying alive
• NEAT (15–30%) – daily movement
• EAT (5–10%) – exercise
• TEF (~10%) – digesting food

The big takeaway?

Your daily habits matter more than your workouts.

If you want better results:

• Move more throughout the day
• Lift weights to build muscle
• Eat enough protein
• Stop relying on workouts alone

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In this episode of Resilient Humans, Kevin flips the script on resilience by exploring what it looks like when it’s missing.

Most people don’t walk around thinking they lack resilience—they just feel overwhelmed, stuck, reactive, or drained… and assume “life is hard.”

But often, it’s not just life—it’s how we’re responding to it.

Kevin breaks down 6 key signs of low resilience, with real-life examples you’ll likely recognize, and practical strategies to help you build it back.

• The difference between life being hard vs. lacking resilience
• 6 common patterns that signal low resilience
• Why fragility, rigidity, and avoidance keep people stuck
• How reactivity and victim mindset show up in everyday life
• Practical ways to build resilience through small, consistent actions

1. Fragility – Small stress creates big reactions
2. Rigidity – “All or nothing” thinking
3. Breakdown – Accumulated stress leads to burnout
4. Avoidance – Escaping instead of addressing problems
5. Reactivity – Acting emotionally without pause
6. Victim Mindset – Believing you have no control

• Build capacity by doing hard things on purpose
• Stay flexible—something is always better than nothing
• Shorten your recovery time when things go off track
• Face problems earlier instead of letting them grow
• Create a pause between stimulus and response
• Focus on what you can control

Pick one of the six areas and focus on it this week.

Ask yourself:

👉 “How am I responding to stress—and how could I handle it better?”

Start small. That’s where resilience is built.

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In this episode, I sit down with Scott Hewlett — a second-generation firefighter, instructor, peer support leader, and host of the Multiple Calls Podcast — for a conversation that goes far beyond tactics and training.

What stood out to me in this one is how Scott challenges a lot of the things we hear over and over again in the fire service — the phrases, the mindset, and the identity people attach to the job.

We talk about the balance between grit and softness, and why the best firefighters aren’t one or the other — they’re both. Scott breaks down what he calls a “dimmer switch,” not a light switch, where you adjust based on the situation instead of defaulting to one mode.

We also get into mentorship, culture, and the responsibility that comes with the job — not just to perform, but to think critically, take ownership, and continuously improve.

This episode is about perspective. It’s about questioning what you’ve been told, understanding why you do what you do, and showing up as a better human — not just a better firefighter.

• Why you shouldn’t let anyone steal a day of your career
• The concept of grit vs softness — and why you need both
• The “dimmer switch” approach to performance and empathy
• Why blindly following advice can hold you back
• The importance of filtering information and thinking critically
• Why being a firefighter is a lifelong learning process
• The reality of burnout, mental health, and peer support
• Why “helping people” isn’t always what you think it is
• The danger of common phrases like “kid calls are the worst”
• How mindset shapes your experience on the job
• Why most “boring calls” are actually opportunities to improve
• The role of mentorship in shaping the next generation
• Why resilience doesn’t always feel like strength

Am I thinking for myself… or just repeating what I’ve been told?

This conversation is a reminder that resilience isn’t just about doing hard things —

it’s about understanding why you’re doing them in the first place.

🎧 Podcast: Multiple Calls Podcast

📸 Instagram: @multiplecallspodcast

📧 Email: [email protected]

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