I think we have covered all the reasons we don’t want sex.  But have you ever wondered why people do have the desire for sex? It is more than for physical release, relief of stress or because we love someone.   According to one group of young adults, they noted up to 237 reasons for sex.. . .but there is actually just one main reason.  I will share that secret along with a few more that follow. I will also share some valuable information on the not-so-obvious differences between men and women when it comes to your sex life. If this is your first time here- welcome.  Get ready to learn and grow in your relationship like never before.

I am so excited to welcome Anjanette Ludwig to my podcast.  Anjanette is an amazing life coach helping moms and teens connect.  She is the life coach I hired to coach my own kids. . .and she is also my client.   I believe she has the secret many of us are missing in our relationships.   And if you are considering me as your coach, she will tell you more about how that has worked for her. This podcast will hit home to everyone, because it will benefit all relationships and connections.

Welcome to Sexual Communication Part 2.  Let's get back to where we left off last week.  Today I will share the very first communication skill you need in your marriage. It is a pre-requisite to the other 7 skills I am going to share with you.  It begins with figuring out what you need from your relationship and ends with having gratitude for what you already have.  Join me as we walk through each skill and how to obtain it.

Good sexual communication is an extension of good general communication, so let’s start there.  Often times the troubles we experience with our partners when it comes to sex, and just in general, stem from different communication styles. The ability to communicate clearly is an uncommon skill, and yet it’s the key to good relationships, including sexual ones. In this episode, find out the 4 most common faulty beliefs that keep us from having good sexual communication.

You asked for it - you got it.  To all of you women who are the higher desire partner - here you go. This podcast will go over emotional, physical and psychological reasons why your spouse may not have the same level of desire you do. We will discuss some underlying reasons that may be the culprit.  Some conditions may need to be addressed or you may just need to fill the gap between you with some conversation and understanding.  Whatever the reasons might be or whatever the distance of the gap between you, there are answers. There are solutions. 

Are you convinced your libido is shot? Do you feel like you have nothing left to give at the end of the day?  Stress, illness, medication, hormones or sheer exhaustion are all reasons you may feel like your sexual desire is not where you would like it.  This week on the podcast let’s discuss where your libido went and how to get it back. 

One topic I hear often from my clients is that their kids are ruining their sex life.  They are so exhuasted from being a mom, that sex is the last thing they want or have time for.  Today I have good news - it doesn’t have to be this way.  I am going to tell you why putting that relationship first is critical. I will teach you how to show your kids that you love them - but also show them that your spouse comes first. It is the best thing you can do for your kiddos.  If you are married with children - this podcast is not to be missed.

One of my favorite things I get to do is help women discover how they orgasm so they can experience greater pleasure in their sexual encounters and build a better sexual relationship with their spouse.  I will share two main reasons women don’t have orgasms and a few suggestions of ways to fix it.  This podcast is not only for those who can’t orgasm, but I also share ways to understand your body and some options to make a good sexual relationship even better.

Your brain probably tells you your husband just wants sex - and that it has very little to do with you.  What if you were wrong?  What if it actually does?  Today in the podcast, I am going to explain the difference between men and women in the way they express love and closeness.  Today is about cleaning up the thoughts around this. You might just feel a closer connection than ever before.

I am so excited to have Licensed Marriage  and Family Therapist and Author, Laura Brotherson join me on the podcast this week.  So much of what I have learned has been from Laura.  We will be answering the question of what exactly auditory arousal is and ways to access it.  Most importantly, we will discuss the benefits that take place with verbal communication during sex.

Simple words or phrases during lovemaking can bring in an entirely different dimension to your experience with your spouse. Learn how this can keep your busy and distracted brain engaged.

These small auditory sounds or words in the bedroom may take your sexual experience to a whole new level. 

So let’s do this.

Laura M. Brotherson, LMFT, CST, CFLE

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Therapist (CST), Laura M. Brotherson is the founder of The Marital Intimacy Institute with a mission to help couples create "sextraordinary" marriages. She counsels with individuals, couples and families in private practice (and online) and is passionate about helping couples navigate the intricacies of intimacy—specializing in healthy sexuality, sex therapy, and sex addiction. 

Laura shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as the author of the best-selling books, And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment, Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage, and her latest book From Honeymoon to Happily Ever After: 23 Keys to Prepare for a Sextraordinary Marriage.

As a Certified Family Life Educator (CFLE), Laura is also actively engaged in providing marriage education through Couples Cruises, articles, newsletters, radio and television broadcasts, “The Marital Intimacy Show” podcast, and presenting at conferences and workshops. Laura is a regular contributor to the KSL Television “Studio 5” morning show. She and her husband, Kevin, have been married 29 years, have three grown children and are the founders of StrengtheningMarriage.com — your trusted resource for education, products and services to strengthen marriages… intimately!