LOVERS by shan

S1 Ep75: If You're Not Paying the Bills, What ARE You Doing? Feat. Cocktales


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If you’re a podcast listener, you already know that there’s a whole lot of discussions about what people don’t do in relationships, what they need to be doing, and insight on what romantic partners want from others.

And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to:

  • Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships.

  • Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying? 


In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales. 

We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term 
partner.

Here is your conversation starter pack:
What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today?
What are you interested in getting better at bringing?
What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry?
How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards?
How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours?
Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending?

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