When you’ve been hurt before, the obvious move is to avoid getting hurt again. Guy slept with you and never called? Stop dating. Guy didn’t want to be your boyfriend after two months? Stop dating. Guy didn’t want to marry you after two years? Stop dating. Because intimacy has always led to heartbreak, your choices in men actually become WORSE. Suddenly, you’re in a friends with benefits situation. Suddenly, you’re seeing someone long-distance. Suddenly, you’re exclusive with a man who doesn’t want to get married. Why? Because somehow it feels safer to be in a dead-end situation than to be with someone where things could get real – and you could get hurt. It’s time to break that pattern and start moving towards the men who really want to commit – not away from them.