Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you’ll finally find out.

If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.

Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.

Bonus: Don’t miss the quiz at the end—It’ll help you decode your partner’s attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you’re done guessing and ready to know who you’re really dealing with.

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Think he was your soulmate? wrong. He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi.

This isn’t another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who’s done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.”

In this short, savage 5 step guide, I’m breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop romanticizing the inconsistency of A LOVEBOMBER. Because love bombing isn’t love—it’s manipulation with good marketing.

You’re not crazy. You’re just waking up.

It’s time to stop making chaos feel like home.

And no, babe, he doesn’t get access to this version of you anymore.

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Second week of the month? You know what that means—it’s time for Dear Violet - where you call, text, or email me your BURNING questions and I give you the best advice that you need to hear.

From pooping in front of him (WHY) to co-signing car loans in the talking stage—On today's episode, I’m breaking down the dumbest sh*t we’ve all done for men who didn’t deserve it. Plus: navigating ex drama, toxic friends, and how to actually move on from heartbreak when therapy, shrooms, and silent retreats aren’t cutting it.

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If you’re tired of feeling stuck, this is your wake-up call.

In 21 days, you can reset your mind, body, and soul—and completely shift the trajectory of your life. No fluff. No waiting. Just the mindset, the energy, and the exact steps to become her. This is the sign you've been looking for!! Your future self is begging you to press play :)

P.S. Make sure to tune in to the 3 call to action steps at the end.

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Buckle up besties, because we’re removing the love goggles, dry-heaving over mixed signals, and finally realizing your soulmate is not the guy who ghosted you after “accidentally” falling into another woman’s vagina. Oopsies.

In today’s spicy little episode, ’m diving into the chapter that should be tattooed on every situationship survivor's forehead: Let Them Show You Who They Are from Mel Robbins’ book The Let Them Theory. This episode is for anyone confused, delusional, freshly dumped, or just in need of a no-bullsh*t reminder that love shouldn’t feel like a cryptic puzzle from a 2009 Tumblr post. If they wanted to, they would—and if they didn’t, they won’t. Period.

Subscribe now before I show up at your house and start reading this chapter out loud in a Russian accent until you cry and heal!!! AHHHHHHHH LOVE YOU <3

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Hi besties!!! This week, Almost Adulting gets extra raw (and maybe a little gross) as Violet sits down with Bachelor royalty,Kaitlyn Bristowe, for a no-holds-barred conversation full of TMI, laughter, and brutal honesty. In this episode, we cover:

• We Listen and We Don’t Judge – Icebreaker confessions, including bathroom mishaps, weird habits, and the things nobody admits to.
• Living Alone vs. Relationship Life – The best and worst parts of solo life and the unexpected struggles that make us miss having a man around.
• The Art of Oversharing – Social media, internet hate, and why people love to pretend they’ve never done anything wrong.
• Toxic Hollywood Friendships and toxic Hollywood men with weird kinks 
• Poop Kinks & Other Horrors – Yes, we went there. Buckle up.

Get ready for an episode that’s equal parts hilarious, shocking, and way too relatable. We listen, we don’t judge… but we might gag.

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This March, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aries man obsessed with YOU.

Get ready to uncover:

🔥 The bold traits that make him irresistible—and how to use them to your advantage.

🔥 Proven strategies to grab his attention and keep him addicted to your energy.

🔥 What lights his fire in a relationship (and what will extinguish it).

🔥 Red flags that show he’s losing interest—and how to reignite the spark.

🔥 How to win him back if he’s pulled away or moved on.

Whether you’re trying to attract an Aries, keep up with his fiery personality, or rekindle the passion, this episode is your ultimate guide to handling the zodiac’s boldest lover.

Hit play now and make this March all about conquering the heart of an Aries! 

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Tiny Adults, it's that time of the month—our second-week Dear Violet episode! But first, a little story time. I just got back from a wild Vegas weekend at UFC, where I had an unexpected run-in with Andrew Tate. Yep, you heard that right. I’ll spill all the details before diving into today’s episode, where we tackle everything from confidence killers to trauma, self-love, and getting what you want.

Here’s what we’re covering:

• The Power of Labels – How to label someone to get exactly what you want.
• Grief & Healing – Everyone processes grief differently. Here’s how to navigate it in a way that works for you.
• Trauma & Your Nervous System – The difference between immobilization and movement during trauma—and how it determines your healing speed.
• Breaking Down Trauma Processing – The three key steps: sensing, naming, and identifying.
• When You Feel Ugly & Unlovable – My advice to someone struggling with self-worth.
• The 4 Confidence Killers – What’s secretly holding you back from the life you want.
• Self-Affirmations I Swear By – Plus, a sneak peek into my love-yourself speech.
• The Real Key to Self-Love – It’s not what you think.
• Does He Like Me? – How to go from the friend zone to something more.
• 5 Easy Comebacks – What to say when someone’s being rude (because we love a good mic drop).

This episode is packed, so grab a drink, get comfy, and let’s get into it! Don't forget to subscribe, share with your friends, and leave me a 5 star review on the podcast app besties :)

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Pack your bags, Tiny Adults (is this nickname working for you?? Y/N?), because we’re heading to Aspen—where the altitude is high, the skiing is tragic, and the men? Well… some of them are worth the trip. This episode is a rollercoaster of luxury, disaster, and unexpected life lessons. From scoring free designer fits to nearly dying on the slopes, this trip had everything. 

Buckle up—you're in for a ride.

⏳ TIME STAMPS:

[00:00:00] - [00:13:16] ➝ My favourite part of traveling, the perks of flying deaf, and why you should actually appreciate your loved ones.

[00:15:04] ➝ That one time my boyfriend low-key hated me, my alleged passion for stealing, and how I learned altitude sickness (much like the female orgasm) isn't a myth. (Wait, wuttt?!)

[00:25:58] ➝ Me vs. skiing: a brutal battle for survival. Plus, the lesson I should have learned—and what you should take away instead. (Cue the existential crisis.)

[00:50:42] ➝ Brazilian men are hot, Bad makeout sessions, and why escaping Aspen is always a sh*t show.

Click play for luxury, disaster, and life lessons you didn’t ask for but need!

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BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to Benson Book Club—your monthly deep dive into books that actually hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we’re cracking open The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.

 “Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.” – Mel Robbins

Translation? Stop trying to control people who don’t text back, don’t show up, or don’t give you what you want. LET THEM. And then? Watch your life get so much easier.

This episode covers:

• Why chasing people is a waste of time
• Why You’re Exhausted Trying to Control People – The #1 mistake we all make when we try to “fix” or “convince” others. (Spoiler: It never works.)
• How to Stop Taking Things Personally – When someone ghosts, disrespects you, or doesn’t show up the way you want—here’s how to instantly stop giving a f*ck.
•  The Freedom of LETTING THEM – What happens when you stop chasing, stop forcing, and just let people do whatever they want? (Hint: Your life gets 100x easier.)
•  Your Energy is YOURS—Take It Back – You don’t need their approval. You don’t need closure. You need to focus on YOURSELF.
• The Magic of The LET THEM and Let Me Theory – The second you apply this, you’ll start feeling lighter, happier, and completely unbothered.

If you’re tired of overthinking, over-explaining, and over-giving—this episode is for YOU.

Hit play, and let’s talk about it. 🎧🔥 #LetThem #AlmostAdulting #MelRobbins

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