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Both men and women can be controlling. Both men and women can violent. Domestic abuse occurs in same sex and heterosexual relationship.   This means both men and women can be victims of domestic violence.  Yet domestic violence-informed practice requires a gender analysis  and an understanding of coercive control.  In this episode Ruth and David examine some of the controversies and challenges associated with identifying and providing assistance to male victims of domestic violence including:

• cultural understandings of masculinities & gender roles as barriers to disclosure and assistance
• perpetrators claiming the mantle of victimhood as means to manipulate partners, professionals and systems
• the need to recognize men's histories victimization and trauma without using it as excuse for abusive behavior 
• how mapping patterns of coercive control can help identify male victims, protect them and inoculate professionals against manipulations by perpetrators claiming victim status

Check out the Safe & Together Institute's white paper on "Unraveling the Gender Paradox at the center of the Safe & Together Model" 

Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real

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