Splitting is a primitive defense mechanism designed to protect. A child will split their world into black and white because it's easier for them to manage. Two personality disorders who overvalue and devalue relationships are those of the Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder personality Cluster B's.   They do so for different reasons: BPD's have a weak inner core and fear abandonment, whereas NPD's fear being exposed for their false self (no strong inner core either, but harder shell) and will split when they are hurt.   The key to forming a strong inner core is to start with emotional nutrients--breastfeeding, attuning to the baby/child, and creating an integrative family structure.   We Shrunk That Tune  “Stop Dragging My Heart Around” by Stevie Nicks and Tom Petty (Who died this week)   Get Dr. Judy's Book, “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”! Available in Book or eBook: http://bit.ly/1Ny1asG and get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with her personally. Email at [email protected]   Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy and speak with Dr. Judy personally.   Visit our website for more details at  www.DrJudyWTF.com