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If you struggle with setting & maintaining boundaries, you are not alone. Fear of being rejected or dealing with other people’s anger, disappointment or frustration is enough to make many of us neglect our own needs and choose people-pleasing instead. However, this will lead you down a path of resentment and weaken the depth & authenticity of your relationships. In this snippet episode, you will learn how to say “no” better using a mock example of a work-place scenario and why it is so important to do so. 

Guest speaker is Klara Kernig, a codependency recovery coach and people-pleaser expert. She has built a community of 185,000+ on Instagram where people come together to get access to content to help them go from people-pleaser to self-assured. She teaches how to set boundaries and build self-confidence. She herself is a recovering people-pleaser and set out to help others understand their patterns and break free from them.

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(Ep.62 How to stop people-pleasing & build lasting self-confidence w/ Klara Kernig)

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Imagine if you had the self-discipline necessary to create positive habits, break bad ones, follow a morning routine, and consistently stay on track with your goals day after day. Imagine if obstacles such as low motivation, fear, self-doubt, distractions, overwhelm, excuses and procrastination would no longer hold you back.
Who would you become? What would your life be like? How would you feel?

Self-discipline is the topic of this episode, but mindful self-discipline, aka less of the  less ‘drill-sergeant” military approach for mental toughness, and more gentle self-awareness and encouragement without the shaming & guilt-tripping. 

Guest expert is Giovanni Dienstmann,  a former lawyer come self-discipline coach who has helped hedge fund managers, CEOs, entrepreneurs, ambitious professionals, artists and pro-athletes to overcome distractions, procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and other forms of self-sabotage. He is also a meditation teacher, the author of “Mindful Self-Discipline” and curator of LiveAndDare.com, one of the top five most visited meditation blogs on the web. 

Topics & Time Stamps 

00:00 What is self-discipline and what is it NOT?

02:37 Self-discipline vs willpower

05:19 Giovanni's starting over story

07:59 Beat fears with the "not-now technique"

11:44 3 life lessons in 'starting over'

17:15 Focus on the WHY, not the HOW

21:47 Daily practices for mindful self-discipline

26:58 Reactivity v response: impulse control

27:59 Overcoming the obstacles to self-discipline

32:35 Offline morning routine

37:30 Breaking the self-defeating cycle

41:06 A contingency plan

45:49 What is the best advice you've ever received?

47:34 What is the worst advice you've ever received?

51:12 Closing message on self-discipline
 

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What are some of the barriers to finding clarity? Why is being of service & contribution to others so important for purpose & fulfillment? Have you considered the possibility that fears, doubts & insecurities are blocking you from having clarity on your next best step? When is the right moment to stop thinking and start taking action?

These are some of the questions you’ll get answers to in this episode with British author, motivational speaker and serial entrepreneur Alan Lucas. Alan also invites you to keep these three questions as your guiding compass: “How can you help? What can you learn? How can you have more fun?” He brings a light-hearted, no-nonsense & practical approach to helping you find greater clarity and start taking actions towards your best self and best life.  

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The gap between where you are now and where you want to be is usually full of FEAR. Problem is you probably have a cycle of being triggered with fear and then retreating away from it, which gives your brain more evidence that you are not worthy or not competent. Let’s break that cycle & learn how to do things WITH fear!
In this snippet, you’ll get a pep talk, some mindset strategies and practical tools to stop letting fear limit you, so you can live with more expansion, joy, ease & freedom. 

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(Ep.56 How to breakthrough fear to unlock your full potential w/ Ben Harris)

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How can you deal with intrusive thoughts? If you are “not your thoughts” then who are you really? What does your left brain and right brain have to do with suffering and happiness? How can you update your (dysfunctional) mind program to reduce suffering, increase happiness and find inner peace? 

These are some of the topics covered by cognitive neuropsychologist, university professor and author Dr Chris Niebauer. He is a specialist on  consciousness, mindfulness, left- and right-brain differences, and artificial intelligence, and in this episode he explains and even shows you through some simple exercises that many of your problems are due to relentless thinking, but that thinking is not who you are and it is something you have the power to change. 

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• Book: No Self, No Problem: How Neuropsychologist is Catching Up to Buddhism 

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Letting go is not about giving up or being passive or being a quitter, it is about creating space for new opportunities, growth and transformation. It is about cutting the heavy chains to the past that prevent you from living vibrantly in the present. And it’s about unlocking a new beginning and a fresh start. But how do you do it? How do you let go of that expired relationship, or that grudge, or that persistent lack of self-love, or all of that fear keeping you stuck? I have four solutions for you, a terrible gardening analogy and real talk about forgiving my narcissistic-ex partner and moving on. 

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Are you fed up with not achieving your goals? Are you feeling stuck? Are you stuck in cycles of self-sabotage? Are you thinking, thinking, thinking (aka overthinking) and not getting anywhere? Then this is for you! In this snippet, digital entrepreneur Steph Taylor and I give you a short pep talk on motivation, clarity, taking imperfect action & working out the next best step to take in life.

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(Ep.55 Thinking of a career start over or entrepreneurship? You NEED to hear this! w/ Steph Taylor)

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When does people-pleasing actually become problematic? How can you build better self-confidence and live more authentically? How can you learn to say no better? (without the guilt and awkwardness) How can you stop being taken advantage of? These are some of the questions you will get answers to in this episode with codependency recovery coach & people-pleaser expert Klara Kernig, who has built a 185k strong community on Instagram who love her wisdom, knowledge & helpful strategies. Who knows, maybe by the end of this episode, you’ll quit asking google what you should do, and start listening to yourself instead! That’s the goal. 

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This is a barrier we all face right? And one which keeps us in yo-yo cycles and further away from achieving our full potential. So what can you do when you are lacking in motivation & willpower to tackle that thing you know you should do, or indeed must do but just can’t seem to push through that resistance? Here are 10 of my top hacks for doing just that & setting yourself up for lasting self-confidence & success! 

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Welcome to the new format “snippets” of Starting Over with Shannon: for busy people who want a quick dose of inspiration & guidance on their self-development and healing journey. In this snippet, certified transformational coach & psychotherapist Kristina Furia explains this somewhat mystical and intangible concept of the ‘higher self’, how you can distinguish between the fear-driven ego mind and your intuition/higher self, and she gives you some practices to start vibrating higher daily.

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(Ep.46 Master your mood, mindset and vibrate higher daily w/Kristina Furia)

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