S2 E6 – 9 Best Practices for Faith Leaders With Tara McCausland
A H.E.R. Wings Unfold Production

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Welcome to Relational Trauma SOS! In this episode, we’re honored to speak with Tara McCausland about 9 Best Practices for Faith Leaders—a powerful guide developed by S.A. Lifeline to help clergy and spiritual leaders support individuals and couples affected by another’s unwanted sexual behavior.

These best practices are especially important for anyone ministering to people navigating betrayal trauma, abuse, addiction, adultery, or abandonment. Whether you're a pastor, bishop, therapist, or community leader, this conversation offers insight and empathy for guiding those in crisis.

We also highlight the growing need for trauma-sensitive healing communities and share some heartfelt updates about the expanding reach of TS-12 Anon, our 12-step program for survivors of relational trauma.

In this episode:

Why faith leaders are like first responders in trauma care

How to support both the affected partner and the offending individual

Why separate meetings with each spouse are crucial

Understanding betrayal trauma and how it impacts the brain and body

Recognizing and respecting the affected partner’s timeline for healing and forgiveness

The importance of compassion and accountability

“Understand, faith leader, that this is not a marriage issue. It’s something that’s happened within the marriage.” – Dr. Barbara Steffens

️ Special Note From the Host
We’ve been wonderfully overwhelmed by the number of survivors joining TS-12 Anon groups. If you're seeking a safe, trauma-informed community, we invite you to join us. We are also forming new groups tailored to specific experiences—such as domestic violence, childhood trauma, or being the loved one of an alcoholic. Email [email protected] if you're interested.

Here’s what one anonymous participant recently shared:

“I believe TS-12 Anon was the missing piece in my healing journey. I’m already noticing a shift within myself and I feel like I’m reconnecting all the parts of me that were shattered and scattered at Discovery.”

If you’ve been waiting for an invitation, here it is.

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Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

9 BEST Practices For Faith Leaders – S.A. Lifeline (PDF)

️ Pathway to Recovery Podcast: How Faith Leaders Can Support Couples (Raabsmith Interview)

Research Article: Pornography Use and Sexual Aggression

Study about domestic violence in correlation with porn consumption

Thank you for listening to Relational Trauma SOS. If this episode helped you, please consider sharing it with a faith leader, friend, or loved one.

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