Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Revenge Reporting & Trusting Your Gut

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In this Dear Damona episode, we cover revenge reporting, why dating app systems meant to protect us sometimes get weaponized, and how to handle rejection with grace while protecting yourself when things go sideways.

This week, a listener named Lisa shares:

"I just didn't think this was gonna be good. So I wrote him a respectful message. He responded respectfully. And within an hour I get an email from match.com that my account had been canceled due to some misbehavior. I know in my gut that guy was vindictive and turned me in. Is this a thing?"

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

  • Why trusting your intuition early saves you time and emotional energy later
  • The right way to exit a match without overexplaining or giving someone ammunition
  • What revenge reporting is and who it disproportionately hurts
  • How dating app moderation works and why they block first, ask questions later
  • What to do if you get banned from a dating app and how to appeal

    • Resources and Links:

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