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‘I am very much a grey area thinker, I don’t fall into absolutes, I never have. Because absolutes never lead us to progress, never, ever. So, while questioning is really important, I fully condone questioning when something doesn’t seem right, unfortunately a lot of political forces take hold of people who are either vulnerable or questioning and get their single issue interest into multiple other issues, where they would otherwise normally thought the exact opposite, simply because they’ve questioned one issue, they then get preyed upon to throw everything into question. I’m seeing people actually question climate change who would never have questioned climate change before.’ Alexx Stuart

Alexx Stuart’s passions run wide and deep. She founded the online community and education hub Low Tox Life in 2010 and is responsible for birthing the low tox movement. In this podcast we dive into her knowledge around political science and the growing swell of numbers questioning everything that is going on in the world. Alexx believes there are so many grey areas. She does not fall into absolutes. Absolutes never lead us to progress. Questioning is really important when something doesn’t seem right.

With strong connection to her overseas family and traveling a lot in the first few years of her life, Alexx Stuart ended up calling Sydney home from the age of 6. She grew up with a love of language and communication. She majored in French at Uni and completed a Political Science degree in French also. She loves the romance languages of Italian and Spanish and especially loves trying to figure out ways to communicate for peaceful change, to help people to connect to each other and find overlaps in times of polarisation.

Her low tox life came about through an issue with tonsilitis 17 years ago. There were no resources and nothing to turn to. She was advised to quit gluten and in turn became that ‘special’ person with ‘special needs’ in a society that was not on trend with gluten free at all. She found it fascinating to be an outcast and believes you cannot know what that is like until you have been one. Perhaps many feel like that now, given the current world situation, but Alexx wants people to know you are not alone. An outcast will learn a lot and become stronger for it.

It was when she was pregnant, she went deeper into food learning what we put into and onto our bodies is critical and this led her realise that all choices affect not only the individual but the planet too. Here she was someone who had an amazing education, a university degree and yet did not know about the importance of the quality of food she put in her mouth or what she put on her skin, what was used in her home and how that effected herself and of course, the planet. She believes school and Uni do not prepare you for everyday life.

It is natural for Alexx to research and learn about the best places to go, what resources to use and then teach others what she has learned. It was mind blowing to her that things we are told are great for us, are absolutely not.

We dive into her knowledge around political science given today’s situation around the virus and choices and the growing swell of numbers questioning everything. Alexx believes there are so many grey areas. She does not fall into absolutes. Absolutes never lead us to progress. Questioning is really important when something doesn’t seem right.

Unfortunately, a lot of political forces take hold of people who are either vulnerable or questioning and get their single issue interest into multiple other issues where they would otherwise normally have thought the exact opposite. Simply because they have questioned one issue, they then get preyed upon to throw everything into question.

Alexx is seeing people actually question climate change who would never have questioned climate change before. So, it’s very interesting to her how we take single issues moments like the pandemic and the people questioning them and prey on them to manipulate ways that they feel about other things. This is the most concerning part about it all to her.

With her political science degree she says it takes years to realise what these moments are and how the infiltrations happen to really be able to stay big picture. She recommends people read and always read around all sides of everything. Never ever go down rabbit holes where all of a sudden everyone feels the same way. That is the most dangerous thing any human can do because that is where forces that we don’t even know about prey upon people to then influence massive polarisation. What happens then when we are completely polarised is everyone is outraged by everyone else.

There are huge amounts of people on both sides of the extreme and then a whole bunch of people in the middle saying can’t we all just get along?

One important point Alexx makes is that you cannot become an expert in this space without a significant amount of time. She is a huge fan of the people who can speak about things moderately and pick interesting aspects of all sides of an argument. One person who comes to mind is Dr Elisa Song https://healthykidshappykids.com/ an incredible paediatrician. She has towed the line of reason the entire way. And that sometimes is saying favourable things. But also, the incredible ability to keep us all on the straight and narrow, realising that there is merit in a few things that are happening but also questioning the extremity to which those things are applied.

When we know so much about viral health mitigation, yet we are not allowed to have a conversation around effective treatments other than the vaccination, it begs the question why? This does not advance science. But then again, the extreme of the science side and anyone who doesn’t believe the science is also completely ineffective just like the other side saying it is all about freedom.

Reading extensively and from many sides of an argument and following whoever is at the top of the field and look at how they are debating about each other as opposed to those of us who are not experts who are literally just taking the Chinese whispers at the bottom.

Alexx questions the banning and censorship and sees it is a travesty. The peace is going to be found when we realise there is a lot of pain everywhere and there’s a lot of fear driving the polarisation and there’s a lot of fear in the most polarised people… will I lose body autonomy? That is a huge fear people have. But will I lose my grandma is the same fear if those people don’t get vaccinated. It’s still fear.

If we are going to start trying to come from a place of LOVE how do we disband that fear, how do we get people talking to each other and starting to openly share concerns and Alexx believes that is focussing more on our overlaps than our differences.

When asked if there is a greater agenda at play around the elite, money or governments Alexx says she has been a huge fan of Bernie Sanders who has been championing the clean-up of the hyper billionaire which is a dangerous situation.

We start seeing that there is an unlimited amount of money that is being put into election campaigns is often undisclosed. We don’t even get to see where or how much. She believes whilst we can blame business, we actually have to blame the political system that allows business to infiltrate politics. This is where the convergence of blurred lines of truth becomes very, very murky.

We have situations like having deadly sunscreens available, where in the senate one locks down a bill that is supposed to make sunscreens safer, and the reason they did it is because they received $400,000 from a certain chemical lobby. That should not be allowed. So, we keep blaming all these people who have nothing to do in the end with a system that originates the problem.

It is a huge mis-step in our quest for true democracy in the seventies and eighties and the flow on effect has meant people are allowed to get bigger and bigger and bigger and amass more and more wealth, untaxed at a just amount.

The idea that someone like Alexx (like us) can be paying more tax than Jeff Bezos is absolutely ridiculous. So, we have a system that unfortunately that allows to create this big elite narrative, to create the idea that these people are actually in more control than governments are now. So, unless we get the money out of government, out of election campaigns it is going to be very hard for us to start seeing more corruption task forces, more taxing of hyper wealth and less of an ability for companies to just keep getting bigger and bigger and bigger to the point where they’re more powerful than a country’s appointed leadership.

When we talk about money, Alexx believes it comes back to values, if you have the right values and are held to those values in your early life then she does not think money is dirty or bad. She has heard many negative things around people with money and coupled with her catholic schooling has led her to grow up feeling guilty and needing to do things for others even at the cost of her own good.

Alexx talks about how she believes we are heading back to an Aristocracy instead of a current Democracy. She would love to see a breaking up of hyper-wealth somehow. The best way to find out the where the root of the problem is, is to keep asking WHY until you get to something. She keeps coming back to rulings like Citizens United where you have a proliferation of money flowing through official governments hands and it needs to be stamped out.

She talks about tax and the importance of those who have pioneered even being taxed 20%. If governments run out of money for social issues it causes unrest. Unrest creates desperate people and people vulnerable to any issue into the preying hands of someone who might lead them down the wrong path. Desperate people do desperate things, not happy loved people who are safe and secure. We have a big challenge to clean up politics.

Alexx suggests questioning and reading books and I include her incredible list below.

We then have a big open conversation with Alexx around health and wellness and her challenges, particularly around mould. We talk how the pendulum can swing, not only in politics but, in health and people can go from one extreme to the other.

When you have an extreme event, it can push you to another extreme. Alexx was not exempt from this and found it to be ostracising and bad for her mental health to be so militant in all she did. It is important to have a mental health journey alongside a health one. She calls it getting back in the middle. She says she does what she can do most of the time so she can go with the flow some of the time!

Mould is a far worse problem for some than others. If you have issues of being tired, brain fog, carrying extra tummy weight, a leaking tear duct then it could all be causing adrenal fatigue, gut imbalance, lack of muscle tone and compromised metabolism and immune systems, and this could all be stemming from a mould issue. It can be an horrific inflammation cascade.

Alexx spent over $20,000 trying to work out what was wrong with her. Thanks to a chiropractor who helped her to discover the root cause of her health issues. And her story is incredible. If you have any of these symptoms or know someone who does then make sure you share this podcast and Alexx’s incredible journey.

Her definition of Self Love is knowing that in the worst times you can have skin to skin contact, cuddles and to know everything will be ok. Love and a ‘can-do’ spirit can support you to get through challenges. She believes that time in nature can be a beautiful way to love oneself, even if you live in a city.

Tennis has also been a wonderful way to help Alexx heal. It is like a metaphor in life as she says you are out there on your own and it is up to you to get in the arena and fight it for yourself. We talk about our mutual love of essential oils and how they are such an important and accessible tool as part of healing and living life to the full particularly with our olfactory and allegory senses.

We talk about her brand new book Low Tox Life – FOOD which is a must have in every home. Consumers are more confused than ever nowadays. Food has been over productised. We have dietary associations funded by big food conglomerate companies which comes back to money and politics which is not right.

We have such a broken and over politicised system such an unjust system especially for our animals to then be able to create a message of unity whether it is vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian, keto, omnivore, carnivore, anything where we talk about more around our overlaps than our differences. Alexx says biodiversity is king! And to remember to connect to our power and lean into our responsibility this is to help us to remember our commonality and community.

Every little thing we do makes a difference. And she suggests that we meet together more in the grey and the overlaps.

Alexx Stuart’s passions run wide and deep. She founded the online community and education hub Low Tox Life in 2010 and is responsible for birthing the low tox movement with the phrase low tox that has resonated with people around the world. Her international bestselling book Low Tox Life and podcast by the same name have supported millions in achieving their personal, home and planet health goals. She is a sought-after speaker and consultant to organisations committing to change for good, whether it’s a focus on people’s health or the planet’s.

Alexx’s Book Recommendations:

Kim, voila: wanted to really think about some faves over the past couple of years. Being well read is one of our best defences in times of polarization, I think.

Suggested reading to understand how we got to the polarised place we are today and how there is so much corruption and a non-industry influenced politician is so hard to find, regardless of party these days.

For anyone who leads or wants to lead people today: https://www.booktopia.com.au/when-the-center-does-not-hold-david-r-brubaker/book/9781506453057.html

And if you want more on overcoming toxic polarization this was great https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-way-out-peter-t-coleman/book/9780231197403.html and while they talk about America, we are 10 years behind them, give or take, in terms of our own polarity issues so it’s very relevant.

This is a must read https://malwarwickonbooks.com/citizens-united/ by law professor Zephyr Teachout. It’s dangerous territory and timing to become a single issue voter, because if we focused on candidates that were truly independent and without substantial gains to be made by being elected (ie NOT Clive Palmer grabbing onto people against mandates so he can swing votes and continue to profit in the billions from mining). We need true independents more than ever, not funded by industry – historically far more likely to listen to constituent concerns and counter narratives that hold weight.

Another one I loved https://www.booktopia.com.au/goliath-matt-stoller/book/9781501182891.html?source=pla&gclid=CjwKCAiA6seQBhAfEiwAvPqu17T4TA7ify9RNzZcXDsNgVUZJ1tGEEvAj0ga7b1yMzigR6sJumImKhoCFpAQAvD_BwE

And this one just out this month – fantastic for an overview of the history and development of democracy. https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-shortest-history-of-democracy-john-keane/book/9781760642563.html

Very good and not too long, considering the promise and failings of democracy’s ideals https://www.booktopia.com.au/democracy-and-its-crisis-a-c-grayling/book/9781786074065.html

Why We’re Polarised. Great book https://www.booktopia.com.au/why-we-re-polarized-ezra-klein/book/9781788166799.html

Industrial Strength denial – what industry gets away – I interviewed the author and her book is great. Book https://www.booktopia.com.au/industrial-strength-denial-barbara-freese/book/9780520296282.html  and podcast link: https://www.lowtoxlife.com/show-198-barbara-reese-industrial-strength-denial-how-corporate-denial-is-public-and-environmental-health-enemy-no-1/

Sick Money focuses specifically on the pharmaceutical Industry. Very important read https://www.booktopia.com.au/sick-money-billy-kenber/book/9781838850265.html

You can’t go past Yuval Noah Harari 21 lessons for the 21st Century.

And also very important book out last year on global elites and why voting for independents focused on reform when it comes to mega corporations, military industrial complex, and private individuals amassing unchecked wealth almost always vastly under taxed – https://www.booktopia.com.au/winners-take-all-anand-giridharadas/book/9780141990910.html

Slanted – A book on censorship and the fall of good journalism – Lots to think about here and key is to continue to seek out high quality long form investigative journalism https://www.booktopia.com.au/slanted-sharyl-attkisson/book/9780062974693.html

I found Obama’s autobiography, albeit it super long, very interesting as the first presidency navigating hyper-polarization from his personal perspective and looking under the hood at trying to run a government where both parties now disagree to disagree and progress seems at times impossible.

Really enjoyed this one on Paul Keating’s prime ministership – the good,the visionary and the unfortunate things born from it. Very objective and reminds you that if we vote right, we can in fact have smart leaders once again. https://www.booktopia.com.au/recollections-of-a-bleeding-heart-10th-anniversary-edition-don-watson/book/9781742751993.html

Voila – A few I’ve read the past few years that help people jump into the far more complicated domain of grey area thinking, polarisation, the problem with unchecked industry and individual wealth amassment and generally to at least become a thinker who always wonders:  That’s an interesting perspective, let me see what other perspectives are out there and let me see if I can find experts debating each other instead of one side of an argument putting forward their view, whatever the issue.

It’s tough out there right now. I believe in a world where we can have differences, question authority and band together to demand a better democratic system free from the entanglement of vested interests left, right and centre.

You can get a copy of Alexx’s latest book through Booktopia right here: https://www.booktopia.com.au/low-tox-life-food-alexx-stuart/book/9781760525798.html?source=pla&gclid=Cj0KCQiAjc2QBhDgARIsAMc3SqTcelUS70PDWtAAKW5zP8h9tuAFo6yNgxUESZJjz4GVf4GY9R8Bx28aAsT-EALw_wcB

Her favourite quote is from Henry Ford:

If you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.

Links to follow:

Website: https://www.lowtoxlife.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lowtoxlife/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lowtoxlife/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Alexx_Stuart

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com.au/lowtoxlife/

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The intense, rich, warm, floral scent of Jasminum officinale can be quite intoxicating and alluring. Jasmine, which is extracted from the exquisite white star-shaped flower, is one of the best essential oils to support the nervous and reproductive systems. With mild analgesic and anti-inflammatory qualities it is excellent to use in a massage blend to help alleviate muscle aches and pains and in skincare it is revered as an anti-aging oil, one of the best to treat irritated or dry skin.

Jasmine’s fragrant flowers have been used throughout history for personal adornment and in various religious ceremonies. It is known as the ‘Queen of the night’ because its’ scent is stronger when there is no daylight and particularly strong as a new dawn rises.

In China the flower symbolizes the sweetness of women whilst in India it represents divine hope.

It is commonly thought as the number one oil to ‘warm the womb’ and help during the birthing process. Massaged into the abdomen and lower back can help relieve pain and strengthen contractions. Used in a spritzer with oils like grapefruit and sandalwood can also help a mother to relax and maintain calm thoughts.

This is a powerful uterine tonic and has been used throughout time to help treat hepatitis and abdominal pain due to dysentery.

With its’ beautiful uplifting qualities jasmine is powerfully indicated for all emotional conditions. It helps to dispel fears and insecurities, it is supportive in boosting self-confidence and is an excellent choice to help ward off pessimism, especially with oils like Melissa, basil and ylang ylang.

Jasmine is particularly helpful for those who not only have been affected by depression but also those feeling despondent and lacking in energy as well. It’s uplifting and energizing qualities make it perfect in a bath with oils like rosemary and bergamot.

When inhibition and lack of self-worth is present you could add frankincense, lavender and orange to a diffuser and enjoy its harmonizing and boosting effects.

When it comes to self-love there is no better combination than jasmine, rose and neroli. These three highly revered oils have a vibrational energy and powerful synergistic effect like no other. Whilst they may have a high price tag only a very small amount is required for desired results.

There is nothing quite like the intoxicating effects of this precious oil when it comes to love-making and a feeling of optimism.

Jasmine Aroma Card:

I am living gently by releasing the past, allowing the future and trusting my ability to connect to, and transform, the deeper aspects of self.

You can get pure organic Jasmine right here

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“What’s happening right now is very difficult, but again I find my peace within and also within my beautiful forest, which I’ve got next to my house. I walk in my forest every single day with my dog Shanti and that’s where I feel at peace. So it’s similar actually I was thinking about it the other day, it reminds me when I was younger I was doing the same thing, finding peace in nature. And now I am doing the same thing. I’m trying not to get trapped in the current situation and be angry about it because it is what it is, I don’t like it. But I definitely find peace in nature.” Gosia Kuszewski

Born and raised in Poland Gosia Kuszewski arrived in Australia at 19years of age and decided she loved it so much she was not returning. Growing up in Poland, her family was poor, but she fondly remembers her life was also really simple. Everyone cooked together and from scratch, there were no fast-food outlets or big distractions. And even though it was very grey and very cold and windy, she always felt free and unstoppable especially when she was in nature.

As you can imagine freedom means everything to Gosia and she admits she has always had a hard time with any restrictions or being told what to do. When she decides to do something, she just goes for it. She actually believes she was born this way. She has always questioned and challenged everything. She knew she had an inner strength and was always interested in looking at different perspectives. She loves to research and look at second opinions, she appreciates a different point of view and to always see another side.

No matter how strict Gosia’s parents were, she always wanted the opposite of what they insisted on so on the question of nature vs nurture Gosia firmly believes she was simply born this way!

Straight up we discuss then how today’s world, and all the mandates, rules and restrictions are affecting her. She admits it is very difficult, but it is what it is right now. This is why she loves to be in the forest right next to her home and take her wee dog Shanti for long walks. She says it’s the same as when she was a little girl throwing cherry pips from the top of a tree that she feels so free there, in nature.

Her love of natural therapies began when she had skin problems including acne as a young teen. She was prescribed antibiotics and her skin cleared. However, when she stopped the antibiotics, the acne came back. This created big problems for her gut. She researched all about herbs, digestion, herbs and how the body works in the library as she studied English. She was brought up using natural medicine, so this was not foreign to her.

She attained her degree at the Southern School Of Natural Therapies after 5 years of study. Her mission in life is to continue her destiny and with her love of researching and diving into information she is continuously trying to understand the problems at a deeper level.

She laughs and says her two children were her guinea pigs. She gave them herbs when there were problems, she treated them herself and did things that these days that could even be seen as old fashioned. She never panicked when they were sick. She trusted her innate knowledge and believed that the natural methods were what she needed to apply.

She fought constantly to not vaccinate her children, even though everyone around her were telling her she was crazy. But she stuck to her guns and feels very proud for those decisions today.

This leads us into discussing the topic of today’s dilemma around the Covid-19 vaccine. Gosia explains we all have very magnificent bodies with very good immune system if we take care of it. Our body is designed to fight diseases and the various pathogens and diseases. If we look after the body well, we know it is well-equipped to deal with most things it is faced with. Our immune system is very clever and capable, we have an innate intelligence and we need to trust that more.

She has also seen the other side of vaccines having dealt with many mothers of children that have been injured by them. But she insists everyone needs to make the best decisions for themselves.

She does have a hesitancy regarding the Covid vaccines and also appreciates how divided the world has become because of them. But she is adamant as a health care provider how important it is that she speaks her truth. Gosia has seen enough ill-effects of this vaccine in her clinic to suggest it is not the best thing right now even though doctors are completely denying the adverse affects, she is adamant they are happening. She feels taking this vaccine is basically Russian roulette. It is risky. Better still just know how smart your immune system is.

She is disappointed that main stream media and doctors are not talking about the natural immune boosters and how well-equipped our bodies are at fighting disease and viruses. Things like connecting with nature, taking Vit D, getting into the sun, boosting the body with zinc, Ivermectin or Hydroxychloroquine, which are known to help the covid virus.

She also understands many take the vaccine as they want it all to be over and to get back to how life was. But sadly, no matter how compliant, it does not seem to be how things are playing out right now.

If feeling challenged or worried she advises us to live in the moment and bring more peace in our heart as the most important thing as well as living with gratitude. Gosia has learned to appreciate things right to the core. Gratitude is what she believes can help us all through difficult situations like right now. Instead of seeing all the adversity she is constantly reminded of the things she is so grateful for. She says to always look for something positive, this is key. Gratitude can certainly help you to stay on top of things.

Gosia says the biggest contributors to dis-ease and not being at our best is due to the biggest problems of all and that is stress and anxiety. She uses medical cannabis with great effect to relieve anxiety, stress, lack of sleep, aches and pains, poor digestion, lowered immunity and is incredibly impressed with the results of this remarkable herb.

Her suggestion to reduce stress, anxiety and depression or fears about the future is to connect with nature. It is free to everyone and available to everyone at all times. We do not realise how potent being in nature is for the mind, body and soul.

Nature can make you feel calm and uplifted, it can make you smile she says. It is an amazing, beautiful environment that makes you feel good and feel like nothing is a problem. When feeling stressed or anxious this is the most important place to visit, maybe the beach, a forest, mountain, or use plants in the home if in the city, or watch amazing nature documentaries… and of course using your imagination listening to the sounds of nature. It is free, available, pleasurable and easy!

Back to medical cannabis and CBD oil, Gosia wants us to know it is incredibly potent and beneficial to calm our nerves with amazing properties that the human body responds so well to. It is exceptional for anxiety, cancer, inflammation, skin conditions even digestive issues, as you heal one thing you realise all things are connected. In Gosia’s humble opinion she believes it is the one product in all her 25 years that has had the most incredible impact in so many ways.

You can see why Gosia Kuszewski is a dynamic and in demand Naturopath who simply loves life and people. She is truly committed to her patients to achieve the best possible outcome.

Gosia has since assisted thousands of people to successfully heal from various health problems, including cancer and a variety of serious chronic diseases.

Her speciality is Live Blood Analysis and supporting healing on a cellular level which allows her to understand the underlying cause of health problems. She believes that without finding the underlying issue, we cannot truly heal, because we are only putting on band aid and treating the symptom, rather than the cause.

And she explains how Live Blood Analysis works and how much information she can ascertain with her clients from this approach. It is very visual and gives an instant snapshot into the present moment.

We talk about detoxification and the power of taking care of our amazing liver as well as honouring the lymphatic system. We need to take care of what we put in our mouth. There is no point taking herbs and supplements if we are eating the wrong foods including gluten and dairy, additives, sugar… She recommends live foods, vegetables and fruits, nuts and seeds, small amounts of protein and fasting.

Gosia loves the infrared sauna and cold baths too as well as the power of drinking plenty of water, eating more alkaline foods and specialised herbs for greater health. Health is not just one thing and great health is also about relaxation, breathwork, water, nutrition, laughter, sunlight, feeling good and grounding.

Gosia’s business – Detoxhouse – specializes in detoxification as it’s an absolute priority in healing our bodies, and her special interest is helping people lose weight. She has a highly successful Fat Burning Program which guides people on their weight loss journey, quickly and easily.

Her definition of Self Love is taking care of yourself on every level, physical, mental health, spirituality, looking after yourself well. And it is about accepting yourself with all your flaws. Surround yourself with beautiful inspiring people that helps to create a safe and beautiful and loving environment. Expand the self-love to others like your children, partner, clients, family. Share that love all around you and being in service to others.

Her final message is around the quote life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. It is up to us in how we see the world and how we react to the world right here right now.

Her favourite quote is: Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

Links to follow:

Website: https://detoxhouse.com.au/

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There’s a simple concept called The Knowledge Pie. You probably already understand that you know what you know and you know that within what you know there is even more to know. And you also probably also appreciate that there is a whole lot that you know you don’t know that maybe there’s parts you’d even like to get to know. This is fantastic to know… but it could also be one of our greatest limiting factors. After all there is a whole lot you don’t know that you don’t even know!

You see there’s another piece of the knowledge pie that many may not give enough consideration to. There is actually three parts to this knowledge pie!

It’s a bit of a mind bender really because if you did know what you didn’t know then that would actually move to the second piece of the pie – what you know you don’t know.

Here’s an example to better explain: I am an aromatherapist and a business owner, I know how to do aromatherapy and provide amazing organic oils for my customer. I also know that I do not know how to do my end of year financial return the way my account does… or for that matter orthopaedic surgery or how to fly a rocket to the moon.

However, there is a whole lot of information about organic farming, or financial literacy or my mindset around these things that could indeed improve all that I do. And if I did it could help to streamline or perhaps even help make my business life less stressful and more successful. You see…

Many people think this ‘cluelessness’ is a lack of experience thing that affects just young people… but EVERYONE, even experts, are completely unaware of what they don’t know that they don’t know.

Imagine the average pie for any person… yours could be gluten free lemon meringue or chicken and leek – it’s up to you. Now, cut your pie in half and cut one half in half again (creating two quarters). One quarter represents what you know, one quarter represents what you know you don’t know, and the half represents what you don’t even know that you don’t know.

So how can you learn about what you don’t know, even know that you don’t know?

Here’s a few tips on how you might be able grow your knowledge over this coming next year:

1. Enrol in that program you have always thought about doing.

Growing your knowledge can grow your life, enhance relationships and expand your business. The fact is that for all of us there is much more that we don’t even know we don’t know than what we actually know. Breathe. It’s ok. It is important to know that we will be more successful in life and business if we remain open to new learning, and learning extensions and distinctions on what we already know.

Avoid having an ‘I know’ mentality about the things you do know about. Some people close their minds when hearing about a topic they have knowledge of. They may assume that they know it all. But we can always know more… and if we shut ourselves down to new learning, we could miss an important distinction that could make a big difference.

Just ASK! I love the acronym for ASK – Always Seek Knowledge!

And remember… as your knowledge increases your wonder and curiosity and potentiality deepens. Stay curious to learning there is so much you don’t know you don’t even know!

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“Every experience in our life teaches us something. And whether it is positive or not positive or traumatic it teaches us something. If our lives were just like you know smooth and easy and happy and joyful, we would learn stuff for sure but it’s the crap in our life that we learn the most from. And is shows us who we are as people. And it really highlights emotional resilience and how we can step over the things and survive them and build something new.” Elle Crawford

This beautiful soul has an incredible story. Eleanor Crawford has had a long and twisting journey that really started at 17 years of age. The youngest of seven kids Elle’s idyllic life was sent on a completely different path when her parents separated. She did not know how to deal with the heartache of this or the heart break of her mum and felt so broken she literally ran away. One moment her dad was her hero and suddenly he wasn’t.

She ran to the country and aged 20 she married. She thought that was what you did when someone asked you! She had a son and then her second child Chloe was born when she was just 24years of age. Sadly, at 17mths of age Chloe was diagnosed with a liver tumour. This led to a huge amount of stress and worry, from countless medications to chemo to radiation treatments. Elle said the way her little girl managed this crisis was both inspiring and heart breaking.

Elle’s marriage was on the rocks at the time. But during Chloe’s care they decided to have another child. At 35 weeks pregnant Chloe had a life-saving liver transplant. And even though they played happy families for a while Elle decided to leave her marriage when her baby turned one.

At 28 Elle found herself a single mum with 3 children but she was happy, working and things were going well. That was until Chloe got seriously unwell again at 12 years of age where they were told she needed another liver transplant. After many years of ill health they also discovered she had terminal bowel cancer. Elle fought all authorities to get her girl home and won. She had Chloe home for 36 hours before she passed away.

Losing a child has certainly been the biggest event in her life and Elle knows other amazing parents who have lost a child knowing it is a completely unique journey for everyone. For Elle, it was the biggest emotional and personal development program she’d ever been through and throughout that time discovered she did not like herself very much at all.

Elle was presented with the book ‘Seat Of The Soul’ by Gary Zukav and found the greatest message she took from it was we are all spiritual beings having a physical experience. This took her on a journey of self-discovery and led her to Dr Wayne Dyer’s book ‘There’s A Spiritual Solution To Every Problem’. These were a couple of amazing leaders who supported her through hugely challenging and growing times.

She was left grieving the loss of her child but also relieved of the care of a chronically ill child. At 35 she realised she had never been young free and fun. Her therapist told her to get dating. In this process she met her second husband, thanks to being a facilitator for Bob Proctor (who coincidentally passed away the day we recorded this podcast).

She loved this man but found it wasn’t the relationship she was truly seeking. She knew their values were very different. What was special was that they had a child together who was born on the exact same day as her sweet Chloe. Elle felt Chloe was giving her an opportunity to have another child and it has become a beautiful day honouring her birthday twins.

Just before Elle turned 50 she met her third husband. She did not have the awareness of how broken she really was or if this was exactly what she wanted. She realised she was looking for something externally to fix her broken heart and has since learned how much this doesn’t work.

Elle explains how disempowered she felt before understanding her own boundaries. She knows this was all related to trauma from her past including many punctuated times of death and loss. Grief has been her side kick.

It wasn’t until she studied NLP and was really honest and transparent with herself that she realised how broken she truly was. Her inner world was simply a reflection of her external world and not the other way around.

Elle openly discusses how her role as a parent has evolved and shares how important it is for parents to be ‘in the work’ and acknowledge and express their emotions. Show your children it is actually ok to have emotions, she says. Talk about anything, know it is awesome to do this. She believes it is important to be open, honest and real.

Elle has learned there are always gifts in trauma as hard as it might be when you are in the throes of it. Every experience in our life teaches us something. It’s the crap in our lives that teaches us the most. It may not feel like that in the moment, but we do get the opportunity to live and experience and build emotional resilience. It is through life’s shit storms that there is a gift, you just have to look for it and it will come to you.

To get through these times, Elle believes you have to want to be a better version of yourself and to grow through what you go through. It is a deeper desire for more expansion. Your personal reality is a reflection of your personality. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. How we do one thing we do everything.

Awareness is key. You have to be aware of who you are as a person and be really honest. We are not Saints, and we are not perfect so be transparent and love yourself anyway. We are all doing the best we can with what we have and the resources we have. Life does not come with a handbook. It does take honesty and transparency. That is the hardest thing. Listen to your heart and intuition. Your conscious mind may send you in the wrong direction but your heart and intuition wont.

As a parent Elle believes it is imperative you remain open with your kids. And be human. Acknowledge your emotions and feelings. Your kids are way smarter than you give them credit for. They are on your side, on your team. Be honest.

It is hard to take advice from someone who has broken your heart. If you are more emotionally aware though you can listen in spite of that and things may turn out differently. It is important that when you communicate with someone you take a lot of self-responsibility and use ‘I’ language not ‘you’ language.

As a Coach many are hugely curious and have experienced a lot of hardship and challenge themselves. They have been in seek of the work. The amazing thing about clients that want to see or are led to see a Coach is that they themselves want to change and are seeking support to do so. It is about going gently. And dong it with empathy and compassion for yourself.

Rather than being at the mercy of your emotions realising you are the creator as the experiencer and observer. Every event is actually neutral, until we put meaning on it. Your emotions get tied to the event as you perceive it. This means you also have the power to get out of it. Dr Joe Dispenza calls it refractory emotion. If that emotion is suppressed you will get more experiences until you learn how to release it.

We rely solely on the unconscious mind until we reach 7 years of age when the critical faculty comes into play. They are simply ‘feeling beings’, big sponges. Whatever we are told, or experience gets stored and drives behaviours as we grow. So much conditioning from that time sets up our mindset, how we think about ourselves, other people, culture. If we are not taught how to express our emotions, they get stored… and then you may find you have a knee jerk reaction and wonder where the hell that came from? Our mind is 95% unconscious. Most people think the conscious mind is the boss but it is actually the other way round.

The Unconscious Mind is the control room of our whole life. And when you understand that you have a completely different viewpoint. Hypnosis helps you to release any long held repressed emotions.

The body is a vessel for our emotions too. If the body is out of balance because the emotions are out of balance the body has to communicate it to us somehow. It will show up as pain, disease, whispers. Stress is the biggest cause of ill health and is related to a litany of dis-ease.

In an understanding of the whole… Elle says I am you and you are I. We all come from the same source.

Elle has a beautiful community called the Diva’s International Club. When women get together in a community with a similar thread of experience and they see other women who have experienced and ‘sur-thrived’, it gives hope and inspiration to do the same for themselves. It is for women who have been through heartbreak, separation, grief and divorce. It allows you to show up and get rid of comparison and allow growth and achievement.

Her definition of Self Love is seeing it as the umbrella of a number of things including self-care, compassion, acceptance and boundaries. It is about allowing yourself to love those whose values align. It is about looking after yourself, not just your physicality, it is the essence of yourself. Accepting what you can. Change it if you want. Or accept and love all of you in the best way you can. She believes the key is nourishing your body, drinking water, rest, sleep, sunshine and nature.

Elle’s final message is that we need to understand it is a perfectly ordered world. However it happens, is perfect for the now. Happiness thrives from happiness. Be present. Be in the now. Don’t get hooked into the emotions from the past. All the power and empowerment comes from the NOW. Right now is all that matters. Be present, give yourself time. Meditation is key to be in the now. Don’t be held back from the past. Everything happens in perfect order.

Her favourite quote is from Dr Joe Dispenza:

‘Gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership.’

Eleanor Crawford is an Emotional Balance Coach specializing in helping women who are experiencing heartbreak, separation or divorce. Elle’s is a qualified clinical hypnotherapist and master practitioner in NLP and brings a wealth of experience and expertise to support her clients navigate their challenges with emotional & mental awareness & expansion. Elle also runs events under her Divas International Club banner including lunches and retreat days for women wanting community, connection, self-care and education.

In her spare time, Elle loves hanging out with her sons and grandsons and walking her beloved Lexy dog on the beach. Her life goal is to travel around Australia supporting women through coaching and education.

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Website: https://www.eleanorcrawford.com/

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‘It’s about everybody feeling included in the community, because we know that the most important factor in a student’s wellbeing journey is the wellbeing of the parents. We cannot ignore that fact. Like that is so important. So that’s where I think schools have the opportunity to be a community of learning where they can provide learning, not just for the students but for parents and for the teachers, for everybody to continue to learn and grow.’

Meg Durham is a wellness speaker, educator and coach. She is known for bringing out the best in others. She is an expert in the area of wellbeing education and wellbeing coaching. Meg has a unique skill set that she has developed from working in a variety of teaching roles across Australia and now heads Open Minded Education.

It was inevitable that Meg Durham would become a teacher. Being the youngest of four children, and because she was the baby, the golden child, she played a lot of schools growing up. This led to a genuine love of educating and her dream of being a real teacher came true. But as Meg explains, nothing can prepare you for that first week of your first job as a teacher. The intensity of school was way bigger than she ever expected so her mission now is to focus on student, teacher and parent wellbeing.

Dealing with the number of issues that pop up that you have never come up against before was hugely confronting. The job is so big, and the problem is there is no preparation for the human element of being a teacher.

Meg said she was prepared with the academic content as a science and PE teacher but was not taught how to deal with the human content, with young people’s lives, parents who are breaking and crying, going through transitions of separation or colleagues going through their own issues. It is incredibly hard to teach, and learn, with these challenges.

This rather confronting introduction to teacher life forced Meg to believe there had to be a better way. Surely there were skills and strategies she could learn. She was so frustrated she decided to go on and study her Masters in Student Wellbeing. She realised how much more there was for teachers, parents and students to live well.

An interesting point Meg makes is that school has not necessarily served everyone she knows. Some of the people she looks up to the most are in fact school drop-outs. This got her even more curious to understand the layers and complexities of school. Everybody’s experience is so different.

Being a rural girl, she looks at schools in much the same way she looks at farms where the weather and soil effect everything. In context, if the school is the farm, leadership is the weather and staff are the soil, then this is what creates the kind of environment for the students. The student will then have the opportunity to thrive, or not, based on this environment.

Every school and every classroom is so different and yet Meg believes there is still a lot of work to be done in the wellbeing space. Schools are not there to just give out information. We have come from the origin where the teacher was the font of all knowledge. There was no internet or You Tube. Teachers had the information and students had to listen. And if students didn’t listen there was a physical punishment. It was very much a power over model.

We have come so far in many ways, but we still need to honour the human element, give students power, walk with them in a shared learning experience and get the work done that needs to be done.

One of the silver linings of covid is the idea around student wellbeing. How to help students with their life at school and outside of school is becoming more and more important.

A school is a system and every human in that system has an impact which creates a ripple effect. The Principal’s impact can be huge. It can be incredible or detrimental depending on their leadership ability. Meg believes true leadership needs to be led with the head and heart not just the head and when students are feeling well, they respond so much better. The best Principals have the biggest and best impact.

The greatest schools create a great community too. Parents working with teachers, teachers working with leadership instead of us versus them. Everyone in the community needs to feel a part of this community. Schools have the opportunity to be a community of learning.

Dynamics have really caused disruption in the system, but it is important to note everyone is doing the best they can in that moment. When this happens, we need to get curious around why that behaviour is being shown whether it is the student, parent or teacher. It is part of human nature.

If we can get to the point where we can acknowledge, accept and show compassion to each other then, that will be a good thing. We have to remember we are all on the same team, all there for the benefits of young people, to educate the future to create a future, to prepare these young people for life. We are not there to protect them from life, we are there to prepare them for life.

The 5 P’s For Preparation For Life

We talk about how to prepare our students to be better, by acknowledging we ourselves need to be better parents. It starts with how parents are taking care of themselves. Living the way they want their children to live their lives and not sacrificing their needs, desires and wants in order to just serve them.

When they do, children look to their parents and don’t want to be adults. They don’t want that life and question why they would want that? Parents need to take care, get to know and honour themselves… this is key. Parents need to be the role model.

To stay on top of this everything comes back to the Battery strategy. Depending on the answers to these 5 questions will highlight how you are feeling, functioning and relating on any given day.

In the last 24 hours answer these questions:

The battery is vital. If we want to prepare our young people for life, we need to take care of ourselves better and show them how to recharge the battery daily and live well with amazing energy.

A lot of the things we do that are good for us require that energy and we need to take care of ourselves so we can move through the pleasures and discomforts of life.

If we can get young people feeling good and energetic and hopeful about the future their world literally opens up. Meg believes it is important to charge your energy so you can charge your life and your children’s.

Meg runs ‘Mind Fit’ and ‘Thrive By Design’ Programs for teachers and parents which are available here for more information: https://openmindeducation.com/#services

Supporting parents means normalising the struggle, realising that no one is perfect. Parenting is so hard, there are brutal moments. Meg believes it is important for parents to connect, share, laugh and learn together too.

We talk about the kids who are struggling at school. Meg says trauma informed behaviour is a message that these kids are more likely feeling the effects of being:

Kids need to feel connected to their body and notice when they are stressed and also when they are calm. Bringing these physical elements together with the wellbeing space helps these beautiful kids to have the opportunity to heal, learn and thrive.

Meg states there is no school without issues. If we can work in a way that supports our young people, then it will be a whole lot better. It is important to build the trust and believe in them with unconditional positive regard, that they, as a human, are ok and worthy and loveable.

The impact of teachers themselves is profound. But there are a lot of teachers questioning if they can keep going, handle the intensity, adapt with covid and manage feeling the pressure. There are a whole cohort of teachers questioning if this is really for them which is really sad according to Meg.

She says there are 3 pillars to continue taking the Wellbeing steps:

A good teacher is always available. Teachers who are energised have clarity and vision. We can build a community of energised educators that change lives.

On the topic of home schooling it has been proven our youngest students do well at home, however our adolescence are not designed to be in small spaces with adults. During Covid our teens have had their wings clipped and there is going to be an amazing adjustment as we navigate our way out of this. There will be a rapid catch up and it is important we are open to what to do.

We have to question if this is indeed the right thing for us to consider. We need to ask if this is going to work for the parents. If it doesn’t work for the parents, it will not work for the children. Is it financially possible to home school? This is why the school system, regardless of its challenges, allows parents to work if they choose. You just need to ask the question… can you home school in a way that serves everybody?

Meg’s definition of Self Love is knowing it is a process of getting to know yourself, accepting yourself – who you were, who you are and who you are becoming – and appreciating yourself. Your love is not determined by what you produce or get done on your to-do list. It starts with liking yourself. Honour yourself, care for yourself, listen to the whispers and honour them. It sounds easy… regard yourself, respect yourself, take care of yourself… and yet it can be really hard and complex especially when marinating in a system and culture that to love yourself is arrogant. We have to move beyond that.

We openly discuss the huge topic of technology and social media. No one is immune to the pull of technology. There are parts that are beautiful with connection and openness and seeing different people in the world. In previous generations you only saw what you saw. However, the challenges of comparison and not being good enough can be incredibly difficult to understand for anyone let alone young people.

Brene Brown talks about the difference between fitting in and belonging.

There are strengths and challenges, but it is more around the how, when and why they are using technology that should be addressed. It is also most challenging when we as parents are exhausted and depleted.

Technology feels good in the moment, explains Meg, but it’s a bit like sugar, you feel the urge and crave the temporary buzz. And then the drop is much the same as a sugar fix. Start to notice out of all your technology what is the trigger? Is it your emails? For kids it could be Tik Tok? Technology is part of the attention economy. In order to reclaim our own attention we need to get back to the basics, and recharge the battery, doing the best with what we’ve got and role modelling the behaviour we prefer.

Technology also takes us away from meaningful connection and what we need to do. Become more mindful of your own use of technology.

We go back to the conversation around how we punished in school in decades gone by. It was acceptable to hit children, it was the norm. But we have learned now it is not helpful, it is really corrosive to relationships, and relationships are the foundation of learning. Physical punishment is not the answer.

When young people behave inappropriately, we as adults and teachers can all get into the soup of fear and shut it down. There are some who just fall apart and please their way out of it too. Neither serve anyone.

To get the best out of young people it is having that firmness with boundaries but also that kindness, that you are human. Addressing the behaviour without disrupting the relationship takes practice.

We talk about vulnerability and open-hearted conversations and how we can do so much better when we are authentic and show up the best way we can. We talk about male teachers and the wellbeing space for both male and female teachers who have such a high emotional labour.

We also talk about homework… that everlasting bug bear for so many students and parents!

Meg’s final message is to keep listening to the whispers, your body and heart knows what it yearns for, take courageous action. Keep showing up. Greatness requires consistency. Consistency requires courage.

Her favourite quote is: If it is meant to be it is up to me.

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The concept of living above the line and below the line is one of the most fundamental concepts in conscious living. When we are below the line we are often closed, defensive, and committed to being right. On the contrary, when we are living above the line we are more open, curious, and committed to learning. In this podcast we look at how we can make an effort to live more above the line.

Below the line behaviours often show up as a victimhood mentality or failure to take personal responsibility. When someone operates from below the line they view life through the lens of a victim, always being at the affect of life and interpreting it through a “to me” lens.

They are closed, defensive, and committed to being right. Below the line behaviours are common, in fact it is actually the default state of being for almost everyone. Because we’re so committed to being right, we can even fool ourselves into thinking that we’re above the line when we’re actually below the line!

When we’re below the line, we view ourselves as a victim and don’t take personal responsibility for our actions.This manifests itself in the below the line behaviours of denying, blaming, and making excuses which are all part of an attempt for our ego to defend itself by being right. This creates a negative feedback loop where our below the line behaviours influence our below the line thoughts, and vice versa.

Below the line thinking often shows up in our desire to be right. Being right allows us to protect our ego, which satisfies our survival instincts. Below the line behaviours typically lead to several ways of thinking or finding yourself saying things like:

It’s not my fault

Sadly below the line behaviours and thinking do nothing to contribute to our success and joy. They distort our view of reality and hinder us from achieving our true potential.

Above the line behaviours show a real openness, a security in one’s self, and the taking on of personal responsibility. When someone operates from above the line they view life through the lens of a creator, as someone who is able to impact and learn from their environment, interpreting life through a “by me” lens.

They are more open, curious, and committed to learning. Above the line behaviour doesn’t necessarily come naturally to us, because we have to work hard to achieve above the line thinking and above the line behaviour. When we do though, above the line behaviour is about taking ownership, accountability, and responsibility for one’s actions.

Above the line thinking is best exemplified in our openness and eagerness to learn. When not hindered by the urge to defend our ego and always be right, we are able to investigate the world and our own actions with curiosity and joy. We have the freedom to critique and look into our own words and actions because we aren’t threatened by the possibility of being wrong. With this perspective in mind, above the line behaviours often play out with thinking in ways like:

What did I do to contribute to this?

Above the line behaviours and thinking encourage and empower us to ask questions we might not like the answers to, but whose answers will ultimately help us.

Asking questions is evidence of above the line behaviour that transforms both personal relationships and large organizations. Just as below the line behaviour and thinking results in a negative feedback loop, above the line behaviour and thinking results in a positive feedback loop. Its impact snowballs and grows exponentially with time, which inevitably can take us from good to better to great!

Above the line behaviour means being open, curious, and committed to learning, and nearly all situations can be improved by approaching them with this perspective in mind.

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‘When we say we don’t have a second chance, there’s a very big variable in that and a very big grey area. There’s always the chance to evolve and grow, it’s whether we are able to hear it and to embrace that and to get the message that’s embedded in the experience. We generally are quite resistant to change. There’s a beautiful quote from my meditation teacher, ‘Suffering is proportional to our resistance to change. And happiness is proportional to our ability to embrace change.’

Tom Cronin is known as the King of Calm! But life has not always been this way, and it has taken him a lot of internal work to claim this title.

If you picture the ‘Wolf of Wall Street’ you will picture his previous life. As a broker in finance his life was highly stimulating filled with not only the pressures of the job but the culture in the job which included lots of drugs, drinking, late nights and partying. So, these compounding layers of hyperstimulation eventually lead to him becoming a complete nervous wreck. He experienced nervous anxiety, panic attacks and insomnia which culminated into a deep dark depression and eventually a nervous breakdown.

This was a critical turning point, where it could be seen as a break down or break through moment. It was a phenomenal shift. He discovered meditation and eastern philosophy and really dove deep into the nature of the mind, the nervous system and the body and what it took to have optimal health. This meant mental and physical health where so much goes through the mind.

Tom has come to realise that anyone going through a breakdown or crisis moment there is nothing that is not supporting you, it is a deep evolutionary process. We can ask the question how is this guiding me? How is this helping me? How is this helping me to progress forward?

By nature, Tom is a Mr Fix-It? He did not realise he had such a big a problem until he hit this breakdown moment. He assumed he was capable and coping with this life, so the Universe had to make it bad enough for him to wake up and guide him forward. To make him realise his what he is here to do and what his full potential was.

He ignored it and was in a constant state of sensory pleasures and ego delights and eventually the Universe, which is a beautiful, guiding, maternal, clever force of intelligence that is always trying to support and help us, made it worse until he realised there was a problem. When he realised there was a problem that was when he started to look for solutions. Pain is actually an intelligent system to help us move forward and progress.

There is a chance there for all of us… A Rishi, a wise one… says ‘You do not need cataclysmic events but just tiny intuitive hints.’ It is this intuitive pre-emptive capacity to see that helps us to see more. Life is a constant meandering process, and it is our resistance to the meander that causes suffering.

This journey, this deep dive into what it all means inspired Tom to create the film The Portal which is available to watch here: https://entertheportal.com/

Tom says, ‘We are in a vast epoch of time that is an evolutionary sequence of realising the greater awareness and truth. Being free of the ignorance which is a by-product of suffering. We will eventually move into a time of greater consciousness, but we are not quite there yet.’ With two 19year olds Tom believes children are going through their own transformation quicker than we ever have. They get it more quickly.

We talk around the idea of nature vs nurture and Tom gives beautiful examples of how we can understand the whole chicken or the egg process. He believes maybe it is both. Souls choose their journey in accordance to previous experiences. There are 100 million people on the Calm app which was not there so long ago. We are seeing a vast rapid expansion of the mind for many in today’s time.

We talk about the idea of ‘practice’ and Tom describes Sadhana a daily routine to make the play of life better. Things like practicing journaling, yoga, meditation, eating well are all daily routines that help us to play the game of life at a better and more enhanced level.

As already stated, it was an immense suffering period during his breakdown with extreme anxiety, depression and panic attacks Tom explains that was a shift that caused him to look at what he was doing. The Universe divinely sent a documentary on a business operator meditating and this was his light bulb moment.

He researched many different forms of meditation and found the idea of transcending was going to become an essential part of his day. He explains how he allocated his time towards with 24 hours a day, 72 x 22 mins portion of time and like all of us to find fulfilment through an experience or an acquisition.

He realised what he was looking for in fulfilment in the wrong places was not being found and realised he had to look within. It wasn’t until he did the in-quiry to enquire and question inwardly, through the meditation experience to find truth, bliss and joy which he found was also innate.

Due to the process of enquiry a child will be raised to know what the McDonalds arches are before they understand their surname as opposed to in-quire.

We talk about spiritual capitalism. This is a time when spirituality meets Western culture and capitalism. In only the last 30-40 years have we seen this integrate into the household. It is a new phenomenon. They are not two separate things. Spirituality and money are not separate, it is really just expression and manifestation of formless into form.

A lot of us are carrying a deep code around lack and fear of not having enough. It is an amazing time to be in the world to see how careers and life purpose and spirituality is a new frontier that we are all trying to work out now.

We talk about how do we possibly put a price on the kind of work Tom does, understanding the consciousness and opening of our hearts, minds and souls? How do we value spirituality? And this work? What we are trying to do is to put a value on what we are offering. Tom explains his kind of service with his business coaching clients. A dentist, lawyer, consultant can do it, so in a sense he is packaging up in bundles of time and experience something that provides fulfilment and enhancement of life.

We talk about the idea of belonging and tribal culture and passing on tribal wisdom. We also have to acknowledge we are in a very different world explains Tom. We cannot rely on our own small tribe as it will limit our capacity to learn. We do not have individual tribes anymore, we have one tribe. So, we can outsource what we want to learn from other people. We are seeing a niching down of knowledge acquisition into a self-paced learning style in a global tribe which allows us to seek the information we are after.

We of course, talk Covid. There is a concentration of media to heighten a certain situation and for whatever reason that is happening is for each person to discern and work out. Tom describes his parents watching four different news channels. It was night after night after night that there was the repetition of the same story. Using sensational bold and bright news information with repetition of the fear and chaos and trauma. We are seeing a concentration of that information flow. This creates a mass formation which affects psychology based upon marketing and media. Who has the most money? Coca Cola spends $300m a year telling us theirs is the best.

Tom explains the power and frequency of love. The thing that is missing is the essence of being which is love which is something that already exists. If we look at the short amount of time that humans are on this planet using words and then to describe the power of what this four-letter word of love means. There is complexity. In the unbound and formless there is a chance to find the simplicity in the complexity.

Love is something we need to realise is the very essence of our being. Within that complexity is all sorts of a myriad of sensations and emotions that arise with different viewpoints. There are times for various responses in amongst all of this. There is a disconnect of what is inherently us and a disconnect and how we interact in the world.

His definition of Self Love is like the wave looking for the ocean. It’s not that we need to find love, we need to realise that we are love. Self-love is the awakening to the Self (the unbounded nature of your divine quality which is ultimately love). Love is Self and Self is love, the embodiment of love.

Tom’s work is incredible and he wanted to share his message with the world when he came out of finance. He wrote 6 books, created an app, ran retreats, online program taught workshops… so many ways he wanted to get his message out there. He got lured into the entrepreneurial world. He got carried away. The film was a big journey. It was a 9-year process getting it out to the world. Like ‘The Secret’ he wanted to get the message of The Portal out into millions of households. Here is the link to watch it:  www.entertheportal.com

It was his intention and passion to create this film for many years. He accepts he is also quite stubborn and finishing the project and fulfilling that commitment was also to honour and respect the investors to ensure it was completed.

To summarise this film it is the ability to free ourselves of suffering which comes through this portal into stillness into the state of realisation the awareness of being. It is within us all. The meditation Tom teaches is one of the portals and gateways to what is already inherently within us. This is where we access wisdom, love, creativity and adaptability. Tom’s suffering came from not knowing how to get to that point and this is what has inspired him to help so many people.

A quote from Maharishi, ‘All that we are is a result of what we have thought. The mind is everything, what we think we become.’

Tom explains the intention of the meditation. The mind is the architect of our life. We cannot build a building without the design. A field of formlessness and intelligence with no form and structure. The thought is the first initial extraction point and the most subtle form before it is manifested into form. We need to get more intentional with our thoughts which allows us to be more intentional with our life.

The daily rituals Tom practices include working on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual areas:

• Reading positive books to elevate and inspire

His final message is wherever you are and whatever state you are in, it is changeable, and it is changeable for the better. And there are tools and guidance and systems that are here to help and support you. No matter what your experience keep asking how is this helping me, how is this supporting me, how is it part of my evolution as painful as this is? And being really open to listening in to the messages you get, either your own intuition or some other divine intervention.

The Universe is always here to support and guide and elevate and assist you. You came here in the manifestation of the divine to experience joy and delight and love of life. Try to find the lightness in living.

The dark night moments can be difficult and challenging and letting go is an ongoing process we will go through. Find support when you are and know that on the other side of that suffering and pain is the next level of being more awake, more aware, more loving, more gentle less attached and less conditioned by the past and programs.

Free 12 step guide from Tom – a practical process to reduce stress:

21 Day Meditation Program a very powerful ability to access these deep meditative experiences:

The Portal Film:

His favourite quote is a Sanskrit quote that means:

Established in being, perform action. This means to find fulfilment first within the state of being and then perform action from a state of fulfilment. We go into action to express fulfilment.

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Carl Jung said, ‘We cannot see the world as it is, but who we are.’ In this week’s quicky we explore what that means for each of us and how reality looks through our own eyes which is purely determined on how we perceive it. This one is a mind bender!

We have to remind ourselves the world is not the way it is, but what we are. In this Quicky we take a look at how your experience of the world is based on your internal representation, and how your personality will determine the reality you experience.

It might be hard to imagine we create our world but we just have to remember we are never passively perceiving the world we are actively generating it. It is all an hallucination let’s break that down… hell-ucination – it is hell until you shine a light on it. Now a lot of the hallucinations we have can be helpful but not all. And then we will delete, distort and generalise using our language on purpose for internal processing.

It’s just a quicky but a goodie, hope you enjoy! And if you like what you hear do not forget about our amazing Essential Self-Care Weekend on the 26-28 February all online and in the comfort of your own home or hotel room! Link below!

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