Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Are you being needy or jumping through hoops Like a circus poodle to make someone's crusty a$$ son happy? then stop right there and listen to this episode sugar tits.

Ever wondered why most women crave something from a man that they need to give themselves or where the key is keeping your rhythm intact to avoid creating a void in your life? Learn why lowering yourself to fit his criteria lowers the relationship value and why being the "nice girl" might not always be in your best interest.

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They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men. 

On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed.

We discuss:

• The Power of Praise: Why giving a little ego boost makes him crave your attention.
• Be His Queen—Silently in Control: How to stay in control of the relationship while letting him feel like he’s "the man."
• Secrets from "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus": Tips that turn any date into the one you want.
• Boosting His Self-Esteem: How to be his safe haven and keep him invested.
• Mastering His Heart by Stoking His Ego: Make him feel like a hero—The knight-in-shining-armor metaphor and how men are motivated by feeling needed and appreciated.

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Get ready to take notes because these tips aren't just for anyone—they're for those who are ready to take back their power and get the princess treatment they've been longing for.

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In this wild episode, we share the unforgettable story of a disastrous elevator incident that turns hilariously messy, delve into dating horror stories like discovering a date is married, and a Tinder match nearly goes off a cliff (literally). From ex-girlfriend party ambushes to duffel-bagged sleepover assumptions, and the epic Taco Bell 100-taco fiasco—these are dating fails you won’t believe. We’ll laugh, cringe, and give you the lowdown on the absurd lengths people go to in the name of love (or just plain chaos). 

We then end the episode with some dating advice about being the other woman and men with female best friends, you don't wanna miss it! 

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In this episode, I sit down with Whitney Port, beloved reality TV star from The Hills and The City, entrepreneur, and podcast host. Whitney opens up about her deeply personal journey with infertility, the pressure of public life, and the complexities of navigating anxiety and self-worth. Prepare for a candid, relatable, and incredibly inspiring conversation as we delve into her struggles and triumphs.

We discuss:

• Navigating Infertility: Whitney shares her heartbreaking journey through five miscarriages, IVF, and her decision to seek surrogacy.
• Surrogacy Process
• Redefining Self-Worth: How Whitney balances her identity and self-worth beyond fame and public opinion.
• Managing Anxiety: Insight into Whitney's personal tools for handling anxiety, from mindfulness to self-compassion.
• Balancing Personal and Public Life: Reflections on maintaining authenticity and boundaries in the public eye.
• Resilience in the Face of Loss: Whitney’s reflections on hope, healing, and finding strength in the face of grief.

And so much more!!! I also give you a fun intro about the date I am going on today :) enjoy!!!

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In this episode, we go all in on love, dating, and relationships—holding nothing back. If you're fed up with mixed signals, emotionally unavailable partners, or just feeling like you’re not getting what you deserve, this is the episode that will turn it all around for you.

What we discuss:

• If you catch me doing THIS, then just KNOW I’m going through it and someone’s dusty a&& son p*ssed me the F off!
• The best advice my mum gave me when it comes to heartbreak
• 3 questions to ask yourself in the beginning of dating
• How your energy in the relationship reveals if they're right for you—and the kind of energy that signals they’re the one.
• How to stop wasting time on people who aren’t showing up for you.
• The key to a successful relationship: (hint: you need more than love)

And so much more!! 

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This episode will help you finally break the cycle of toxic relationships and demand the love you deserve. Trust me, you NEED to listen to this one if you want to save your love life—or finally find your soulmate/your person.

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Pick your colour, pick your path! In this special October tarot card reading, I’ve pulled out three different decks that predict the rest of your month—from your career to life to love! Each deck is tied to a colour that calls out to you. 

Timestamps:

Green - 2:03

Pink - 12:51

Red - 21:16

Each colour holds a unique reading packed with guidance for the month ahead. So, which one is speaking to you? 

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If you're feeling lost, stuck at rock bottom, unloved, unheard, unmotivated, or unhappy in your current situation—if you feel completely defeated, like you've lost your sense of purpose, and that things will NEVER get better—this episode is for you!

This is the wake-up call you've been waiting for.

Today I get personal on what hitting rock bottom taught me and how I pulled myself out, and how you can too.

We discuss:

• How everything feels like salt, when you walk around wounded.
• The truth about why some people have such a powerful impact on us—No they are NOT your twin flame.
• How losing yourself can actually lead to a breakthrough.
• The dangers of confiding in the wrong people during your weakest moments.
• How to recognise when someone’s projecting their insecurities onto you.
• How to protect your energy and rebuild your confidence.
• And lastly, 3 things to remember when hitting rock bottom. 

We end this heartfelt episode with some laughs, cringe quotes, and a random true story about my encounter with Eva Mendes that might surprise you. 

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Trust me, you’re stronger than you think, and your comeback is about to be legendary. Don’t miss this episode and share it with your bestie—this might be the push you both have been waiting for! <3

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Instead of colonising why don't we DEcolonise today? Trauma that is!

Join me in this transformative conversation with global thought leader and TEDx speaker, Yemi Penn, as we dive into alternative approaches to healing trauma.

We explore powerful topics like:

• Decolonizing trauma: What it means and how it changes your healing journey.
• Bending your reality: How to rewrite your narrative and create a thriving life post-trauma.
• Facing adversity and why cultivating a mindset of curiosity and rebellion is necessary
• Breaking toxic patterns: Tools and practices to disrupt negative behaviors.
• Embracing discomfort: How leaning into vulnerability and discomfort can lead to profound personal growth.

To get more information about Yemi along with her book, Did You Get the Memo?--a powerful book that explores reclaiming one’s story and turning pain into power. You can learn more about both at yemipenn.com​ Women With Purpose)

Tune in for practical insights and empowering strategies to transform your pain into strength.

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My most unhinged episode yet or at least in the top 5!

If you have ADHD or think you might or just want to laugh your a$$ off then this episode is for you. 

From my worst date stories to my doctor drug testing me for a snow habit at 9am, to giving you a tarot card reading for that one burning question on your mind—this episode has it all! Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Love ya!

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I’m not enough?" Today, we’re calling that out for what it is—the biggest lie you’ve ever told yourself, and the one thing holding you back from living the life you’re meant for.

This week, we’re kicking off a brand-new series! Every week, we’ll be debunking one LIE that’s been holding us back from living our best lives, and we’re starting with this episode.

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Today, we’re breaking down the three key drivers of this toxic mindset and debunking each one together. For every lie we uncover, you’ll get practical, actionable steps to help you step into your true potential. By the end of this episode, you’ll have the tools to rise above self-doubt and stop letting these lies define your worth. 

It’s time to let go of the lies and step into your power.

TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 - 9:07 - Imposter Syndrome

• How and why your mind tricks you into feeling like a fraud
• Debunking the myths fueling self-doubt
• Actionable steps to overcome imposter syndrome

9:08 - 24:32 - Social Comparison Theory

• How and why comparing your life to others’ highlight reels only keeps you stuck
• Debunking the myths that everyone has it better
• Actionable steps to overcome social comparison 

24:33 - 37:40 - Negativity Bias

• How and why your brain is literally wired to focus on the worst
• How to reprogram your brain for growth
• Debunking the myths that everyone is out to get you
• Actionable steps to overcome negativity bias

37:41 - 44:09

• Powerful message/reminder that you are more than enough
• Final steps to help you start becoming the best version of yourself—the version that already exists, but just needs to be unleashed.

Ready to crush self-doubt once and for all? Tune in now to begin your journey to self-worth and empowerment.

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