Roll With The Punches

Why do we sometimes push people away before they even get the chance to hurt us? And how much of what we call our personality is actually a bunch of survival strategies we picked up as kids?

I had an absolute cracker of a conversation with psychoanalyst Dr. Galit Atlas, who just happens to be the author of Come Closer, about childhood wounds, adult relationships and the stuff we carry into our grown-up lives without even realising it.

If you're a sucker to exploring the protective patterns we develop, the stories we tell ourselves to justify our behaviours, and things like Tiff Cook's emotional avoidance, abandonment issues and other dysfunctional adaptations she's had to overcome so far (or still has a way to go with) then buckle up for the ride and hit play on this bad boy...

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DR. GALIT ATLAS

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Website: tiffcook.com

 

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Why do we keep getting in our own way, even when we bloody know better?

Beck King and I get stuck into the patterns, fears and stories that keep us repeating the same shit, why the problem isn't always the problem, and what it takes to actually make a change.

Beck shares some of her own journey through depression, anxiety and grief, and we talk about why knowing what to do and actually doing it are two very different things.

Because let's be honest, most of us don't need another book, podcast or course telling us what to do (except this one, obviously 😂). We need to figure out why we're not doing the bloody thing in the first place.

If you're sick of getting in your own way, this one's for you.

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REBEKAH KING

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Website: tiffcook.com

 

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How much of your potential are you leaving on the table because you're waiting for the right time to get your sh*t together?

We do we humans cling to comfort, certainty and the familiar, even when they're the very things keeping us stuck?

Harps and I bang on in this ep about the stories we tell ourselves, the ways we resist the things that could help us grow, and why being willing to suck at something is often the price of actually getting better at it.

I share a few recent realisations about myself and my tendency to resist the very help for, insist on doing things my own way, and then discover that the thing I was pushing back against was actually pretty bloody useful. Whoopies. 😂

But here's the thing. Ya don't need to have it all figured out... Ya don't need to feel confident... And ya definitely don't need to wait for the stars to align.

Being willing to adapt, do things differently, learn as you go, and take action before you feel completely comfortable is where it's at!

And if you're waiting for the perfect time to start, take a look at your watch now... I think it's bloody time!

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Why do we sometimes find it easier to jump off a cliff, swim in massive surf or lift a stupidly heavy weight than have an honest conversation about how we're actually feeling?

Well, these are some of the questions Scotty and I get stuck into as we explore the whole hard things conversation, and why the thing that looks courageous on the outside isn't always the thing we're actually scared of.

So if you're up for a chat about why we deliberately put ourselves in dangerous situations, how our childhoods shape the way we operate, and why some of us would rather do everything the hard way than ask for a bloody hand... this might be the one for you!

Scotty shares some exceptional life tips, including how his fear of looking stupid has sometimes seen him throw a metaphorical hand grenade into a situation rather than admit he doesn't know how to do something. Which, let's be honest, is one way to handle it. Not necessarily the best way, though.

There's a bit of ADHD, a few uncomfortable truths, some excellent examples of Scotty being Scotty, and a reminder that doing hard things is pretty bloody useful. But understanding WHY we're doing them is where the rubber really hits the road.

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Website: tiffcook.com

 

 

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G'day whippersnappers. No guest this ep. Just you and me, sitting down for a chat about change.

I've been having heaps of conversations lately while building Strong AF, and so many of them have brought me back to the same question: if I keep doing what I'm doing now, where does this take me?

Because we are what we repeatedly do. Not what we intend to do. Not what we say we value. Not what we did six months ago.

I'm getting into stories we tell ourselves, the identities we build, the way we speak to ourselves, and why wanting to change and actually being willing to change are two very different things.

I also get into something I've come to believe pretty strongly: your body is the consequence, not the problem. Especially as women and as we get older and our bodies start responding differently to the things we've always done, the answer isn't automatically to eat less and do more.

And then I give you something ridiculously simple you can actually do TODAY.

Do one thing. Do it first thing in the morning. Do it again tomorrow. Then again.

Because change doesn't require you to move mountains on day one. It requires you to start becoming the person you say you want to be

Give this one a listen and then go do the bloody thing.

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Vicki Connor has been through... well, honestly, I'm not sure how to describe it without sounding like I'm making sh*t up.

A serious head injury that changed her personality. Type 1 diabetes from the age of seven. Major surgery at 15. Elite sport. Abusive relationships. Severe depression. A complicated pregnancy. A massive postpartum haemorrhage. Early menopause. Cancer. Losing both her parents. And then, just last year, a haemorrhagic stroke that left her having to learn to walk and talk again.

And yet, the thing that has probably shaped her most isn't any one of those things.

It's the identity she built around being 'strong'.

Vicki talks about how being the strong one became something she was praised for from a very young age. She became the person who could handle anything, push through anything and never need anyone. And for a long time, that looked like resilience.

Until it didn't.

Because when being strong becomes who you are, asking for help starts to feel like failure.

This is such a bloody good conversation about resilience, identity, recovery, trauma, asking for help and what happens when the thing that got you through life starts getting in the way of actually living it.

 

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VICKI CONNOR

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Website: tiffcook.com

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Katrina lost her husband Scott to a heart attack when he was just 42. He was fit, active, an exercise physiologist, didn't smoke, didn't have high cholesterol and had normal blood pressure. He'd even been to the doctor about chest pain. And yet, he still died.

That experience, as you can imagine, completely changed the trajectory of Katrina's life. She's now a heart health advocate, working with researchers to improve early detection and access to heart health checks, particularly in rural Australia.

We get into why being fit and healthy doesn't necessarily mean you're low risk, what family history can tell us, the limitations of current heart health screening, why rural Australians face another layer of risk, and why Katrina thinks we're putting far too much responsibility on patients to 'advocate for themselves'.

And then there's the other side of this conversation.

Grief. Raising two boys after losing their dad. Learning to live with the waves rather than trying to outrun them. And the decision to keep having a crack at life, even when life has dealt you a pretty effing brutal hand.

This one got me in the feels... Now get out there and get ya bloody heart checked!

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Two ADHD-ers walk into a podcast studio... what could possibly go wrong?

Well, once we got past flamethrowers and weed killing, eventually we went down the rabbit hole of what happens when you finally understand how your brain actually works.

Patrick was recently diagnosed with ADHD, and the diagnosis has given him a completely different lens on a whole bunch of things he's done throughout his life. The distractions... hyperfocus... inability to sit still... endless interests... the ridiculous number of things he manages to cram into a weekend... and the fact that when something genuinely grabs him, he'll move heaven and earth to do it.

We compared notes on being the 'disruptive' kid at school, being labelled lazy or difficult, and what can happen when you're simply in the wrong environment or being asked to learn in a way that doesn't work for you.

We also talked about medication, executive function, motivation, finding the right career fit, taking risks, trying shit just because you're interested in it, and why I reckon we can do ourselves a fair bit of damage when we start believing someone else's story about who we're supposed to be.

Patrick has had one hell of an eclectic life, from journalism and radio to Tai Chi, technology, paragliding and community radio.

If that kind of feels relatable for you... maybe you're not flaky. Maybe you're curious.

Maybe you're not incapable of sticking at something. Maybe you just haven't found the thing that keeps you interested.

And maybe... just maybe, being a little bit different isn't something that needs fixing at all.

 

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PATRICK BONELLO

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Narcissism gets thrown around so much these days that I was really bloody interested to get underneath the label and actually talk about what we know, what we don't know, and where we've potentially got it very wrong.

Dr Peter Salerno has worked clinically with people who meet the criteria for severe personality disorders and now works predominantly with survivors of pathological relationships. We got into narcissism, psychopathy, manipulation, why highly intelligent and successful people can still get completely caught in these dynamics, and why telling someone to 'just leave' massively oversimplifies what can actually be happening to their brain and nervous system.

We also got into the nature versus nurture debate, genetics, trauma, empathy, confirmation bias, why some people actively target others, and whether you can actually break these patterns and future proof yourself from ending up in another toxic relationship.

There's a LOT in this one. And some of Peter's explanations completely challenge the way we usually talk about narcissism and abusive relationships.

 

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DR. PETER SALERNO

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TIFFANEE COOK

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Imagine being a rambunctious & ridiculously active weapon one minute, and one who's barely able to walk from the car to the supermarket without your heartrate sky-rocketing the next...

Well, welcome to the world of Claire Clark... Claire was a paramedic, PT, yoga teacher, retreat organiser, ridiculously active human and basically someone who just kept doing all the things she could dream up. Until a back injury at work lead to a cascade of events that eventually saw her diagnosed with POTS.

She spent years of not being believed and being told her tests were 'normal', losing the career she'd worked so bloody hard for, watching friendships change, and having to completely rethink what her life was actually for.

I sure can't imagine the mental gymnastics of waiting so long for a diagnosis on an invisible illness in a body that's capacity to perform and function can change from one day to the next...

Chatting with Claire sure holds the mirror up when it comes to how we so often measure our life by how much we can do, how much we earn, or what we achieve.

These days it's all about 'finding the glimmers'... which sounds like a pretty bloody good philosophy if you ask me!

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TIFFANEE COOK

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