Same Team with The Freemans

Do you know what you need in your relationship? Whether you do or not right in this moment, knowing what you need is certainly a requirement for being able to communicate and act to fulfill it. This is the basis for having a satisfying relationship.

In this episode we go deeper into explaining our process for effectively communicating your needs and what being assertive really means. But you will also have a new perspective on whether you really know what you need or not. It is not as simple as you think.

Relationship Resources:

Both of the 30 Day Couples Challenges start on Jne 1st.

The Level 1 - Prioritizing Us Challenge

The Level 2 - Rebuilding Us Challenge

Can you count on each other completely? Not with just the BIG things, but also with the small daily things in your life?

Building and living a great life with each other is only possible if you can count on, TRUST, each other. When you see the word "trust" it's easy to think of big things around feeling physically safe or being truthful in what you say. But this conversation gets way more into your day-to-day experiences that either lead to doubting each other and losing trust or increasing the reliability and foundational confidence you have no matter what comes up.

Being attracted to each other, feeling connected, being intimate, and having fun together, is only possible if you can COUNT on each other as partners and that you each are operating as people of integrity to these 4 things…

Relationship Resources:

It is the last week to attend the in person Couples Workshop with us in Arizona on May 26th. Check out the details and reserve your seats here: http://thecouplesworkshop.com

If that date is past, or you are looking for immediate resrouces, like the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide: you can see all the resoruces here.

Which of these 7 stages of marriage are you two in right now? Knowing this not only gives you perspective about navigating your current season, but also what's ahead of you in the bigger picture of being married for many years.

It is unrealistic to think that every season of marriage should be the same, or will be in the same order as another couple's. But also, we should be able to navigate some of the harder stages more quickly so they don't last too long or rob us of joy and fulfillment in living life together.

RELATIONSHIP RESOURCES:

1. Meet us in-person at The Couples Workshop in Arizona at the end of May.

2. Start the Prioritize Us 30-Day Couples Challenge and see why over 25,000 couples have loved these prompts!

We all want some degree of change in our lives, and our relationships. So long as they are the changes we want! Change can be difficult if it brings about a lot of unknown, or if the change you desire requires your partner to change some of their behavior.

But what is it that creates change and how do you get the results that you really want? In this episode we outline the drives and motivations behind creating change and the one foundational element that you must be able to identify if any real change is going to happen, let alone last!

Relationship Resources

- May 26th, 2024 is The Couples Workshop in Arizona. If you have been wanting to join us in person for this 1/2 day event to create positive change in your communiation and conflict resolution, save your seat today! Make this a little vacation/reset for both of you.

- If the May workshop is past, make sure to check out which online resource is best for the change you are looking to make: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Building connection (and closeness) with your partner is fundamental to having a happy and satisfying relationship. Yet it's the first thing that takes a back seat when you are busy, stressed, or just in the routine of your life.

Yes, maintaining connection takes effort. If you thought you could be in a marriage without effort, someone needs to inform your partner! But it doesn't need to be extravagant or just be when you have time for date nights. In this episode you will hear 3 ways to build and maintain connection in your everyday life, so that your long-term life can be satisfying for both of you!

Relationship Resources

The next round of 30 Day Couples Challenges start May 1st. Now we have the level 1, prioritizing Us, and the level 2, Rebuilding Us challenges. You can see the details of both of them at our main weblink here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

The last 2 years could have torn us apart and made us turn against each other. It felt like life was throwing everything at us at once, all while we had a newborn baby.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Our personal journey of what trials we faced over the last 2 years

• How exactly we triumphed after these challenges and got stronger than EVER

• What social psychology says about overcoming stressors and adversity

• 4 areas of wisdom to guide you through anything you face as a couple

As you listen, make sure you also get signed up for one of our 30-Day Couples Challenges:

The Level 1 'Prioritizing Us' Challenge focuses on filling your Love Accounts, improving your communication, and strengthens your connection.

The Level 2 'Rebuilding Us' Challenge focuses on repairing and rebuilding the foundation of your partnership after being in a harder season of marriage.

Who's to blame for your frustrating problems and patterns in your relationship?

It's obviously your partner, right... they're the problem. No… blaming them doesn't get you anywhere, in fact it makes things worse and more difficult to get out of.

If there's one thing that is inarguable in social psychology it's that relationships are bi-directional.Meaning, your attitude, actions, and choices affect your partner's attitude, actions, and choices, and vice versa.

Unfortunately many couples stay stuck in frustrating cycles or without a solution because they aren't in a problem-solving state. If you truly operate as a team and dive a little deeper into WHY you keep encountering this frustrating pattern, you can overcome it together.

In this episode you'll hear a deep-dive into:

• The 5 root causes of most marriage problems/issues

• 4 self-reflective questions to ask yourself to identify your partner in the situation

• Understanding more about a psychology approach to effective problem solving

Use this link to join the mentioned Rebuilding Us 30-Day Couples Challenge (level 2).

Or for other resources, link on our general website link.

There are disagreements in your relationship, and then there are Power Struggles! These power struggles are more detrimental and have deeper rooted contributing factors. They keep you from being the best team possible and being able to come up with mutually beneficial solutions for your family. In today's episode we dive into:

• How to define a power struggle

• The goal of interdependence, rather than co-dependence or independence

• Contributing factors to being in a power struggle

• Communication skills to be more collaborative + harmonious

Dive into our Relationship Resources:

📔 Family Meeting guide

💻 Marriage WebClass

❣️ Our NEW 30-Day Couples Challenge: Rebuilding US

…and more!

ALL LINKED HERE

Your family is a source of support, love, and acceptance. Now there are certainly times that our perception of actions from family members make us forget those underlying intentions. Of course this can be even more true when you are interacting (or dealing with) your partner's family members (your in-laws)!

There is always the grand idea that two sides of a family can come together and just magnify the sense of community, family, and support, but that doesn't always happen. It can be common that each of your own families (and how you individually interact with them) can be a source of conflict, even between you and your partner. In this episode we dive into some of these sources of conflict and 5 particular patterns that you should avoid as to not make your partner out to be the bad guy with your family!

Relationship Resources:

It's April 1st, 2024 and we now have TWO 30-Day Couples Challenges that you can start!

1) The Prioritize Us Couples Challenge - daily activities to grow your love accounts

2) The Rebuilding Us Couples Challenge - daily prompts to repair and rebuild after a hard season.

The basis of a strong marriage is how well you handle 3 "stages" of interactions. These 3 stages are before, during and after conflicts. The before stage is all about communication and being able to prevent conflicts from even happening. The during conflict stage is about de-escalating tensions and potential conflicts. The after stage is about how you repair when conflicts to happen (because they will)

In this episode you will hear the tools you will need to master each of the 3 stages and putting them all together will make you feel unstoppable and confident that you can handle any challenge as a team.

This episode is our "audio version" of the webclass we just hosted. So be sure to watch the replay of the webclass while it's still available. You can find it here on our Top Resources Page.

There you can also find the BRAND NEW 'Level 2' 30-Day Couples Challenge that is all about repairing and rebuilding from a hard season. This is the advanced "Rebuilding Us Couples Challenge"!