In This Episode: 

• We talk about custody issues that come up during the holidays. What to do and what to avoid if you're dealing with a contentious or congenial custody dispute this holiday season.
• When thinking about your custody agreement this season it's important to think long term: think about what's important to you, what traditions you want to have going forward.
• We discuss some other do's and don'ts about the holidays. Issues like don't drink too much when you have your kid because it may be something that makes its way into court or your custody agreement.
• Your feelings through the holidays are valid, whether you are single or divorced. 
• Over this holiday season, take care of yourself. Invest in your self-care, take a hot bath. But, especially if you're going through the separation process and there's litigation. Watch yourself and don't do anything that is in the heat of your emotions that could blow up everything regarding a custody agreement.
• Change takes time for people to adapt and just be careful going through the holidays and recognizing that for your kid's state of mind as well. And please give yourself some grace. This isn't easy stuff to go through.
• People celebrate and grieve and they do things for themselves in different ways. So you just find what works for you.

Links To Things I Talk About: 

• Mariah Carey ad with the pumpkins
• Blue Christmas by Elvis Presley

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