You’ve stopped the behavior. You’re going to the meetings. You’re doing everything the books and podcasts say to do. So why doesn’t your partner trust you yet?

In this honest and challenging conversation, we talk with Roland Cochrun, a recovery advocate and founder of SuccessfulAddict.com, about the biggest blind spots in early recovery—and why checking the right boxes doesn’t guarantee real change.

Roland shares his personal experience, the research behind what actually works, and why recovery must be more than just avoiding relapse. If you’ve ever felt stuck, discouraged, or unsure whether your progress is enough, this episode offers a much-needed reset.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [04:00] – The false sense of progress in early recovery—and why so many miss the bigger picture
⏳ [06:00] – The difference between sobriety and recovery (and why most guys confuse the two)
⏳ [09:30] – Why focusing only on stopping behaviors leads to high relapse rates
⏳ [12:30] – What betrayed partners are really asking for when they say, “You’re not trying hard enough”
⏳ [16:00] – Understanding process addiction and why porn or sex might not be the real issue
⏳ [19:50] – How to define “good recovery” and why most guys aren’t doing it
⏳ [32:30] – Why couples need a shared roadmap and how to build one together

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review—we’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

About Roland Cochrun:
Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a sex addiction recovery group designed specifically for high-achievers, executives, business professionals, and entrepreneurs. As a high-achiever and recovering addict himself, Roland found it very difficult to find like-minded men to connect with in recovery. The Successful Addict provides ambitious men with a deeply connected recovery group full of other successful professionals who are working hard to overcome their sex and porn addiction.

Roland is also the author of the book, The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery, and the host of The Sex Addiction Podcast for High-achievers and Entrepreneurs, which applies sobriety and recovery principles specifically to the mindset of the high-achiever. You can find out more about Roland's recovery groups at successfuladdict.com

Buy Roland's book on Amazon here: https://a.co/d/4BHcwu8
To join one of his recovery groups, go here: https://www.successfuladdict.com/
To listen to Roland's podcast, go here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sex-addiction-podcast-for-high-achievers/id1757165206
To access the "good recovery" checklist:
http://successfuladdict.com/goodrecovery

The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

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