In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I think my partner is faking orgasm because when he ejaculates, no semen comes out. The first time it happened, I asked him why there wasn’t much stuff. He said he didn’t know why and walked off. Since then, it happens now and then. I don’t say anything because I don’t want to embarrass him. Why would he fake it? Do men fake it? Is there another reason why this is happening?

2) I recently discovered my husband of 22 years has a fake vagina sex toy and it’s freaked me out. We’re both open and adventurous with sex, so why would he need such a thing? It’s shaped like a woman’s bottom and has a hole for the anus and vagina. It’s ribbed inside, so he obviously puts his penis inside and masturbates into it. I’m not against sex toys—he used to own a Fleshlight—but I find this disturbing and somehow degrading to women. He’s hidden it from me, so obviously feels embarrassed as well. Should I tell him I’ve found it?

3) I’m a 27-year-old female who is interested in exploring with the same sex. The issue I have is that I only seem to be able to orgasm using a vibrator, and the thought of giving oral sex/hand sex to another woman makes me anxious. If I can't pleasure myself this way, how can I expect to pleasure someone else? Men seem so much easier to please, and there's an obvious end point because they ejaculate. Any tips or advice to calm the nerves would be much appreciated.

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