So much of attraction is about the energy, the vibe you bring to dates. And the big question is...how are you showing up? We're diving in with Lair Torrent, LMFT to explore the many sides of ourselves and how they come out while dating (and well into relationships). We discuss how mindfulness can help us become aware of our blind spots, why dating trauma can trigger certain sides of us, and how we can bring that big d(ating) energy.

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