In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’m a 50-year-old woman and new to sex toys. I’ve tried a few Rabbit vibrators and find them all much too powerful and rough. Can you recommend something with a smaller, more gentle style? They all seem to advertise power as a plus, but for me it's awful!

2) I’m a 37 and have never had an orgasm (by myself or with a partner). My sex drive is low, but my husband is great at oral and he’s gotten me closer to an orgasm than anyone ever has. But I don’t want to spend 40 minutes with him going down on me—even though he's happy to—so I encourage him to switch to penetration and once he orgasms, I’m done. He’d like to go straight on to round two and continue having sex for ages. I know it’s about the journey, and not the destination. But if you don’t use an orgasm as a marker, how do you know when to end sex? How do I stop never-ending foreplay or extensive penetrative sessions without saying something hurtful like, ‘I’m bored’ or ‘This isn’t interesting enough to keep me from wanting to go to sleep’?

3) I’m a 38-year-old straight man and nervous about dating after leaving a long-term relationship. I wouldn’t say I’ve let myself go, but my body isn’t what it was. And it’s certainly not what I see on Instagram or mens' profiles in dating apps. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my girlfriend in 15 years and am worried I won’t measure up to this new body ideal. Am I being paranoid, or have the rules changed? 

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