Why are we so f*cking mean to ourselves?

This week, we’re diving deep into that nonstop voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, hot enough, just... not enough. You’ll find out why it exists, how it got there, and how to finally shut it the hell up.

We’re talking:

· The real science behind your inner critic (yes, it’s a thing - it’s called the Default Mode Network)

· Why comparing yourself to everyone on the internet is literally frying your brain (hi, Social Comparison Theory)

· How to mentally separate from that toxic inner voice (Cognitive Diffusion, b*tch)

· And how to give yourself the kind of love you’re always chasing from other people (Radical Self-Compassion...look it up, it’s life-changing)

By the end of this, you’re going to understand that being hard on yourself isn’t some personality trait - it’s a survival habit you can unlearn. And we’re doing it together, one savage thought at a time.

This episode is science, sass, and self-respect. Let’s go.

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Think you’re low-maintenance until they stop texting back? Can’t breathe unless you’re together 24/7? Sounds like you’ve got a ‘Quality Time’ love language. But don’t panic... needing time isn’t the problem, ignoring it is.

Hi besties!! Today we’re breaking down everything you need to know about the second most common love language: Quality Time.

So before you call it quits, LISTEN UP.

If you’re feeling unloved, or they swear you’re “too needy,” this episode is your playbook. I’m breaking down how 'Quality Time' lovers give and receive love, so you can stop misreading the signs and start getting what you actually need.

Send this to your partner (yes, I’m giving you the green light) or listen yourself if you’ve been dating someone who blows up your phone five minutes after you leave.

Your clinginess? It’s not clingy.

It’s love. Let’s talk about it.

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What if I told you the reason you don’t have your summer body… is because of your situationship?

This week I’m joined by Sarah Perl, aka The Hot High Priestess, and we’re unpacking why your anxiety, trauma, and bad taste in men are literally showing up on your body.

We go deep on:

• Why your nervous system is hoarding fat like it’s hoarding toxic men
• What it really takes to make a man obsessed with you
• How to manifest your ex back - and when to not
• Law of Detachment: stop obsessing, start attracting
• Masculine vs. feminine energy—and why you keep chasing
• How to break the cycle of dating your daddy (again)
• How generational trauma lives in your hips
• Why you can’t find real love until you heal, and more!
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If you’ve ever cried over a man and gained five pounds after, this one’s for you :)

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This June, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Cancer man obsessed with YOU.

Get ready to learn:

🔥 What makes him the ultimate romantic—and how to use it to your advantage.

🔥 Foolproof ways to connect with his sensitive side and make him feel safe with you.

🔥 What he craves in a relationship (and what will push him away).

🔥 The signs he’s withdrawing emotionally—and how to bring him back closer than ever.

🔥 How to win him back if his shell has already closed off.

Whether you’re drawn to his nurturing energy, already dating him, or trying to reignite the love, this episode will give you the ultimate guide to getting him to fall in love. So hit play now and make this June all about mastering the heart of the zodiac’s most caring sign!

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You’re not single because you’re broken—maybe you’re just asking the wrong questions.

In this deeply personal and hilariously honest solo episode, I share 30 questions you need to ask yourself if you’re serious about finding real love—not the situationship, not the trauma-bond, not the 2-week high followed by ghosting. We're talking love that lasts.

I also open up for the first time about being deaf—how it’s made me feel small, different, and deeply afraid of being pitied… and how I moved past it.

This is the episode where we stop waiting to be "healed enough" for love—and finally figure out what we actually want and deserve.

Tune in if:

• You keep attracting the same wrong person in a different font
• You’re overthinking love to death
• You’re ready to be loved without fixing every flaw first

Listen ‘til the end for the story that might just change how you see yourself—and love—forever.

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Today I’m joined by viral creator MJ Gray to break down everything from the Wizard Liz drama, delusional men who want “traditional women” but can’t even lead… to why the 50/50 dating fantasy is officially dead. We’re talking cheating, bill-paying boyfriends, men who secretly resent powerful women, and why you should think twice who you have a baby with.

If you’ve ever wondered why the guy who chases you ends up trying to humble you, why some friends feel like emotional leeches, or why men always “circle back” after destroying everything—this episode is your new bible. 

And be sure to tune in to the last 10 min since I drop a final update on Wizard Liz that might change the way you see her forever.

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One random act of kindness, a stranger on the freeway, and a moment that changed everything.

Listen to this to restore your faith in humanity and discover how a split-second decision can reveal the goodness still left in the world

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Welcome back to Benson Book Club! Today we’re diving into Chapter 4 of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson—aka the one that explains why you can’t trust, love, or text back without spiraling.

Think your mom’s a narcissist? You might be onto something. Convinced your dad’s emotional unavailability ruined your love life? You’re not wrong. This episode is your Roman Empire. If you’ve ever felt unloved, emotionally starved, or like you sabotage every relationship—this might explain why. Let’s get into the trauma tea.

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This May, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Gemini man obsessed with YOU.

Get ready to uncover:

🔥 The secrets behind his charm and dual nature—and how to make them work in your favor.

🔥 Proven tips to spark his curiosity and keep him endlessly intrigued by you.

🔥 What excites him most in a relationship (and what will make him lose interest).

🔥 The telltale signs he’s getting bored—and how to pull him back in.

🔥 How to win him back if he’s already moved on to the next big thing.

Whether you’re drawn to his wit and energy, already dating him, or trying to rekindle the flame, this episode will teach you how to keep a Gemini man obsessed with you.

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Ever lost four teeth and exposed your tampon string on a first date? Chloe has. But guess what hurts even more? Friendship breakups. Today, joined by Alexa & Chloe from the Unbothered Podcast, we’re getting real about the friends who ghosted us, the emotional vampires, moving on without closure, and the painful truth that sometimes friendships end because someone stopped pretending.

At what point do you stop performing for someone who’s not even clapping? Tune in for some unhinged, hilarious, and surprisingly healing conversations—together we'll laugh, cringe, and feel a little less alone.

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