‘If you don't know who you are or what you want, others will decide it for you.’ 

This snippet episode is all about choosing another way. One which places your own VALUES front & center.

Drowned by noisy societal expectations and common-place ideas of goals & achievements, we often lose sight of our own values. But by keeping our values top of mind, we not only find meaning and personal relevance in the goals we pursue but also gain the resilience to persist when faced with obstacles and self-doubt. 

Guest expert is Dr Judy Ho, triple board certified and licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, university professor and author of “Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way” 

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(Ep.72 Stop the cycle of self-sabotage & clear a path to lasting happiness w/ Dr Judy Ho)

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Ben Ahrens is a chronic illness recovery expert, TEDx Speaker, Neuroplasticity coach, and CEO of re-origin: A science-based brain retraining program & community for anxiety, depression & chronic illness recovery.  In this inspiring episode, Ben shares his own story of being diagnosed with chronic lyme disease in his mid-twenties and spending 3 years bedbound, taking 60 pills a day. But he made a full recovery and now shares his learnings through the practical lens of neuroplasticity (brain-retraining). 

Even if you have not faced chronic illness, there are so many words of wisdom & practical tips on how to retrain your brain for greater calm and cultivate a resilient mindset to overcome any challenge you are facing in life! 

Time stamps:

00:00 Introduction

00:31 Surfing Accident

05:28 Spending 3.5 years in bed

07:01 Lyme disease

08:24 The INVALIDATION of "It's all in your head"

14:40 Chronic conditions

16:29 The mind-body connection

18:04 Ben's holistic healing journey

34:16 'Spontaneous healing' is not so spontaneous...

38:45 You can start over ANYTIME!

41:38 Resistance vs acceptance 

45:13 3 steps to letting go 

49:58 How to retrain your brain 

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Relationship conflict is something we often try to avoid or construe as a sign that there is something ‘wrong’. But what if conflict could instead be an invitation & an opportunity for deeper connection, healing and mutual growth? I spent the last 5 days in Strasbourg, France participating in a couples retreat using the “Imago Relationship” method and in this episode I share with you the memorable & useful lessons that will help you to get, build, and keep the love you want. 

PS: The lessons are applicable if you are single or in a couple!

Here’s a breakdown of what I share: 

• What is Imago Therapy and an Imago Dialogue? 
• How to use conflict as an opportunity for healing 
• The 3-step formula for a structured conversation (can’t believe I’m saying that…) 

SPOILER ALERT:  Here are the 5 lessons shared 

#1 All we all really want is to be truly seen, heard, understood, and accepted

#2 FYI: You're not REALLY listening! (But you need to)

#3 It is not the RUPTURE that is important, but the REPAIR

#4 Your past will show up in your present until you heal

#5 Make time to have FUN!

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Dr Judy Ho is a triple board certified and licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist and university professor. She is also the author of “Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way” and she shares those steps with you in this episode. 

Because let’s face it, you are fed up with feeling like you make a few steps forward only to be followed by two steps backwards, right? It damages your self-confidence. It leaves you doubting your ability to make true & lasting change. 

Well, what if the answer wasn’t all as complicated as you thought it was? This episode is all about easy-to-understand explanations & simple practical strategies to change your life.

We also discuss:

• 00:00 What is self-sabotage?
• 03:12 How is it different to being lazy?
• 04:21 Your two main primary drives: attain rewards & avoid threat
• 06:15 Managing your stress response
• 07:38 Sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up 
• 09:54 Which of these 4 is your self-sabotage driver?
• 14:55 Understanding what triggers you! 
• 16:34 Be careful of these thoughts…
• 18:32 What comes first: thoughts or emotions?
• 21:16 Deactivating your triggers 
• 28:50 Can distraction be helpful?
• 30:49 Living a value-led life

So let’s put an end to that self-sabotage, shall we? 

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Jessica Willis Fisher is Americana singer/songwriter, multi-instrumentalist, and author of a bestselling memoir “Unspeakable: Surviving My Childhood and Finding My Voice”. Jessica is the eldest daughter in a family of 14 which was headed by an extremely controlling, abusive, violent and domineering father who is now serving a prison sentence of 40 years on 4 counts of child rape. The darker reality was far from the wholesome All-American Christian musical family persona depicted in their reality TV show or their stint on America’s Got Talent. 

But Jessica found the courage to find her voice, share her story and do deep healing work; some of which has been channeled into music and her critically acclaimed debut solo album “Brand New Day”, a song of which is played at the end of this episode.

We also discuss:

• Jessica’s childhood abuse & her father’s arrest
• Narcissism, sociopathy, cults, high control groups 
• Healing from trauma & getting out of survival mode
• Jessica’s husband & the remarkable power of love in healing 
• Moving forward & post-traumatic growth

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The featured song at the end of the episode is "My History" which is available here on YouTube.

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Oftentimes it is fears, doubts and insecurities, which are blocking you from finding the clarity you seek. (Not to mention sparking greater overwhelm, anxiety, overthinking and inertia). So what are the common fears at play? 

Fear of not being good enough. Fear of failure. Fear of loss of control. Fear of making the wrong choice. Fear of insecurity. And beneath it all… fears around losing love. 

In this snippet, British author, motivational speaker and serial entrepreneur Alan Lucas shares some insights on how you can shift from a fear-based mindset, start expanding your appetite for risk and get more comfortable with the unknown. 

And a key question he wants you to consider: Why were you created? “Because when you start getting answers to that, he says, your own answers & your own philosophy, then you have a clear sense of direction. In some ways, it doesn't matter about the little minutia steps you make along the way because you're driven in a direction (rather than stuck), you feel whole and you feel like you're growing and contributing.”

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(Ep.65 Unsure of your next right step? Your guide to finding CLARITY w/ Alan Lucas)

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SPOILER ALERT: It was because I lacked self-love. 

It is said that a smart person learns from their mistakes, but a truly wise person learns from the mistakes of others. Take it from me: poor self-worth and a lack of self-love will lead you nowhere good fast. It fuels addictions, leads to self-sabotage, weakens physical and emotional health  and can keep you stuck on this hamster wheel of seeking externally to fill an inner void.

This episode is all about understanding how a lack of self-love holds you back and what you can do to change that. It is about delving directly into the causes, not wasting your time treating symptoms. It is about creating deep & lasting personal transformation and accessing inner freedom, joy and peace. 

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Stress, anxiety, worry - these are all signs that you have lost the present moment; the next moment has become more important than life itself. Reality is, most people are not suffering in real life, they are suffering in memory or in imagination. But this is a choice. You can unlearn this habitual pattern of negative thinking. You can learn  how to become more comfortable with uncertainty and the future unknown. You can learn how to cultivate a greater sense of trust, faith, hope and optimism in the unfolding of your life.  

In this episode you will learn a simple 4-step roadmap out of worry about the future to access more peace, presence and contentment. 

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“Love touches and heals something that medications can't touch”. In this snippet, physician, psychiatrist and Harvard Medical School professor Jeffrey Rediger explains how lifestyle and beliefs affect gene expression and suggests we can look beyond traditional medicine to the role of emotions, spirituality and relationships (i.e. LOVE) in our health. 

Dr Jeffrey shares the story of “Claire”, who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and decided not to pursue conventional treatment. Instead, she focused on improving her quality of life by working through books about how to prepare for death, addressing relationships where she wanted to forgive people, and eliminating processed foods from her diet. Eventually, her cancer disappeared, and she was healed. 

What can we learn from these cases of spontaneous remission (aka an unexpected improvement or disappearance of a disease or medical condition without any known or intended medical treatment)? 

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(Ep.47 Miracles in medicine? The life-changing science of spontaneous healing w/ Jeffrey Rediger)

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How can you hold the depth of your emotions and transform painful experiences into valuable life lessons? Your breath can show you. Michelle D’Avella is a writer,  author, YouTuber and breathwork facilitator who had a blindsiding breakup in 2016 that catalyzed her spiritual journey inward. She realised the path forward was one of surrender and letting go, and not the ‘I don’t want to feel this so I push it away’ letting go, but a brave, inquisitive “I allow this to be here so it releases” letting go. And she shares her transformation to help you with yours. 

In this episode, Michelle and I also discuss: 

• Spiritual awakening / dark night of the soul 
• Processing grief & fear using the breath
• How to release inner resistance to facing yourself
• Trusting in the unfolding of your life

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