So the date’s going really well. The drinks are flowing, the laughter is effortless, the chemistry? Off the charts. One thing leads to another... and you sleep together.

Now you’re lying in bed, wondering: Was that a mistake?

Should you have waited? Does having sex so soon make you seem less serious—or just honest about your desires? Can it create real connection, or does it shut the door before anything deeper begins?

In this Language of Love Session, I  respond to a heartfelt question from Susie, who finds herself second-guessing her decision to have sex on the first date. I explore the emotional landmines of modern dating—especially in a world of ghosting, dating apps, and conflicting advice.

You will learn:

Why dating apps have changed the rules—and how to protect your heart

How delaying sex can reveal true intentions (without playing games)

What oxytocin does to your brain (and why it matters after sex)

The truth about “earning” intimacy—and how it builds mutual respect

Why your sexuality is a gift, and how to share it with intention

When first-date sex does work—and what to watch for if it doesn’t

If you’ve ever second-guessed sleeping with someone too soon—or felt like you gave too much too fast—this one’s for you. And if someone disappears after sex, I explain why that says everything about them, not you.

Have your own story to share or a question for Dr. Berman? Email [email protected]. You might hear it featured in a future session.

For more on navigating intimacy and dating with confidence, visit my website or check out my newest book, Sex Magic.

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