Let's talk about... the bachelorette men. That's it... just for 7 minutes. ok bye.

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WHY DO MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!?! Whether beginning, middle, or end, it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta did all the research written by men, re-read "Why Men Don't Love Women Like You" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" so you don't have to, TO GIVE YOU THE ANSWER YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR.

Today, Violetta is set on discussing the psychology behind a man's mind, the three steps to deal with the situation when a man pulls away, and how dating can be beautiful and perfect but it’s all rainbows and butterflies. It often comes with some form of conflict. 

What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction

01:03 When a man pulls away, it feels like a bad romcom

03:33 Reason 1: When they feel overwhelmed or uncertain about their feelings

04:23 Reason 2: Some men need space

06:03 Reason 3: They are unsure of the relationship

06:39 Reason 4: The woman is more invested in the relationship

07:35 Step #1: Do not go Britney Spears on him

11:46 Step #2: Do not chase him

12:57 Men and women do things differently

13:34 Imagine that your partner is like a stretched rubberband

16:38 Punishing a man when he pulls away is not the right approach

21:16 Step #3: Focus on yourself

32:20 Dating works but it always comes with some form of conflict

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Let's talk about... men with money kink/fetish + how I made $500. Watching TV > doing meth. IG couples are FAKE. When your man is only faithful bc no one else wanted him lol. The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives + what I learned. Taylor Frankie Paul. How pregnant women are the closest thing to a god. And whatever else I yapped about.

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Let's talk about... bleeding haemorrhoids. Devil o'clock. Anger issues. How having a friend full of rage will bring you peace. The older your parents get the more they'll like you. Lana del ray. SLOMW Mikayla and her weasel husband. and Taylor Frankie Paul + DV + The Bachelorette.

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Is your attachment style running the relationship?

This week on Daddy Issues, Violet sits down with relationship expert Thais Gibson to break down why you chase, why he pulls away, and how subconscious wiring shapes the way you date.

Thais Gibson is a best-selling author, counselor, and founder of the Personal Development School, known for her work on attachment styles and subconscious relationship patterns.

They discuss the four attachment styles, the anxious-avoidant cycle, emotional triggers, and how childhood conditioning shapes the way you give and receive love.

If the same dating patterns keep repeating in your life, this episode helps you understand why and how to start changing them.

Connect with Thais Gibson: university.personaldevelopmentschool.com

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Let's talk about.... that time I tased myself. That time I stabbed myself. How people pay to run marathons. My tiny feet. My crooked leg. Not surviving the zombie apocalypse.

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Daddy Issues starts now.

This week, Violet Benson officially launches her podcast under the name that built her brand. After 12 years of building the Daddy Issues community, Violet shares the moment that pushed her to reclaim the name, protect what she created, and step fully back into the identity that started it all.

Then Violet delivers a Russian big sister pep talk. She breaks down why so many women give girlfriend energy to men who can’t even text back, how “potential” keeps you stuck in the wrong relationships, and why confusion in dating usually means one thing: he’s not choosing you.

She talks confidence, boundaries, self-worth, and the mindset shift that stops you from auditioning for men who were never going to pick you in the first place.

If you’ve been romanticizing someone who gives you nothing, this episode is your reminder.

You are the prize.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:13 - Welcome to Daddy Issues: Violet announces the new podcast name

00:30 - Why Violet is reclaiming the Daddy Issues brand

02:38 - The moment that forced Violet to protect her brand

27:41 - The real episode begins: If he's confusing you, he's not choosing you. 

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You’re not crazy. You’re anxious.

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet sits down with Mel Robbins to unpack high-functioning anxiety in love — why women attach fast, date potential, ignore red flags, and stay in relationships where they can’t ask for what they need. Mel breaks down the 5 Second Rule, how to stop spiraling, time blindness, and the worst thing you can do when anxiety hits.

They talk separation anxiety, loving someone who’s wrong for you, being right vs. being connected, and the obvious signs he just doesn’t like you.

If you’re successful but secretly overthinking everything in dating — this one will hit.

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After a month-and-a-half break and a big network move, your Russian big sister Violet Benson is back – and she’s starting 2026 the only way she knows how: with tough love.

Violet breaks down the four shifts that changed her life – and can change yours too.

• setting real boundaries (and holding the door open when someone wants to leave)

 • radical self-awareness (aka stop lying to yourself)

 • knowing exactly who you are

 • and changing your perspective so you stop feeling like the victim in your own story

She then breaks down why we romanticize the wrong people, the truth about “twin flames,” how you’ve been quietly self-sabotaging your love life, forgiving without apologies, and learning that sometimes the love story you’re chasing isn’t about another person – it’s about yourself.

Today is the day you take your power back and start gaining confidence again after losing yourself in love. This episode is your reset.

Don’t forget to leave a 5-star review when you’re done listening.

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If you’ve ever wondered why you settle, sabotage, or shut down.. this episode tells you the truth.

Today on Almost Adulting, Violetta is joined by Jay Shetty - New York Times best-selling author, host of On Purpose, former monk, and one of the most influential voices in self-improvement, emotional healing, and modern spirituality.

In this powerful conversation, Jay and Violetta dive into:

• the limits we place on ourselves (and each other)
• fear as an unformed boundary
• why timelines sabotage our growth
• the real meaning of love (beyond romance)
• how to build connection through vulnerability
• and how to rewrite the beliefs holding you back

If you’re craving clarity, emotional growth, deeper love, or a fresh start, this is an episode worth revisiting. Some conversations deserve a second life. and don't forget to leave me a 5 star review on the apple podcast app when you're done listening!!!!

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:15 The journey that took 10 years

• 05:08 Deadlines vs. destiny

• 06:13 Worst advice Jay ever received

• 07:52 “We project our limits onto other people.”

• 10:46 The three cancers of the mind

• 12:45 How to change your feelings

• 16:23 Best advice Jay ever received

• 21:36 Why beginners should move fast

• 28:19 The two lies we tell ourselves

• 33:35 What unforgiveness does to you

• 36:13 Different forms of love

• 38:46 Is unconditional love real?

• 41:26 Loving as a skill

• 46:16 Fear as an unformed boundary

• 50:05 The power of being alone

• 53:08 Win or lose together

• 58:52 What it really takes to make love work

• 01:03:41 The 8 Rules of Love

• 01:06:19 The myth of perfection

• 01:08:35 Connect with the people who want you

AND THAT IS ALL FOR 2025!!! WE WILL BE BACK IN 2026!! <3

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• https://jayshetty.me/
• https://twitter.com/jayshetty
• https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty/
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• Think Like A Monk
• 8 Rules of Love

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