Sex for Saints

A few weeks ago, we talked about prolonged arousal and I touched on sexual shame in men. I promised then that I'd do an entire episode about it because it isn't talked about much and needs to be talked about more. This is that episode. Sexual shame is one of the most powerful emotions we can experience, and when it's tied to something as personal and intimate as sexuality, the impact can be profound. In this episode, we're going to delve into this much needed topic and talk about what it is, how it manifests differently from women, the factors that contribute to it, and the steps men can take to heal. By talking about sexual shame in men, I hope to bring more light to it so those who are suffering can finally start to heal!

Valentine's Day is coming up! Does that thought fill you with excitement or dread? Often when we think about Valentine's Day, we dream up this scene straight from the movies and we are often disappointed by what actually happens. So this year, maybe we can prepare ourselves for Valentine's Day. I don't mean grand gestures or perfect plans, but shifting our attention to preparing ourselves - mind, body, and heart - for love and connection. Let's talk about how to do just that. Whether your relationship is thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, this episode is for you!

When we think about unconditional love, it always sounds romantic and exciting, right? We've all seen the romcoms where they have the kind of love that never falters, regardless of what happens. It's the idea that someone is loved completely, no matter their choices, behaviors, or circumstances. But in marriage, the idea of unconditional love should be more nuanced. It may seem wonderful on the big screen, but in reality, unconditional love in marriage is a partnership between two adults with needs, boundaries, and expectations. It isn't about tolerating harmful behavior or being a doormat. It's about striving to accept your partner as they are, flaws and all, while also keeping a hold of your sense of self and safety. In this episode, we're going to talk about what unconditional love should look like in marriage and how to achieve it.

Want to make your intimate moments last longer? In this episode, we're diving into the secrets of prolonging arousal for men, exploring everything from practical techniques and medication options to mindset shifts that can enhance your experience. We'll also tackle the deeper issues that can impact your ability to fully enjoy intimacy. If you've ever wished for a little more time in the heat of passion, this episode is a must-listen!

Have you ever found yourself wondering why your wife doesn't seem to be attracted to you? After all, you do everything you're "supposed" to do, you've been told it works, but she still doesn't seem interested. She still doesn't seem drawn to you. The spark still isn't there. She may even seem frustrated by your attempts to connect. Why? In this episode, I'm going to answer that question and help you find that connection with your spouse that you've been searching for.

When was the last time you felt alive in your marriage? Has it been a while? The longer we're married, the more sex can become something else on our to-do list. Something that needs to happen, but doesn't bring much joy. But sex can be so much more than just the physical urge to have sex. How? When we replace sexuality with eroticism, sex becomes a way to connect with your spouse, to enjoy each other more, to feel more alive. Curious? Listen as we discuss the difference between sexuality and eroticism and what it can do for you.

Men and women have been conditioned to think that the word "objectifying" is bad. True, it can feel unsettling but sexual relationships thrive when there is a sense of desire - a longing for one another that includes, but isn't limited to, physical attraction. So, how do we navigate the tension between desire and respect? How do we balance celebrating our spouse's physical presence without reducing them to just a body? That's what we're going to talk about today.

In this episode, I am going to explore the topic of Sexual Surrender. What does it mean to fully open up, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally with your spouse? Let's talk about what sexual surrender is, what it isn't, why it matters, and how you can gently encourage it within your marriage. It may sound intimidating at first, but it can be a doorway to a richer, more meaningful intimate relationship with your spouse.

As with most things, introverts and extroverts approach sex differently. Where introverts often prefer to have time to prepare, extroverts love spontaneity. So when an extrovert marries an introvert, there can often be hurt feelings and frustration with their sexual relationship. Let's talk about the differences with introverts and extroverts when it comes to sex, and how to navigate that relationship. Marriage isn't about changing each other, but coming to understand each person's needs. This is a great place to start.

We, as humans, are wired for connection, but connection, especially in marriage, is more than just a feeling. It's the thing that keeps us going through the inevitable ups and downs of marriage. Connection is what keeps us from "living separate lives." We often crave more connection, but we don't know how to get it. That's why in this episode, we're going to talk about why we need connection in our relationships and how to build that connection in different ways. You'll come away with actionable steps to get that connection you desire.