Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome.

Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss:

1. Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away.
2. Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated on, and what NOT to do in your next relationship. 
3. A decade without sex—should she stay or go? I give therapy advice on what language to use to reignite her connection or to find the closure she needs. 

Your story deserves to be heard! Call me at (310) 439-8019 to share your questions, struggles, or just spill some juicy tea! Subscribe now for new episodes every Thursday. Let’s dive in and start thriving—together

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This week, we kick off with a hilarious throwback to my 12-year-old self being an absolute menace (prepare for secondhand embarrassment!). Then, we dive into YOUR CALLS. Your heartfelt, hilarious, and jaw-dropping voicemail questions and stories. From navigating loneliness after moving to a new country to dealing with relationship resentment from a ruined vacation, and even the ultimate tale of reclaiming your power after infidelity—it’s all here. Oh, and what happens when your best friend chooses a boyfriend over you?

Grab your headphones—it’s about to get deep, raw, and empowering. Let’s unpack, laugh, and grow together. Got a story or question? Call in at (310) 439-8019 and let’s make your voice the star of the next episode!

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This week, Violetta shares the hilarity of being dumped by someone she didn’t even know she was dating and catching the gaze of a hot (but very taken) actor. She also dives into her DMs to give one of you advice on why your partner might be obsessing over your wild past—and spoiler: it’s all about their insecurities, not you.

The episode wraps with 10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Don’t Do. From managing emotions and embracing fear as growth to building trust and navigating happiness, Violetta breaks down how emotionally aware people thrive without letting their feelings take the wheel. Tune in to learn how to master emotional resilience and live your best, most balanced life.

Got a juicy question or wild story? Dm Violetta at @violetbenson on Instagram for a chance to be featured in next week’s episode. Let’s laugh, learn, and glow up emotionally—hit play!

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Ever wonder how special you must think you are to believe you’re the victim in every story you tell? To assume that when you fall, all eyes are on you, and when you fail, everyone is laughing? Seriously, how special do you have to feel to believe that little old you is not just the center of your own world, but the focus of everyone else’s universe too?

Are you Hey Besties! 🌟 Welcome to this week's episode where we’re diving deep into a mind-blowing chapter from Mark Manson's "The Art of Not Giving a F*ck." Get ready for some serious truth bombs!

We’ll unravel how our brains are wired and how we can change that. Plus, we’ll discuss Manson’s Law of Avoidance and why you need to be super careful about what you believe, especially those tricky “repressed memories.”

And finally, the quest to find your true identity – the answer might surprise you. Buckle up, it’s gonna be a wild ride!

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They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men. 

On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed.

We discuss:

• The Power of Praise: Why giving a little ego boost makes him crave your attention.
• Be His Queen—Silently in Control: How to stay in control of the relationship while letting him feel like he’s "the man."
• Secrets from "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus": Tips that turn any date into the one you want.
• Boosting His Self-Esteem: How to be his safe haven and keep him invested.
• Mastering His Heart by Stoking His Ego: Make him feel like a hero—The knight-in-shining-armor metaphor and how men are motivated by feeling needed and appreciated.

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Get ready to take notes because these tips aren't just for anyone—they're for those who are ready to take back their power and get the princess treatment they've been longing for.

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Are you being needy or jumping through hoops Like a circus poodle to make someone's crusty a$$ son happy? then stop right there and listen to this episode sugar tits.

Ever wondered why most women crave something from a man that they need to give themselves or where the key is keeping your rhythm intact to avoid creating a void in your life? Learn why lowering yourself to fit his criteria lowers the relationship value and why being the "nice girl" might not always be in your best interest.

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In this wild episode, we share the unforgettable story of a disastrous elevator incident that turns hilariously messy, delve into dating horror stories like discovering a date is married, and a Tinder match nearly goes off a cliff (literally). From ex-girlfriend party ambushes to duffel-bagged sleepover assumptions, and the epic Taco Bell 100-taco fiasco—these are dating fails you won’t believe. We’ll laugh, cringe, and give you the lowdown on the absurd lengths people go to in the name of love (or just plain chaos). 

We then end the episode with some dating advice about being the other woman and men with female best friends, you don't wanna miss it! 

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In this episode, I sit down with Whitney Port, beloved reality TV star from The Hills and The City, entrepreneur, and podcast host. Whitney opens up about her deeply personal journey with infertility, the pressure of public life, and the complexities of navigating anxiety and self-worth. Prepare for a candid, relatable, and incredibly inspiring conversation as we delve into her struggles and triumphs.

We discuss:

• Navigating Infertility: Whitney shares her heartbreaking journey through five miscarriages, IVF, and her decision to seek surrogacy.
• Surrogacy Process
• Redefining Self-Worth: How Whitney balances her identity and self-worth beyond fame and public opinion.
• Managing Anxiety: Insight into Whitney's personal tools for handling anxiety, from mindfulness to self-compassion.
• Balancing Personal and Public Life: Reflections on maintaining authenticity and boundaries in the public eye.
• Resilience in the Face of Loss: Whitney’s reflections on hope, healing, and finding strength in the face of grief.

And so much more!!! I also give you a fun intro about the date I am going on today :) enjoy!!!

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In this episode, we go all in on love, dating, and relationships—holding nothing back. If you're fed up with mixed signals, emotionally unavailable partners, or just feeling like you’re not getting what you deserve, this is the episode that will turn it all around for you.

What we discuss:

• If you catch me doing THIS, then just KNOW I’m going through it and someone’s dusty a&& son p*ssed me the F off!
• The best advice my mum gave me when it comes to heartbreak
• 3 questions to ask yourself in the beginning of dating
• How your energy in the relationship reveals if they're right for you—and the kind of energy that signals they’re the one.
• How to stop wasting time on people who aren’t showing up for you.
• The key to a successful relationship: (hint: you need more than love)

And so much more!! 

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This episode will help you finally break the cycle of toxic relationships and demand the love you deserve. Trust me, you NEED to listen to this one if you want to save your love life—or finally find your soulmate/your person.

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Pick your colour, pick your path! In this special October tarot card reading, I’ve pulled out three different decks that predict the rest of your month—from your career to life to love! Each deck is tied to a colour that calls out to you. 

Timestamps:

Green - 2:03

Pink - 12:51

Red - 21:16

Each colour holds a unique reading packed with guidance for the month ahead. So, which one is speaking to you? 

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